The "seven-year itch" in love makes once loved lovers feel tired of each other. If you have a "seven-year love", you might as well try a "long-distance running" style of love, and you may be rewarded. It is not easy to persist in the long-distance running of love, and to be able to spend a lifetime together and grow old together can simply be hailed as "fairy love."
However, in the TV series "Under the Zhengyang Gate", Han Chunming and Su Meng spanned twenty or thirty years of love, but this relationship did not move people's hearts. Han Chunming, a kind and witty man, has never made a mistake in the collection of cultural relics, but in the process of choosing a partner, he did make mistakes.
Han Chunming and Su Meng live together in a courtyard, and their love story began when they were young, intermittently, and they experienced the turmoil of breakups many times. One of the most heart-wrenching ones, Han Chunming once said affectionately: "My love for Su Meng has lasted for 26 years and 137 days, and she Su Meng knows everything about it." ”
Although Han Chunming may say things that he will never forgive, in the end he and Su Meng reconciled, and Han Chunming's "nostalgia" and "soft-heartedness" made him unable to let go of Su Meng.
However, Su Meng is not the person Han Chunming should love deeply, and her three obvious "shortcomings" are destined to continue to hurt Han Chunming.
1, Su Meng has a contemptuous attitude towards Han Chunming in her heart.
Han Chunming was an employee in a bread factory, and in those days, the job was quite enviable. However, due to Cheng Jianjun's intervention and whistleblowing, Han Chunming lost his job, and due to the "stains" on the file, it was difficult for him to find a job unit willing to accept him.
With nothing to do, Han Chunming began to engage in the waste business. When Su Meng saw this scene, she had an obvious contemptuous attitude towards Han Chunming, she thought that Han Chunming's engagement in waste ** was a shameful act, and she had been persuading him to find other solutions.
However, looking at Han Chunming's life trajectory and his early experience of ** waste from an overall perspective, these have had a profound impact on his subsequent collection of old items, but Su Meng is puzzled by Han Chunming's behavior pattern.
After Su Meng successfully entered the university, he had a stronger dislike for Han Chunming, a "loser", but when Han Chunming achieved some achievements, Su Meng gradually reaccepted him.
Su Meng saw that Han Chunming's business activities were in full swing, so she chose to quit her job and join the business world, because she was convinced that "even Han Chunming has a chance to get rich, and I have a greater chance", which obviously underestimated Han Chunming's business strength.
In fact, the customer won by Su Meng was the result of Han Chunming's voluntary concessions;Su Meng was defrauded of 60 million yuan when she was carrying out investment activities, while Han Chunming stood up to defend her rights and interests and recover debtsHan Chunming handed over the management of the hotel to her, but as soon as she took over, it was chaotic, which made Han Chunming's second sister very dissatisfied.
In terms of ability, Su Meng is obviously inferior to Han Chunming, but Su Meng's self-confidence has made her look down on Han Chunming all the time.
2, Su Meng is skeptical of Han Chunming.
The breakup between Su Meng and Han Chunming was many times because Su Meng had a misunderstanding of Han Chunming. Meng Xiaoxing inadvertently said, "Wait for Han Chunming to come back to sleep", which made Su Meng completely believe it, and mistakenly thought that there was an improper relationship between Han Chunming and Meng Xiaoxing.
Su Meng saw Han Chunming chatting with other women, even the older Sister Hou felt jealous and had no trust in Han Chunming at all.
The issue of Old Man Guan's inheritance aroused Guan Xiaoguan's suspicions, and he thought that Han Chunming might have transferred the treasure. Guan Xiaoguan's speculation further deepened Su Meng's dislike for Han Chunming, and Su Meng believed that this was the result of Han Chunming's ** out of moral considerations.
Han Chunming's qualities are well known, Cai Xiaoli's trust in Han Chunming is unconditional, Han Chunming will also trust her, if it is said that the perfect match in love, Cai Xiaoli is more suitable for Han Chunming than Su Meng.
In the journey of love, Su Meng always comes first and gets first, and she has taken deep roots in Han Chunming's heart. Her girlish smile always lingered, but until she was forty or fifty years old, Su Meng still couldn't fully trust Han Chunming. This kind of love is undoubtedly a deep torment for Han Chunming.
3, Su Meng is a selfish and self-interested person, and he has become proud because he is pampered.
Su Meng is always thinking about her feelings, she cares about whether Han Chunming loves her enough, whether he puts her first in everything, and if she pays one point, she can get one hundred and twenty points.
Even when it comes to friendship, Li Yuan revolves around her every day, she is free to vent her emotions, Li Yuan is always willing to provide her with comfort and advice, but she never really cares about Li Yuan.
Su Meng discarded the engagement ring given to her by Han Chunming in anger, which made Han Chunming feel extremely disappointed. This bottomless contemptuous attitude towards love will only continue to consume your energy.
Looking back on the 137-day deep relationship between Han Chunming and Su Meng, Su Meng's arrogant, selfish, and poor and rich character were revealed. Even Cheng Jianjun, known as the "little expert in counterfeiting", won Su Meng's trust, but her suspicion of Han Chunming lasted for a long time.
Quality love is reflected in the trust and loyalty of both parties. In love, both parties should be seen as equal beings, not one party should be arrogant and rude, while the other party should show endless tolerance.
In the work "Under the Zhengyang Gate", the love between Han Chunming and Su Meng has reached a happy ending, but the "Han Chunming" in real life may not be able to tolerate the willfulness and unreasonableness of the "Su Meng-style".