Adolescent children's rebellion often causes anxiety and anxiety among parents. In the face of the child's sudden rebellion, parents must first calm down, investigate the child's daily life, and find out the reason for the child's changes. Learn more about the things that children have been focusing on and their likes recently, and sometimes be able to work with them to ** these new things, so as not to make children feel that they have a generation gap with themselves.
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How do rebellious children communicate and channel?
1. Understand the rebellious period.
Because of the prejudice against the rebellious period, it will magnify the child's shortcomings, and will anger and scold the child when the child does something wrong and may not be able to do it. The rebellious period is a stage that every child will experience, as a psychological transition period in the child's growth stage, it will enter the rebellious period at a fixed age, and we must accept this reality. If the child does not get the correct guidance, and the parents do not teach them to reasonably resolve their feelings, they will show rebellious behavior.
2. Receive the mood.
Rebellious children are unstable and sensitive, they are easily influenced by the outside world, they care a lot about what others think of them, and they pay more attention to whether their parents can see them. First of all, we need to receive the child's mood, the bad mood of the rebellious period makes them feel isolated, and our parents are also very simple "care is chaos", it doesn't hurt to do nothing, just accept the child's mood honestly, give the child a hug, and soothe the child's anxiety, anxiety and other moods.
3. Establish a bridge of communication.
Be able to chat with them regularly and learn about their lives, friends, and hobbies. Don't just ask questions, listen to their answers, and show your hobby. Also, if your child is willing to share their problems and worries with you, don't offer solutions right away, listen and provide support. In the process of building good communication bridges, you will be able to better understand your child's needs and feelings, and then guide them better.
4. Transposition consideration.
Parents also came from the rebellious period of adolescence, but they did not have their own children to reflect significantly, so in the face of their children's incomprehensible behavior, there is no harm in empathizing and thinking about why the child is like this. After empathy, you will understand the child and find out the crux of the problem.
5. Reduce the burden on children.
Mom and Dad all have: "hope that the son will become a dragon, hope that the daughter will become a phoenix", and even some parents impose their unfulfilled wishes on their children, and the children will come back from school to carry out training that they are not happy with, so that the children do not have a good energy to relax, which brings a lot of energy pressure to the children, causing them to hate life, the rebellious period comes in advance, and I hope that parents will let their children learn when they give them time to play.
What are the manifestations of rebellious boys?
1. The mood is shaken.
This is one of the most striking manifestations of the boy's rebellious period. They may be furious over small things and become extremely unstable. This mood swing may also be accompanied by some excesses, such as throwing things and running away from home.
2. Fight for prestige.
Boys in the rebellious period will begin to fight against the prestige of their parents. They no longer blindly obey their parents as they once did, but begin to express their opinions and choices. They may question Mom and Dad's decision, or even openly rebel.
3. Changes in social behavior.
Rebellious boys also have changes in their social behavior. They may start to make bad friends and develop a penchant for bad behavior.