On the road of parenting, we often encounter many challenges and difficulties. Some parents may think that through constant verbal instruction and regulation, they can help their children grow better. However, in fact, sometimes learning to keep your mouth shut appropriately is the key to cultivating good qualities in your child.
1. Learn to listen and give children the opportunity to express themselves.
Many parents involuntarily start to blame or teach their children when they make mistakes or face difficulties. However, this approach often makes children feel denied and not understood. Conversely, if we can first try to listen to our children's thoughts and feelings and make them feel respected and understood, then they are more likely to be willing to accept our advice and guidance.
I remember one time when my son had a setback at school and came home feeling down. At that time, I did not rush to blame him or tell him what to do, but listened to his troubles first and gave him support and encouragement. When he felt my understanding and support, he slowly began to open up and share his thoughts and feelings with me. In the process, I not only gave him the opportunity to express himself, but also made him feel respected and understood.
2. Leave appropriate blank space and let children think for themselves.
As children grow, they need to learn to think independently and solve problems. Therefore, leaving white space appropriately and allowing children to think and deal with problems on their own is one of the important ways to cultivate their excellent qualities.
I remember one time when my daughter was having trouble drawing, she kept asking me how to draw. Instead of telling her what to do directly, I asked her what she thought and felt. By guiding her to think about her own creative ideas and goals, she gradually found her own way to solve problems. This process not only taught her to think and deal with problems independently, but also made her feel the joy of self-exploration.
3. Shut up and let the child take responsibility for himself.
As children grow up, they will make mistakes and make irrational choices. At this time, if we are always in a hurry to blame and interfere, it may make the child lose the opportunity and courage to take responsibility. Conversely, if we can keep our mouths shut appropriately and let our children face and take responsibility for themselves, then they are more likely to learn from it and grow.
I remember one time when my son was criticized by a teacher for not completing his homework on time. At that time, I didn't rush to help him solve the problem or blame him, but let him take the responsibility myself. He felt the consequences of his mistakes and learned from them. Since then, he has placed more emphasis on time management and has developed good study habits.
Fourth, summary. On the road of parenting, we must not only pay attention to words and deeds, but also learn to keep our mouths shut appropriately. By listening to children's thoughts and feelings, leaving appropriate white space for children to think for themselves, and allowing children to take responsibility for themselves, we can cultivate children's excellent qualities and independent abilities. At the same time, we must also learn to give children enough freedom and space to explore the world and grow themselves. Only in this way can our children truly become thoughtful, responsible, and capable people.