Recently, in the hit TV series "Thirty Only", the divorce story of an ordinary couple "honest man" Chen Yu and Zhong Xiaoqin was told. Among them, Chen Yu is generous on the issue of property division, but he repeatedly appears stingy and tough in small matters, this obvious contradiction reveals his inner attachment and struggle to this relationship.
1. Why did Chen Yu be generous in the division of property
In the divorce agreement, Chen Yu simply proposed to divide this tens of millions of mansions equally among Xiaoqin. This surprised Xiaoqin, because this suite was completely bought by Chen Yu with his own money, and Xiaoqin did not give a share. It stands to reason that the property mainly belongs to Chen Yu. So why did Chen Yu make such a concession?
First, this is a kind of compensation for Xiaoqin's efforts in the family over the years. Although Xiaoqin did not directly contribute money, she has also contributed her labor to this family over the years. Chen Yu's move can be seen as a reward.
Second, this also reflects Chen Yu's personality as an "honest man". He is a person who pays attention to fairness and justice, and will not monopolize all the interests just because his name is written on the house. In his heart, the hard-won success of this house also has Xiaoqin's hard work.
Thirdly, and more importantly, this house symbolizes the bits and pieces of his life with Xiaoqin. Therefore, to be generous in the division of "things" is to retain a spiritual bond and maintain this relationship. For Chen Yu, a house is not just a house, it represents the warmth and beauty of the past.
Second, being stingy in small things reflects Chen Yu's inner attachment and struggle
However, unlike generosity in the division of property, Chen Yu has repeatedly shown stinginess and toughness in many small things. For example, Xiaoqin proposed to replace the damaged door lock many times, but Chen Yu refused to change it, and in the end, this trivial matter caused Xiaoqin to break out and became the fuse for divorce.
This kind of tough attitude on trivial matters reflects Chen Yu's inner attachment and struggle. He couldn't bear to replace any of the old things he had lived with Xiaoqin, even a small door lock. It's as if he can't bear to give up this relationship at all, and he is reluctant to part with Xiaoqin.
But on the other hand, he seems so stubborn in the little things. This attachment and stubbornness formed a huge contradiction in his heart, and it also became the fuse for the breakdown of this relationship.
Third, Chen Yu needs to change the concept of relying only on material means to maintain feelings
Through this failed marriage, Chen Yu needs to deeply reflect on his problems in emotional management. For example, he relied too much on material conditions to maintain his relationship, and used the division of real estate to make up for his spiritual shortcomings. But in fact, the relationship needs to be managed by both parties with their hearts, not just material exchanges.
He needed to change the notion that marriage was sustained only by external material conditions. This concept made him repeatedly ignore Xiaoqin's feelings in trivial matters, leading to emotional estrangement. Remember, there is no substitute for sincerity, only if both parties work together to manage it, can it go a long way.
Fourth, Xiaoqin should also reflect on whether she is overly calculating small things
At the same time, Xiaoqin, as the other half of this relationship, also needs to reflect on whether she is too small and small. A small door lock problem became the fuse. This also reflects that she may not fully understand him from Chen Yu's point of view.
As a wise woman, Xiaoqin also needs to put herself in Chen Yu's shoes. She could have understood Chen Yu's attachment to old things, cherished his inner attachment to this relationship, and gave this "honest man" more tolerance and space. After all, the relationship needs to be managed by both parties, and one person can't solve the problem by calculating and complaining.
5. Ordinary stories reveal common problems in real life
The story of Chen Yu and Xiaoqin reflects the true portrayal in the eyes of many ordinary people. In this materialistic era, many people tend to measure the value of a relationship by material things. But in fact, the relationship needs the intentions and tolerance of both parties to last.
This seemingly ordinary story shows the confusion that many people face in real life: how should feelings be managed?Which is more important, material or spiritual?What kind of attitude should we adopt when facing problems?..It inspires us to manage our immediate feelings with a heart that is tolerant, understanding, and cherishing.
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