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It is said that Tu Shanjing wins in one mouth, every time he turns on the confession mode, there will always be many people shouting, too good at speaking, too moving.
But let's not forget that Tu Shanjing is a fox with 800 hearts and eyesIt is true that he has affection for Xiao Yao, but because of this, he has used scheming routines in Xiao Yao.
The most typical is his marriage proposal speech, from which some people read affectionately, and some people read from it black.
Today, let's interpret what kind of scheming routine is hidden in Tu Shanjing's marriage proposal.
First, provoke Xiaoyao's inner uneasiness and make her unconfident.
The opening remarks of Tu Shanjing's marriage proposal are to talk about his imagination of his future wife when he was young:
In the folk song of Hanshui, "My Fair Lady, Gentleman is Good", every teenager can't help but look forward to what his future wife will be like after understanding the lyrics.Fengfeng Yiying was selected for him by Jing's mother according to this set of standards, and Jing knew that Xiaoyao did not meet it, but he still said it unabashedly.I was the same when I was young, thinking that she should have a beautiful appearance, a gentle and demure temperament, know how to play the piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, know a little about cooking and female celebrity, not taciturn, not too talkative, not too talkative, can govern the family, advance and retreat appropriately, and it is best to know how to do business, so that when I mention the affairs of the family, she does not understand ...... at all”
Sure enough, Xiao Yao listened, and subconsciously compared himself with himself in his heart, and felt uneasy in his heart.
However, although she is uneasy, she still has confidence, so she will dismiss them one by one, and she can't laugh at herself.
Naturally, she was expecting to hear Jing's denial, but Jing nodded in agreement, which made her both uneasy and annoyed.
Second, output a unique meal of "desire to promote and suppress first", belittle Xiaoyao and elevate himself
If what Jing said earlier still had the meaning of teasing Xiao Yao, then after entering the topic, he was wearing a veil of warmth and affection to suppress Xiao Yao clearly.
Jing looked at Xiao Yao gently, "You are not demure, but I am already very quiet, and I just need you to be noisy and active;You are not gentle, you want to do it when you don't agree with me, but when you help me wash my hair and feed me medicine, you are extremely meticulous and patient;At first glance, it sounds quite affectionate, don't be in a hurry to be moved, let's take a look first, what is special about this "want to promote and suppress".You don't know how to play the piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, but I can, which is just convenient for me to show off;You don't understand female red, but I'm not marrying a weaver girl, a hundred jade shells can buy the most ingenious weaver girl in the Great Wilderness;You can't do business, I will, it's more than enough to support you......”
The normal desire to promote is like this:
Though you don't have a-merits, you have b-merits.Tu Shanjing's desire to promote first is:Although you don't have a C merit, you do have a D merit ......
While you won't a, but I will, I don't mind.Highlight it!Normal desire to promote is suppressed first, it is you who is suppressed, and it is you who is promoted. And Tu Shanjing's desire to promote is suppressed first, it is Xiaoyao who is suppressed, and it is himself who is promoted.Although you won't b, but I will, I don't dislike it.
You won't c, but I will, exactly ...... my terms
We know that although Xiao Yao does not meet his set of standards, Xiao Yao also has many advantages, such as first-class medical skills and poison skills, smart and intelligent, hearty and generous, and sincere to others.
But Tu Shanjing said a lot, and mentioned that Xiaoyao has no advantages?
No, the only thing mentioned is that Xiao Yao takes care of him gently and meticulously.
I can't say it's not a merit, but it's like a woman who is obviously very good and outstanding, but her husband only praises her for being gentle and virtuous.
And in these words, he mentioned a lot of his advantages, I am quiet, I can play the piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, I have money, I can do business, ......
In short, although you can't do anything, I can do everything, and we can still live together.
If this feeling of inequality isn't obvious enough, let's compare what Hong Leong said when he proposed:
Regardless of your appearance and temperament, you are naturally the best, and I am not bad, at least standing with you, it will only make people envious, and no one will sigh that a flower is inserted in cow dung. ”Hong Leong's meaning is straightforward, you are good, I am not bad, we are a good match. This is a healthy and equal relationship!
Third, give Xiaoyao a reassurance, even if you are useless, I love you the same.
I have to say that the reason why many women are moved by Jing's words is precisely because they get this "sense of security" from itI feel that no matter what I look like, even if I am useless, the other person will love me.
Wake up!You might as well ask yourself first, if the other person is good for nothing and lackluster, can you be loved?
Not to mention that men and women can't do it, even their biological parents will have a very different attitude towards you who are good for nothing, and you who are excellent and outstanding.
Therefore, such words can only be listened to as sweet words, just laugh and pass, there is no need to be moved, let alone take it seriously.
Tu Shanjing's set of marriage proposal process came down, Ye Qiqi's shadow was gone, the image of Qingqiu Gongzi stood up, and Xiao Yao agreed to him shyly and timidly.
It's really "extremely clever"!