Good evening, I'm SuperThe last two months are my birthday and wedding anniversary, and because I have celebrated several important dates with my lover one after another, I suddenly caught some small details: this married man is a bit girly. I've hinted to him a couple of times last month that I want matcha cake, but I want him to surprise me (I know it's contradictory, don't scold me). Unexpectedly, when he mentioned the surprise, he was aggrieved first, and muttered, "You haven't surprised me for several years......”I was shocked and thought, "What do men care about?".Then I silently thought about the past few years in my heart, and I didn't seem to have given him any surprises, and a sense of guilt arose. I even thought like a scumbag: Aren't you straight men just asking what you want, and then just giving it to you??I really never thought that men would care about surprises and rituals. 
And before this last month, another incident happened this month, which made me realize that this man is not as simple as I thought. Last week we went to celebrate our first wedding anniversary and came home to find that he had lost his wedding ring. Actually, this incident didn't make me angry, because I knew that he would get sweat and herpes when he wore the ring, and he usually had to take off the ring after wearing it for a while, so it was normal to accidentally lose it when he went out to play. In the evening, I saw that he had been very nervous to find a ring for the store he had been to in the afternoon, so I comforted him very calmly and said, "It's okay, anyway, your hands are easy to blister, so don't wear it if you lose it." ”As a result, he looked at me incredulously, and then said very seriously, "How is that possible?".Of course you can't wear it!Even if I don't wear it, I'll have to have a wedding ring!Next week, we will go to the store to make up for it, and we can't do without a wedding ring when we get married. ”
I was shocked, good guy, he is such a "traditional" man, I really didn't see it. He is usually a person who is very afraid of trouble, and he doesn't like to engage in these things. I always thought that he didn't care about these things at all, but I didn't know that after ten years of getting along, I found out that this man still has such a side. 
In fact, if you think about it carefully, he also had some small details in the past that slightly revealed that he cared about "being with me".
For example, when I went out with a group of friends, I wore a couple's outfit with my gloves, and even if he had changed into other clothes, he would silently take them off and put on the same clothes as me. Several times I said that you don't have to wear it like this, and he would say in a weird way that I just want to wear it like this, you don't care. And when I'm out and about, no matter who I take pictures with, he must stand next to me. Usually you can walk without holding hands, but when you take pictures, he must stand next to me and hug me, as if he is very obsessed** What is left in ** must be the way we are together. Hu Xinshu also complained to me that she and Pa went to crossfit class and had a group photo session at the end. Every time she arrives at the group photo, she will hurriedly ask her to change into couple clothes, ensuring that they must wear couple clothes in the group photo. How so?All this makes me feel that straight men are also delicate, sensitive, and even a little cute in love. 
Many men usually seem to be nervous, but in fact, in love, they are like little girls who have just fallen in love, saying that they don't care and that they care to death in their hearts. They will also be eager to wear the same clothes as their loved ones, wear couple rings, receive gifts that their loved ones have carefully prepared and carefully treasure, and occasionally take them out to caress them.
In the face of love, it seems that everyone will become nervous and humble, and they will be careful about the slightest emotional value.
It's also a joke to think about, isn't that how you like someone?will care whether the other party is attentive to himself or not, and whether he pays enough attention to himself. Even if they have been together for a long time, they still long to be treated as a top priority by each other forever as they were when they were in love.
Whether you are a man or a woman, what it will look like if you are really in love, and the stereotype of gender will disappear and return to zero. There are not so many men who should be like women and what women should be, but people who love each other will care about each other. 
Through these things, I also realized that love is to compare hearts to hearts. The emotional value I want in a relationship is most likely what the other party desires, which is actually very important for maintaining intimacy. Many people will talk about love very rough after being together for a long time, and keep saying "it's like this when it comes to the burnout period", but in fact, they know in their hearts that no one is willing to work harder for anyone. To be honest, this kind of love is quite boring. Anyway, I'm determined to make love a little more delicate, really. If you don't want to be that kind of tasteless old husband and wife, you have to work hard for the relationship, otherwise you will really have to live a life if you relax. 
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