Xu Lingyi was framed by Yuan Niang, and in desperation, she chose her concubine daughter Luo Shiniang as her stepwife.
I feel extremely depressed.
But in the end, Xu Lingyi had a deep affection for Eleven Niang.
He was surrounded by many women, including two main rooms and five aunts.
The plump swallow and the emaciated swallow each exude a different charm.
He only had deep feelings for Eleven Niang.
Is it because Eleven Niang is very beautiful?
Eleven Niang's beauty is indeed amazing.
However, Xu Lingyi had previously married his main mother, who was both bright and heroic;Subsequently, Wen's noble concubine showed her flamboyance and flamboyance;Aunt Tong and Qiu Luo both showed their gentleness and grace;Subsequently, Qiao Lianfang showed her elegance and talent.
Eleven Niang is not the only woman who has a place in Tianzi Country.
Is it because of the kind nature of Eleven Niang that the female celebrity has become so popular?
In that era, women were expected to possess the qualities of three virtues, kindness, and femininity, which were seen as their basic expectations.
She is beautiful and kind, and has some kind of specialty, but this is only a plus, not a decisive factor.
Regarding the characteristics of the little concubine Luo Shi Niang, what can attract the heart of Xu Lingyi, the sensible, dark-bellied but unwavering Yongping Marquis in reality?
1. Pure heart, kind and upright.
In the original work, Eleven Niang handed over all the property left by her eldest sister Yuan Niang directly to her eldest brother Luo Zhenxing.
After years of operation, Yuan Niang's dowry account has accumulated more than 100,000 taels of silver, and when this amount was paid, Eleven Niang's eyebrows did not show any displeasure.
He didn't seem to want to be polluted by anything at all.
In the face of Xu Lingyi and Mrs. Tai's shock, Shi Niang frankly expressed her opinion: The eldest sister's marriage plan is left to the delicate brother in the future. I know that the eldest sister has a gentle personality and is very serious in her work. I didn't know anything about business, I didn't know how to look through the ledgers, and the women in the family often had to deal with people from outside, which caused them a lot of trouble. I'm worried that this will affect the eldest sister's marriage, so I prefer to leave this matter to the eldest brother to deal with.
Shi Niang realized that everyone had doubts about her, from the eldest sister's companion Luo Yonggui, to Tao's mother, and even Xu Lingyi and other members of the Xu family, including her eldest brother Luo Zhenxing, were all like this.
Everyone generally holds the view that wealth can touch people's hearts, and Eleven Niang may not be able to avoid this.
However, in Shi Niang's point of view, no amount of wealth can compare to the firmness and steadfastness of her heart, which is not her personal property. Once greedy, not only will she lose people's trust, but she will also deviate from her original intention, and it is more likely to cause endless problems and troubles.
As his own nephew, Brother Ken must strictly follow his previous promise to ensure that he helps his eldest sister take good care of the child and protect the child's rights and interests.
Eleven Niang's heart is full of a sense of clarity.
Financially, he can stick to his original intention, and he can faithfully fulfill his promise in the face of the eldest sister's entrustment.
Her husband, Xu Lingyi, and Mrs. Hetai both expressed deep respect for her kindness and frankness.
2. Make sure you always stick to your principles and bottom line.
Soon after Eleven Niang got married, the third master of the Wen family conveyed his wishes through Aunt Wen, hoping to greet the new lady.
Eleven Niang understands that this is not just a simple greeting to say hello, but also wants to use the reputation of the Xu family to carry out business activities in the outside world.
After Eleven Niang asked Xu Lingyi's opinion, she returned to Aunt Wen's side without hesitation.
Although Aunt Wen has tried many times to attract Eleven Niang through business and wealth, Eleven Niang has always remained calm.
Eleven Niang learned that the dowry of the eldest sister Yuan Niang had increased from thirty or forty thousand taels to tens of thousands of taels in just a few years, most of which was obtained through cooperation with the Wen family.
She even realized that the eldest sister Yuan Niang might have just borrowed the reputation of the Yongping Marquis Mansion and did not have real funds to cooperate, so she received such a huge return.
If Eleven Niang is not tempted at all, it may be unreal.
In fact, Eleven Niang is very short of funds.
The eldest lady of the Luo family is always sweet to the children of the concubine, but her heart is full of bitterness, although the flowers in the dowry of the eleventh mother are full of flowers, there is no real gold and silver.
She had just become a member of the Xu family and had a fortune of only fifty taels, but later gave the money to Holly, who fled the house because of her quarrel with the pregnant fifth lady, and she had nothing since then.
couldn't even take out the gift to congratulate my sister Wu Niang on opening a store, and in the end, my sister-in-law knew about her situation and took the initiative to solve the siege.
However, even so, Eleven Niang understands that some things cannot be done.
First of all, after I met Wen Sanye, I relied on the Wen family to start my business career, which made me feel a little uncomfortable in front of Aunt Wen, relying on others for a living became too weak, and if I had to manage the concubine in the future, it might be difficult for me to maintain fairness and self-confidence.
Erze, Eleven Niang's wish is just to find a stable living environment, she just wants to live a peaceful life, not to pursue the accumulation of wealth.
Xu Lingyi and Mrs. Tai have already provided her with a stable living environment and a peaceful life. If she goes against Xu Lingyi's wishes in pursuit of more interests and engages in business with the Wen family in private, then her husband and mother-in-law, who have absolute decision-making power over her, may make her peace and good life come to naught.
It's really not worth it.
Eleven Niang clearly knows what she is looking for, and she also understands what she can get.
As a result, Eleven Niang is able to maintain her true self and make the right decisions.
Xu Lingyi was very satisfied with such an eleven mother.
3. Treat your husband as a partner, not a true lover.
I always think that Eleven Niang finally won Xu Lingyi's heart, she is a strong woman with no desire.
Eleven Niang and Xu Lingyi became husband and wife, although she was a little helpless, some accepted fate, and some were lucky, but she never imagined that she could win Xu Lingyi's heart.
Before her soul crossed, she had seen many of the dark sides of human nature.
After her soul travel, she personally experienced the life of a lonely, heart-wrenching, and humble concubine.
She is well aware that a man's love is unstable at all times.
In all things, you can only rely on your own strength.
In such a male-dominated society with a low status of women, it becomes more difficult to expect male love.
Therefore, Xu Lingyi showed her deep respect and respect from the beginning, as well as a stable lifestyle, which made her deeply grateful.
She wholeheartedly hopes to be able to raise her own brother irresponsibly and let him grow up safely. Her wish is to be able to live a stable and calm life, to be well fed and clothed, not to be manipulated or calculated by others, and not to worry about sudden unfortunate events that will take her life.
Therefore, she sees Xu Fu as a workplace, sees Mrs. Tai and Xu Lingyi as leaders and respects, sees them as partners, understands their ideas and needs, and meets them as needed.
I hope that in this way, I can gain a trace of trust in the hearts of Xu Lingyi and Mrs. Tai, so as to consolidate my position.
Therefore, Shi Niang did not treat men like other women, such as care, concern and greetings to Xu Lingyi.
Judging from Xu Lingyi's social status, he was a scholar in feudal society, an experienced general, and a marquis of Yongping as a relative. In this context, what does he need to face, what he wants to do, what will he need, and what kind of wife he needs?
After all, in a work environment, if you want to win the favor of your boss, you must first clarify your boss's needs before you can meet his expectations so that you can achieve your goals.
First of all, it should be clear that Xu Lingyi, as a scholar in the feudal era, was full of strong macho tendencies deep down, and he always hoped that his wife would show a gentle, humble and submissive side.
Therefore, Shi Niang always respects every decision of Xu Lingyi, treats children and concubines with kindness, expresses filial piety to the old woman, and gets along with the concubine.
I have also asked Xu Lingyi for her views on various decisions made at home, both in terms of the need for work reporting and the willingness to seek guidance and obedience.
The macho Xu Lingyi is very satisfied with this, his wife has a gentle and obedient personality, she does not make any small movements without his knowledge, and completely satisfies his desire for control.
Moreover, Xu Lingyi, as the leader and relative of the Yongping Marquis Mansion, not only had to ensure the safety of everyone in the Yongping Marquis Mansion, but also won the emperor's trust, and at the same time he had to be wary of the plots behind his political opponents. He survives in this dilemma, and he needs his wife's understanding and support.
In such an environment, we must not only behave softly, but also keep a low profile, and more importantly, learn to be patient, it is absolutely unacceptable to be in the limelight, and occasionally we need to behave miserably.
Xu Lingyi never gave any explanation, but Eleven Niang did understand these predicaments.
Xu Lingyi received gentle and calm understanding and support, and he decided to give up his title, give up his job, choose to practice at home, and even decided to raise his lowly children himself.
Xu Lingyi was shocked that the young wife was actually on his side, giving up the power that people coveted, and supporting him with envy in his choice to do nothing at home.
In fact, Shi Niang knows that climbing high places can lead to weight gain, and instead of that, she wants to be able to show her vulnerability in a low-key way and ensure that her family's life is always safe
For the child he brought back suddenly, he expressed his dissatisfaction unreservedly, and even without saying a superfluous word, he was willing to follow Xu Lingyi's advice and raise the child personally. Since he solemnly took the child back and handed it over to her to raise, this would undoubtedly be a major event, and it might even be closely linked to the future fate of the Hou Mansion.
As a wife, she should wholeheartedly support her husband's choices.
In the end, there was some kind of "dialogue" between her and Xu Lingyi
It's not just about small talk, in fact, how many men in this world are willing to gossip with their wives all day long?
Eleven Niang has her own unique views and opinions on the political situation in Yanjing, the emperor's behavior, and the challenges faced by the Xu family.
By observing Xu Lingyi's behavior and demeanor, we can not only gain insight into the evolution of the situation, but also identify the core and deep causes of the problem.
When Shi Niang learned that Xu Lingyi planned to resign from the position of the crown prince's young master, she realized that Xu Lingyi seemed to be deliberately acting weak in order to win the emperor's sympathy, and hoped to break free from this turmoil, retain her strength, and use her calmness to restrain the situation.
Judging from Xu Lingyi's decision to adopt the child born to the fifth master and the opera, as well as the dirty water she openly spilled, it can be inferred that Xu Lingyi did this because the emperor had begun to have doubts and suppression of the Xu family, who had supported him on the throne.
She is able to accurately grasp the current situation, analyze the choices that Xu Lingyi may make, and express her own opinions, which are often highly consistent with Xu Lingyi's ideas.
All this made Xu Lingyi deeply feel that her young wife was really extraordinary.
Although Xu Lingyi took the role of helmsman in the Hou Mansion and participated in wars and power games, he gave the impression of being indestructible.
However, as a human being, everyone should be understood and recognized.
With a gentle and subtle gentleness, coupled with her understanding and support for Xu Lingyi, Eleven Niang gradually eroded and warmed Xu Lingyi's heart, making him feel extremely warm.
People of high status and great power tend to appear indifferent.
Eleven Niang gave him a warm feeling.
People of high status and great power often feel lonely.
Eleven Niang hopes to understand and accept him and move forward with him.
Therefore, Xu Lingyi had a deep affection for Eleven Niang.
It seems to me that there are indeed significant differences between men and women in terms of love and marriage. Most men crave happiness when they are surrounded by constant care and attention from their partner.
However, it is not these things that men really need.
Men have a natural desire to conquer and stand on high ground, they want to be respected and understood by others, they want someone to understand their ideals, support their pursuits, and recognize the hardships of their struggles. In the process, we can make small adjustments, such as letting him know that we don't miss you that much and that we don't necessarily have to tell him what we want. Then he stood quietly beside him.
For women, love means warmth, care, pampering, and care.
For men, true understanding, understanding, acceptance, support, and tenderness are the warmth they seek and the part of the love they crave in their eyes.
I hope we can all understand.