Young people's lifestyles and attitudes are changing dramatically. They are independent, free, and have their own ideas and pursuits, which is undoubtedly something to be thankful for. However, for many parents, this change has brought with it an unspeakable sense of confusion and helplessness. Today, I'd like to share with you a little story between me and my son, which might trigger some thinking about this issue.
My son just graduated from graduate school this year and is now working to earn money. Just a few days ago, I called him and told him to hand over his salary to me for management. I thought he would listen to me, but I was surprised by his answer. He said, no, I can manage the money myself, how old am I, and I'm not a three-year-old child.
I could see that he didn't want to hand over his salary to me, but in order to dispel his concerns and persuade him, I said, don't worry, our family is just one child of yours, and there are no brothers and sisters, haven't I saved it for you?I have a salary and I don't spend your money, I just keep the money in the bank safely and securely, and there is interest, and I will take it out for you when you buy a house and marry a daughter-in-law in the future. He said, who still puts money in the bank now, do you think the bank is absolutely safe?I'll just save my salary on my mobile phone Alipay icon, you don't have to worry about ......
I tried hard to persuade him again and again, but no matter how much I tried to persuade him, he would not agree to me. Why doesn't he understand the painstaking efforts of his parents?I also want to save money for him, so that he can buy a house and marry a daughter-in-law when the time comes, and it's not all for him, alas!I can't help it!This kid is too disobedient, how can this be said?Maybe it's because I don't have a way to teach my son!I'm a mother who has failed too much!I don't know what he thinks in his heart?I should be right to do that, right?Other people's children don't know what it's like
This story may have tugged at the heartstrings of many parents. We all want our children to understand our painstaking efforts and live our lives according to our ideas. However, do we really understand them?Their concept of life is different from ours, their pursuits are different from ours, and their world is different from ours. What they need is a parent who understands and supports them, not a parent who imposes their will.
In this new era, we need to rethink the way we educate our families. We should not always demand children based on our own experiences and perceptions, but should respect their choices and support their decisions. We need to learn to let go and let them face life's challenges on their own and achieve their dreams.
Finally, I would like to say to all parents that our children have grown up and they have the ability to manage their own lives. We should believe in them and support them, instead of treating them as little children all the time. Let's work together to create a more free, open, understanding and supportive family environment for our children.
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