In the folk, there are many sayings about children providing for their parents, such as:
"You raise me young, and I raise you old. ”It means that your parents raised you**, and you supported your parents to the end of their lives.
"Raise children to prevent old age, accumulate grain to prevent hunger. ”It means that if you have more sons, you won't have to worry about having no one to support you when you are old;Only by storing more food in normal times can we prepare for famine in disaster years.
"Don't raise two children, raise two official horses. ”Meaning, it is easy for two brothers to blame each other and kick the ball, or forcibly separate their parents and support one family.
"Don't raise a child, there is no home for a child. ”This is the same as "three monks have no water to eat".
The saying that these children provide for their parents has infiltrated life and spoken of human nature.
On December 14, the "Journey" program of Phoenix.com, with the title of "The Old People in the Nursing Home", broadcast an interview with two elderly people in a nursing home in Tianjin, Hebei Province. After reading it, many people are full of emotion, thousands of thoughts, and can't let go for a long time!
The reporter first interviewed Uncle Bao, who was 62 years old and half-paralyzed and unable to take care of himself.
Reporter: "The Chinese New Year is coming up in less than two months, where are you spending?"”
Uncle Bao pointed to the floor: "Nursing home." ”
Reporter: "My son won't pick you up for the New Year?"”
Uncle Bao: "What are you doing there?" Isn't it just a Chinese New Year's Eve meal, eaten anywhere. The first dumpling and the first two noodles, I eat them here, why do I go home?In previous years, during the Chinese New Year, I was taken back by car, and I couldn't stay at home for a day or two, so why did I do it. Don't look at this pull away and send it back, people's mood has changed several times. What you can do, what the nursing home can solve, don't bother your children with anything, it's useless. ”
The reporter also interviewed 90-year-old Grandma Yu, a retired middle school teacher.
When the reporter asked where to celebrate the New Year, Grandma Yu sat on the bed and stretched out two fingers:
I've been back twice in 8 years. Later I said I wasn't going back. People sleep on holidays, and I can't call them all up to cook for me when I get up to eat. Okay, don't go. ”
After watching the interviews with these two old people, some netizens shed tears, some netizens fell into deep thought, some netizens thought of their elderly parents, and some netizens thought about what they would do when they got old in the future......
At the same time, the current situation of the pension life of these two elderly people has also aroused heated discussions among many netizens.
Some netizens think:
These two elderly people are in nursing homes, which shows that the children have not fulfilled their obligations of filial piety and support.
Some netizens think:
The concept of "raising children to prevent old age" is outdated and unrealistic. Think about it, after the only child gets married, there are 4 old people, their own children, and they have to work to support their families, so they have so much time and energy to take care of the elderly?They also have more than enough to do.
Some netizens think:
It is already very good for these two elderly people to retire in a nursing home with better conditions and enjoy their old age in peace. For example, the elderly in rural areas have no pension and rely on their children to support them, so their pension problem is very difficult.
Some netizens think:
In rural areas, when parents are old and cannot live independently or take care of themselves, most of them live with their children, and it is better to have children to take care of and family to accompany them, than to live in a nursing home.
Some netizens think:
These two old men are still relatively open-minded and transparent. I know that my children are busy with work and life pressure, and my children's age is not young. If you blindly rely on your children, count on your children, and pin all your hopes on your children, your children will be powerless, and it will be difficult to do it, and it will be even more difficult to do it well. So, no matter how old you are, you are most reliable on your own.
Some netizens think:
Even if the parents live in a nursing home, even if the parents do not ask too much, even if the children do not usually have more time to spend with them. However, during the holidays and weekends, you can always take time to visit the nursing home and talk to your parents. When people get older, they have less material needs, and more psychological comfort and family companionship.
In the face of their own pension problems, these two old people are open-minded and generous. However, it also reveals a kind of helplessness and sadness!
In reality, the pension problem is a very real problem, and it is a hurdle that everyone can't get around. Therefore, for their future pension, you should see clearly and think clearly.
That is to say, everyone should change the traditional concept of old-age care, do not count on children, do not rely on children, and do not complain about children.
Parents have the obligation to raise their children, but they are not obligated to raise their grandchildren, let alone to help their children indefinitely. It's best to save more money when you're young to prepare for retirement in the futureIt is best to take care of yourself when you can take care of yourself, and go to a nursing home when you can't. In this way, the family is relaxed, and many family conflicts can also be reduced.
There is such a passage on the Internet that parents send to their children, which is very good and can give us inspiration:
I raised you, not as a kindness, but as a biological instinct due to blood. Therefore I have no grace to you, and you need not repay me. On the contrary, I want to thank you, because my life is more complete because of your participation. I just happened to be your parent, and you just happened to be my child. I'm not your prequel, and you're not my sequel. You are an individual, a different soul than I am. You didn't come because of me, you came because of a desire for life. You are free, I love you, but I will never control your life in the name of love. ”
As an elderly person, it is also necessary to recognize such a reality:
A parent's home is a child's home, and a child's home is not necessarily a parent's home.
Different age groups have different lifestyles, so don't force your children to revolve around them all dayLearn to adapt to loneliness and enjoy loneliness;Try your best to be happy and supportive of your old age, and to age with dignity and dignity.
As a child, you must also understand a truth:
Everyone will grow old one day, and everyone will eventually grow old. Therefore, do your best to be filial and do your best to treat your elderly parents well, so that you and your parents have fewer regrets. Autumn and Winter Check-in Challenge