When I learned that my friend Feng Xia, who was in her early 30s, had made the choice of "lying flat", I was surprised. Feng Xia, a post-90s girl full of fighting spirit and passion, has always given me the impression of being positive and vigorous. After graduating from university, she came to Shenzhen, a city full of opportunities, with a vision for the future. 
The first days were not easy, but she still persevered and went far on the road of her career step by step. However, not long ago, Feng Xia suddenly submitted a resignation report, and then resolutely chose to "lie flat" - she gave up her job, returned to her hometown to buy a house and settle down, and lived an unrestrained life. I was puzzled by this sudden change. Feng Xia, who is obviously smooth sailing in her career, has the ability to choose to "lie flat" at the age of 30, and there must be something hidden behind this decision. Perhaps, she has fallen into the ups and downs of feelings;Or perhaps, she longs to get rid of the burden of work and seek her inner self. Whatever the reason, I can't expect a girl to carry the heavy pressure of life before she is yet to stand. Since Feng Xia has made such a choice, I think that as a friend, I should be more concerned about her real thoughts, give her understanding and support, rather than hastily asserting whether her decision is right or wrong. It turned out that behind Feng Xia's decision to "lie flat", she hid her unhappiness in her work and life in Shenzhen. In 2005, Feng Xia's parents relied on their savings to buy a house in Shenzhen, hoping that their daughter could gain a foothold in the big city. For them, ordinary workers, having a house is their wish that they have earned after years of hard work. For Fengxia, however, Shenzhen's high housing prices and fast-paced life left her exhausted and stressed. What made her even more unbearable was that with the expectations of her parents on her shoulders, her work went through several twists and turns, and setbacks in her career occurred frequently. The love life was also not satisfactory, and a 6-year relationship finally broke down, leaving her traumatized. Trivial work, suffocating interpersonal relationships, and the love that left her, this series of encounters made Feng Xia depressed and sad before she was established. She longs to get away from it all and find her own life again. So, in the face of the property that her parents bought in Shenzhen, she resolutely sold it. After receiving a huge amount of money, Feng Xia returned to her hometown, hoping to get rid of all the unhappiness in the past with such a resolute action and return to her true self. After Feng Xia returned to her hometown, she chose to buy a house of her own in the provincial capital. She hopes to rebuild her little world in this familiar place. At first, she tried to find a job in the local area. But soon Feng Xia realized that even in the provincial capital, which is relatively slow-paced, all kinds of games and pedantry in the workplace are still annoying. So, Feng Xia, who has financial security, resolutely decided to start her "unemployed" life - she can sleep until she wakes up naturally, and then go to the bookstore to read books all day;She can work out while listening to **;She can also step into the kitchen as she pleases and peruse the recipes. I witnessed the bright smile that bloomed in Fengxia's life. She would share with me a good book she had recently read about the philosophy of thought, or a wildflower she saw when she was out walking around the countryside. 
Feng Xia uses her new eyes to see the world and re-take care of her inner garden. I couldn't be happier for her from the bottom of my heart. Feng Xia not only chose to be "unemployed", but also made a decision that surprised me - she gave up her marriage and said that she did not plan to have children in the future. I can understand that for a girl who is not yet 30 years old, this is definitely a difficult decision. In this society that values traditional values, not marrying and having children will undoubtedly make Fengxia the target of public criticism. She is destined to be more alone in the future in life. 
But when you think about it, Feng Xia's experience is really sympathetic. She is still so young, but she has already gone through a long and painful emotional test, so much so that she has lost faith in marital love. She also longs to get rid of the helplessness and burden that comes with her family. Even though the road was more difficult, she resolutely chose the current way of life because she was afraid of losing her true self again. I can't expect a young girl to plan her life perfectly before she is even a young girl. Since Feng Xia has made such a choice, she must have gone through a long psychological struggle. Whether her choice is right or wrong, I should respect her determination to bravely pursue her inner freedom. 
Seeing Feng Xia's smile now, I am sincerely happy for her. Indeed, if you want to live such a free and free life, you need great courage, and even more so, the understanding and support of your parents. I asked Feng Xia if she could make such a surprising choice if she had encountered similar difficulties and bottlenecks. She smiled and didn't answer my question directly. What makes me ashamed is that I have to admit that if I were in her situation, I might still choose the usual path of life - accept the expectations of society and live and work according to the rules. 
This is the choice of ordinary people, but it is precisely this choice that makes many people strangle their true hearts in the visible and invisible. In the world, we should live our own lives, not be bound by any ideas and frameworks. Feng Xia's courage is telling me that she has lived her own life. Years from now, when she looks back on this day, I'm sure she will have no regrets. I don't know when I'll have the courage and determination to do that, but at least, I'll always support Feng Xia – because choosing to be my true self is already the greatest thing in the world. Through Fengxia's experience, I rethought the true meaning of "success". 
Perhaps most people will think that Feng Xia chose to "lie flat" before she was 30 years old, giving up her career halfway. But I understand that Fengxia's choice is actually another level of "success" - that is, to find true inner peace and freedom. In the past, I always measured a person's "success" by material conditions - a high education, a car in the garage, a job with a good year-end bonus. However, when I saw Fengxia, which was full of vitality and refreshment at the moment, I suddenly realized that those external things are not the essence of success after all, they can fade and fade. And what Feng Xia found was the true vision of her heart. Therefore, I no longer judge Feng Xia's choice with a conventional frame of mind. On the contrary, I am sincerely happy for her. Because she lived out the most precious thing in this world - a life that belongs to her alone, without deception, without regrets, only truth and freedom. It also made me re-examine my own travels and pursuits over the years. I began to reflect on whether I lived my true self within the standardized framework of school, work, marriage and childrenRe-examining this issue may be the inspiration that Feng Xia's decision brought me.