Human beings are social animals, and no one can really understand themselves except themselves.
Only by knowing what kind of person you are can you get along with others better.
In this book, "The Weakness of Human Nature", Carnegie uses his own personal experience to talk about the weakness of human nature.
In this book, Carnegie dissects the weaknesses of human nature and tells us how to relate to others.
He uses humorous and witty language to point out the weaknesses of human nature.
For example: love takes advantage of small advantages;Calculated;Love to complain;Jealous;I don't know how to refuse;Timid, afraid, etc.
These weaknesses are like traps that once you fall into them, it's hard to climb out again.
Therefore, we must know how to avoid these human weaknesses.
Next, I will analyze the following three aspects.
Why do some people get hated?
Love takes advantage of small advantages
In life, we often see such people, they are obviously rich, but they like to take advantage of others. They are not willing to buy something more expensive, nor are they willing to spend a penny. There is a good saying: "People can be poor, but they can't be greedy." ”
Many times, the people who take advantage of others are often people who have little ability. Because they don't have the ability to create more benefits for themselves, they will be greedy for small gains.
As the saying goes, "people's hearts are not enough to swallow elephants", once some people take advantage of others, they will continue to take advantage of others, and even intensify their efforts to take advantage of more.
Calculated;
In life, many people are very careful, for example: when you buy a dress, you will feel that it is not good-looking;I bought a bottle of drink and felt that it didn't taste right;Having dinner with a colleague and not taking out the bill after eating;Playing with friends, but only caring about their own feelings ......
These actions, while not excessive, are actually very selfish.
If you are around such a person, please stay away in time. Because if you get along with him for a long time, you will be affected by his selfish behavior.
If you are too careful, then your relationship will get worse and worse. After all, no one likes to get along with people who are calculating.
So, please don't worry too much about one person who cares. We need to know how to withdraw ourselves from this environment at the right time, so that we can get along better with others.
Jealous;
If you are jealous, you can't see the good of others. This kind of psychology will make us always focus on the strengths of others, so as to ignore our own strengths.
If we can't accept our own inadequacies, we will have a psychological conflict.
Once conflict arises, jealousy kicks in. Therefore, we must learn to adjust our mindset.
I don't know how to refuse;
If you don't know how to refuse, it will make others feel that your efforts are all taken for granted.
I have a colleague who always likes to help people and is always responsive when people ask him for help.
However, his time and energy are limited. When he helps others, he has no time to do his own thing.
Over time, it will lead to his inability to complete his work tasks on time, which will make the leader feel that he has no sense of responsibility.
Therefore, when we are helping others, we must know how to say no. Only by learning to say no can you make others respect you and make yourself stronger.
Timid and afraid
Among the weaknesses of human nature, the most frightening is cowardice. It has been said, "A timid man is a fly without a head." Indeed, if a person does not dare to do even small things, then it will be difficult for him to achieve great things. Therefore, we must be brave enough to face the challenges in life.
You see, life is made up of challenges. When you're afraid to do one thing, try to do something small;When you have a hard time, try to solve it;When you're bullied by someone else, speak up ......