Title Mid-Autumn Festival sent mooncakes to my brother-in-law's house, and the unexpected response surprised me
I'm 46 years old, and I run a small burning shop in the provincial capital, and I don't have much left after deducting all the expenses every month.
Despite this, the time for starting a small business on your own is relatively relaxed, which is slightly better than a part-time job.
Last year, we just bought a small house, and we need to pay a monthly mortgage of 4,000 yuan, and the repayment date is the 20th of each month.
Thankfully, the income from the burn shop can help pay off the loan.
Last night I called my father-in-law and asked him what his family needed, and we planned to spend 8,000 yuan to buy gifts and go home on the morning of August 15.
But when my father-in-law heard that we were coming back for the holidays, he refused without hesitation.
He said he must not come back.
After my father-in-law explained, I felt sad and warm in my heart.
Why didn't my father-in-law let us go home?Last year, my husband and I closed our shop for the first day.
Since we were a little short on money to buy a house, we only bought 8 catties of mooncakes and two boxes of apples to bring back.
Actually, I didn't plan to go back to my hometown because life was very stressful, and I couldn't afford to buy decent gifts for my relatives and friends, for fear of being laughed at.
But the husband said that he hadn't been home for a long time, and that he should go back to see his father-in-law, regardless of whether he was rich or poor.
When our family of three arrived, my father-in-law was very happy.
He hurried into the kitchen and cooked us a few poached eggs so that we could fill our stomachs first.
I have a lot of respect for my father-in-law, and he gives me the feeling of a father.
When I got married, my mother-in-law had passed away and I never met her.
I've only seen my mother-in-law's **, and that's a kind old man.
The husband said that in those years, his father-in-law became both a father and a mother, and it was not easy to pull him and his three uncles up.
Eating the poached eggs made by my father-in-law, my heart is warm.
I asked my father-in-law to sit down and eat two eggs, but my father-in-law touched his mouth and said with satisfaction that we should eat, you should eat quickly, you will be hungry on the way.
I eat poached eggs at home every day, and I've had enough.
In fact, I know that there are only four chickens at home, and I can't lay two eggs a day, and my father-in-law is reluctant to eat them at all, and most of the eggs he usually saves are given to the families of the three brothers-in-law.
My father-in-law is 70 years old this year, and it is not easy to live at home.
The family still has 2 acres of land, and his father-in-law farms it alone, and sometimes he has to help his three sons' family work.
After helping the second son, you have to help the third and fourth sons, otherwise the sisters-in-law will complain that he is partial.
My father-in-law was thin and had a very curved waist, but he didn't have much effort to work.
Whenever he helped his son's family for half a day, when it was time to eat, the sisters-in-law never invited his father-in-law to their house for dinner, and his father-in-law had to make his own fire and cook when he got home.
My father-in-law is an upright man and treats all his sons equally.
Although the mother-in-law has passed away, the father-in-law and the relatives on the mother-in-law's side are very close.
My husband has five aunts and three uncles, and on holidays, my father-in-law always buys gifts and goes to the house.
These relatives are also very conscientious people, and they always come to visit their father-in-law with gifts.
Whenever there is a Chinese New Year, the house is filled with wine, snacks and tea sent by relatives.
After the father-in-law counts, he will divide a few boxes of wine and a few boxes of tea equally among each son's family, which is fair and reasonable, and no one has an opinion.
Since we were far away, my father-in-law couldn't personally deliver these gifts to us, but he always found a way.
My mother's house is in a neighboring village across the river, and the guild rides his tricycle to deliver the gifts that should be given to us.
My father-in-law is very sincere to people, and my mother's family is touched by him, and always let him eat at home before leaving.
Every time my parents call me, they always tell me to honor my father-in-law.
Therefore, despite the fact that we were very nervous about the Mid-Autumn Festival last year, we decided to go back to our hometown.
I know that my father-in-law will feel lonely when he is alone at home for the holidays, and the three uncles-in-law's family did not take the initiative to invite my father-in-law to their house for the holiday, and my father-in-law was embarrassed to go.
Seeing us come back for the holidays, my father-in-law was very happy.
After eating the poached eggs cooked by my father-in-law, I divided the mooncakes I brought into four portions, left one for my father-in-law, and prepared the rest for the three brothers-in-law's family.
I also opened two boxes of apples and filled each house with a bag of apples.
Every year, the Mid-Autumn Festival coincides with the autumn harvest in our rural areas, and everyone is busy breaking corn.
When we went to the second child's house, it hung at the door"Iron General"The words.
Looking through the crack in the door, the yard was full of yellow corn.
The husband called the second child, and the second child said that he would come back soon, so we waited at the gate for a while, and waited for the second child to drive a tractor and pull a cart of corn back.
After the second child let us into the house, he poured tea for us, and we waved our hands to say that we were not thirsty, and we had to go to the third and fourth children's houses.
When we were sent out, my brother and daughter-in-law said lightly"Sister-in-law, you came from afar, and you only brought this gift, we are embarrassed to accept it.
There are still a lot of mooncakes in our house, and the children have eaten enough, and the adults don't eat them, so you might as well take them back.
She stuffed the mooncakes and apples back into my hands.
At that time, my face was hot, and my husband was at a loss.
I was very embarrassed and blamed my husband for when he came back and I proposed to buy two bottles of wine for each family, but he said that the family really didn't have any money.
Now it's good that my brother and daughter-in-law have returned the gift to us in its original form.
When they went to the third child's house, they also locked the door, and it turned out that their husband and wife had gone to their parents-in-law's house to deliver Mid-Autumn Festival gifts.
In the end, we went to the fourth child's house, and they had two young children, one was nine years old and the other was five years old.
When we got there, the fourth couple was very welcoming to us, poured us water and tea, and asked how the fire shop we opened in the provincial capital was doing.
I hurriedly divided the mooncakes I bought with the two children, but the children told me, "Auntie, the mooncakes you bought are not delicious, but the ones you bought are more delicious." ”
The children's words are so unrestrained, I can't wait to find a place to get in.
That's right, the mooncakes I bought were very ordinary, only ten yuan per pack.
We really don't have any extra money on hand to buy those expensive mooncakes.
I also understand that expensive moon cakes will definitely be more delicious, alas, there is no money in me, no matter how you go to **, there is no face.
The daughter-in-law of the fourth child hurriedly said to the children: "Look at what you are used to, the mooncakes that your aunt brought back from the provincial capital are still not delicious."
Hungry for three days before you know it's a good thing. ”
The fourth child hurriedly said: "Sister-in-law, the child speaks unintentionally, don't take it too seriously." ”
After I came out of the fourth family, I didn't say a word, and my husband bowed his head and said nothing.
We went to my husband's uncle's house and aunt's house, and since they were all elders, each family gave us 200 yuan, a total of eight families, and spent almost 2,000 yuan in total.
Back at my father-in-law's house, I managed to smile and worry about us when he learned that we had spent so much money in those few hours.
He said: "Alas, it is really a burden to visit each other during the New Year.
If you don't go to the door, you will feel inappropriate, and you are afraid that others will say that we will not socialize.
But if you go to the door, you have to spend a lot of money. ”
I hurriedly comforted my father-in-law, we have to spend what we should spend, who let us have no money?If we had money, we wouldn't have to worry about these things, and it was necessary for relatives to visit each other.
In the afternoon, I started to clean my father-in-law's room, the living conditions of the elderly in the countryside are very ordinary, I washed a few of his clothes, hung them in the yard, and cleaned the bottom of the bed.
My father-in-law went to the second child's house to help harvest corn, and the second family planted more than a dozen acres of corn this year, and the growth was particularly good.
In the afternoon, I fried a few extra dishes, asked my husband to go to the commissary and bought a bottle of wine, so that my father-in-law could have a drink to relieve his fatigue.
My father-in-law smiled awkwardly and said, "There are some things that I don't know whether to say or not."
This afternoon, I went to your second brother's house to help break corn, and the second daughter-in-law thought that you had brought back too few things, so she said that you had finally gone home for the Mid-Autumn Festival, so she brought them two packs of mooncakes and a bag of apples. ”
I responded to her on the spot, things are more or less heart, you shouldn't be too little.
You have already worked hard to buy a house, you still owe a lot of debts, you still have bank loans to repay every month, and you can understand how much you take. ”
The second daughter-in-law actually said, don't come back if you can't afford to buy things, it's too embarrassing.
I was so angry that I left immediately and stopped working for them.
You finally came back, why do you have to endure such grievances?Only then did I understand that when you went to the second child's house, you must have taken care of her face. ”
After listening to my father-in-law's words, I sighed silently, my father-in-law has always been straightforward, and he definitely can't tolerate the behavior of my brother and daughter-in-law.
Originally, we planned to stay at home for a few more days to spend time with the elderly, but the more I thought about it, the heavier my mood became.
On the morning of August 16, my husband and I boarded the train back.
We have to go back and open the store as soon as possible, I want to work hard to make money and never want to be looked down upon again.
When we came back, we thought about how we could increase our income.
In the past, we just sold fire, and customers bought it and left.
I found out that there was no breakfast shop nearby, so my husband and I decided to sell breakfast in front of the door.
We bought a couple of tables to put in front of the door.
Every morning at four o'clock, my husband and I get up to grind soy milk or boil porridge and boil tea eggs.
After customers buy the fire, they see soy milk and porridge, and sometimes they eat it conveniently.
This gives us another income.
Later, my husband learned to make braised pork, and we started selling braised pork in the store.
Slowly, our hard work paid off.
After paying off the mortgage every month, we can save thousands of dollars.
Sometimes, when my husband went back to his hometown, I asked him to bring 12,000 yuan as his father-in-law's pocket money.
We saved tens of thousands of dollars by saving money.
We adults are never willing to spend money, and my husband's travel shoes are worn in tatters, and I am reluctant to buy him new shoes.
I am even more reluctant to spend money on myself, I usually only buy a bottle of face oil for a dozen yuan, never use cosmetics, and never buy new clothes.
Our two children are studying here, and they are also very sensible, never asking us for pocket money or snacks, which helped us save up a lot of money.
Time flies so fast, a year has passed in a blink of an eye, and it will be the Mid-Autumn Festival again.
My husband and I discussed closing the store for two days and going to our hometown for the holidays.
Last year, we were very poor and couldn't afford to buy gifts to go home, so we were ridiculed by our second daughter-in-law.
This year we're going to bring a decent gift to each family and see if they will look down on us.
In the evening, I called my father-in-law and asked him what gifts he needed at home, and we were going to buy them back.
Unexpectedly, after my father-in-law heard that we were going home for the Mid-Autumn Festival, he refused without hesitation.
I was surprised and asked, "Dad, why don't you let us go back for the holidays?"Other people's parents want their children to come home for the holidays, why don't you welcome us?The father-in-law said slowly: "Of course I hope you come back, but have you forgotten what happened during the Mid-Autumn Festival last year?"What did the second daughter-in-law say to you?I'm afraid you're going to get angry. ”
I was taken aback and immediately said, "Dad, you don't have to worry, our family's financial situation is much better this year, and we can afford to buy gifts."
I'm planning to buy them something more expensive and see if they still look down on me. ”
I thought the Guild would approve of my approach, but he still wouldn't allow us to go back.
He gave three reasons: first, just live your own life, there is no need to worry about it, let alone compare the high, you have to repay the loan when you buy a house, and you have to spend thousands of dollars when you come back, if you don't come back, you can save a month's mortgage money;Second, it would make more sense to spend those thousands of dollars elsewhere;Thirdly, last year's events are in the past, and there is no need for us to worry about them anymore.
The second family is much better off than yours, and the third and fourth families are also living well.
You are more stressed than they are, because you have to pay the mortgage and spend a lot of money in the city, so you don't have to work hard to save money to buy things for them. ”
As for those relatives, you can go and sit down after a long time, it is enough to chat, and you come and go every holiday, buy this and buy that, why spend this money?I usually have this intention, so why do I have to express it during the holidays?Your uncle and aunt know that it's not easy for you to work outside, and they won't blame you.
The father-in-law continued: "So don't take advantage of the holidays to come back and spend this money, it's a complete waste."
I've already decided that you won't be coming back this year. ”
After listening to my father-in-law's words, I suddenly understood, yes, if you buy less things during the holidays, others will not look down on you, and they will laugh at you for not having a good time.
If you buy too many things, it will be a burden for yourself, and you will feel unbearable for others, and you have to think about how to return the gift, what is the point of doing this?Isn't this asking for trouble?I discussed it with my husband, and we will obey my father-in-law's arrangement during the Mid-Autumn Festival this year and not go back to our hometown.
But I know that my father-in-law is alone at home, and he misses us too.
I asked my husband to buy a high-speed rail ticket for my father-in-law to come to the provincial capital, and we asked my father-in-law to take the high-speed train to the provincial capital on August 14 to reunite with us.
When I told my father-in-law the news, he was very happy.
He said, "Great, I miss you guys, and I miss two children."
I'll bring you my dried beans and my shaved peanuts. ”
I'm going to take the high-speed rail and see what the high-speed rail looks like.
I heard from the three masters in the village that when he took the high-speed train to his son's house in Beijing, the car was very stable, just like sitting in his own home, and the water in the teacup would not shake. ”
My father-in-law said excitedly, like a child, I am really glad that I thought of this way, so that the old man can come to the provincial capital to visit, and also save the cost of going back to his hometown.
I really admire my father-in-law, the old man sees things so thoroughly!My husband also said that my arrangement was very good, so that we could reduce the fatigue of going back and forth.
The husband called the three younger brothers and told them that they would not go back for the Mid-Autumn Festival.
The husband also called the uncles and aunts to express his condolences to them, and the husband said, these elders are old, and when they are not in good health, we will give them more money.
I quickly cleaned up a room for my father-in-law, found slippers, and waited for my father-in-law to come and stay for a few days.
I prepared some pocket money in advance for my father-in-law, so that he could buy what he liked when he saw it.
I really admire my father-in-law, he has seen it very openly, and it is true that the human exchanges during the holidays have become a burden.
The Mid-Autumn Festival is a time for family reunions, everyone sits down to have a meal together, chats, reduces the burden of human affection, and buys some gifts for parents to express filial piety