Mr. Wang Yangming said: All battles in the world are mental battles after stripping off all kinds of coats.
In this life, what people fight is a state of mind.
Everyone comes to the world with bare hands, and they will encounter all kinds of unsatisfactory, and what can continue to compete with life is a strong heart.
And people who are really strong in their hearts often have the following 3 manifestations.
There is an old saying that it is a fool's idea to affect your mood because of someone else's mistakes.
If a person or an event is prone to emotional fluctuations, it means that you are often coerced by the anger of the other person, and it is easy to lose your mind and behave wrongly.
Only by learning to calm down can you regain your sanity and properly deal with the problems you encounter.
I read a short story: Once, while walking in the park, Goethe met two critics on a narrow road. Critics say: I never give way to fools!Goethe said: I am the opposite. So, he smiled and stood aside.Sometimes, letting go of other people's faults is not only to forgive others, but also to free oneself.
In the face of the provocation of others, the strong will be as calm as water, calmly respond, and retreat;The weak are irritable, passively involved in a storm, and bring endless trouble to themselves.
A person's true strength is the strength of his heart.
Don't get angry about small things easily, so that you can not be surprised and make smart choices.
The Rabble says that once a person is in a group, his IQ drops severely.
If you gain a sense of identity and easily abandon the views after independent thinking, a person's collective consciousness will be strengthened and the sense of independence weakened.
Allowing oneself to be different from others is the only way for a person to mature.
A blogger on Douban shared his story: Once at a party with friends, it was the day when Apple's new version of the mobile phone was released, and friends were discussing how to buy it, and it was cost-effective in several installments, and he sat aside and remained silent. After a friend noticed it, he said, xx doesn't speak, it can't be that he has already started quietly, right?Then there was a burst of laughter. The blogger felt very embarrassed, first of all, he had no intention of changing his mobile phone;Secondly, I have just graduated and have not yet had a stable economic income. The blogger smiled and made an excuse to leave. After that, the blogger gradually withdrew from the group's gathering.She believes that a group of people is indeed very lively, but if you lose the consciousness of independent thinking, you will blindly follow and put pressure on yourself.
People who are truly strong will allow themselves to be different from others.
They have a stable core, they don't follow the crowd, and they make the most suitable decision after independent thinking.
They understand that everyone's life can only be responsible for themselves.
You know, blindly using other people's brains to guide your own life is a heavy price to pay.
There is a saying: everyone is the architect of his own destiny.
In many cases, a single thought can lead to different results.
I have seen such a story: a housewife named Sister Circle went to Australia by chance to make a living. At first, I was isolated, I didn't understand the language, I had no culture, and I had no money, so I had to work as a dishwasher in a restaurant to make ends meet. On a gray day, there was not a single light in sight. She also struggled, and after a period of loss, she suddenly felt that it was better to give it a go than to be so depressed. So she used her free time to learn business management, stumbled on English, gritted her teeth and persevered for many years, and became the first sales sister in the Australian real estate industry, and successfully gained a firm foothold in Australia. After that, she successfully started a business and became a legend of Aopiao, changing her destiny.Sometimes, it is not tears that tear open the thorns of life, but perseverance;It was not a cruel fate that brought down him, but a cowardly character.
Being ruthless to oneself and not accepting one's fate is a gesture and a kind of arrogance.
People with strong hearts, no matter what the circumstances, can be born to the sun and find a way to make life bloom a flower.
In this world, there are many lifeless young people, and there are also many vigorous old people.
Not bowing to fate, living in symbiosis with fate, knowing fate but not accepting fate, is the standard configuration of the real strong.
Everyone is the helmsman of their own life.
A person with a strong heart has long cultivated a strong heart in his life.
I hope that you and I can have a strong heart and live our own posture in this sea of ups and downs.