I haven't been pregnant for 5 years after marriage, and I went to the hospital to check my daughter-in-law and didn't have a **, and my son's explanation made me unbelievable.
I am a retired teacher, and I have a son named Xiaoqiang, who is a good lawyer, but he never falls in love and does not want to get married, which makes me and my wife very worried. We always thought that he would be able to find a good girl, start a happy family, and add a grandchild to us, but he had no interest in these things, and even some disgusted them.
We decided to introduce him to a suitable girl, we found a lot of information on the Internet, and also reported a lot of blind date activities, but the son was always not interested, and every time it was perfunctory. He said that he was too busy to have time for a relationship or to be tied down, he just wanted to concentrate on doing his job well and contributing to society. We feel that he is too lonely, with no one to accompany him, no one to care about, no one to share, his life is too monotonous, no color, no temperature.
Once, we met a girl named Xiaofang in a blind date corner, she is a **, handsome and lovely, with a pair of bright eyes, giving people a sense of intelligence. Her father is an officer, her mother is a teacher, her family is very harmonious, her character is very gentle, her education is very high, her work is very meaningful, her conditions are excellent, we feel that she is the best candidate for our son.
When my son saw Xiaofang for the first time, I noticed that his expression had changed, he seemed to have a good impression of her, there was a glimmer of light in his eyes, a smile on the corner of his mouth, and a little tenderness in his words. My wife and I were secretly happy and hoped that they would develop further, so we deliberately left them together and made an excuse to leave.
The son and Xiaofang chatted very speculatively, they both like to read, watch movies, travel, and have many common hobbies, they quickly exchanged *** agreed on the next time they met. They began to communicate frequently, texting, meeting, dating, their feelings became deeper and deeper, their smiles became brighter and brighter, their manners became more and more intimate, their topics became more and more numerous, and their future became more and more beautiful.
When I got home, my wife and I asked our son what he thought of Xiaofang, and he said, "She's very nice, I want to date her." "This makes us ecstatic, we feel that our son has finally found his own happiness, we feel that Xiaofang is a gift from God, we feel that our family is about to welcome a new member, and we feel that our life is about to become better.
After our son and Xiaofang dated for half a year, we urged them to get married. We feel that they already know each other, trust each other, love each other, fit each other, they have no worries, no obstacles, no hesitations, they are ready to move towards the palace of marriage, they are ready to start a new life. We want to give them a grand wedding, so that their family and friends can witness their happiness, let their love be blessed, and let their marriage be recognized.
Xiaofang's father is an officer, he is very strict, he asks for 300,000 yuan as soon as he opens his mouth, and he doesn't agree if he doesn't give it. He said that this was his daughter's dowry, and it was also his son's test to see if he was capable, sincere, responsible, and responsible. He said that he was not greedy for money, nor was he selling his daughter, he just wanted to give them a good starting point, a good guarantee, and a good future. He said that he was not a casual person, nor was he a casual father, he just wanted to give them a good advice, a good choice, a good opportunity.
I feel very uncomfortable in my heart, I feel that their family is too snobbish, they don't value feelings, they only value money, they don't really bless their daughter, but they want to make a fortune from us, they don't really welcome our son, but they want to give him a problem, they don't really respect our family, but they want to put pressure on us. I think what they do is very unreasonable, very inappropriate, very unreasonable, very impolite, very unseemly.
But looking at my son's reluctant look, I had to grit my teeth and agree. I know that my son really loves Xiaofang, he doesn't want to lose her because of money, he doesn't want to hurt her because of his father's attitude, he doesn't want to give up on her because of the difficulty of marriage, he doesn't want to miss her for any reason. I know that my son has grown up, he has his own ideas, he has his own judgments, he has his own choices, he has his own happiness. I know I can no longer make decisions for him, I can no longer interfere in his life, I can no longer hinder his love, I can no longer sabotage his marriage. I can only support him, bless him, help him, and accompany him.
After getting married, I was expecting them to have a baby as soon as possible, but they always excused themselves on the excuse that they were busy with work, wanted to save money, and wanted to buy a house. They say they are still young, they still have time, they still have opportunities, they still have plans, they still have goals, they still have dreams, they say they don't want to be parents too early, they say they want to enjoy the world of two people more, they say they want to work hard for themselves more, they say they want to prepare more for their children. They say a lot, but I can't listen, I just.
They said a lot, but I couldn't listen to them, I just thought they were making excuses, procrastinating, evading, cheating, and wasting. I don't think they understand the meaning of life, the importance of family, the preciousness of children, the mood of parents, the weight of responsibility, and the hard-won happiness. I think they are selfish, short-sighted, ignorant, cold, ruthless, and shameless.
After a long time, I wondered if there was something wrong with them and they couldn't have children, and I was very anxious, after all, my son was not too young to delay any longer. I started urging them to go to the hospital for a check-up, I thought that this matter should be resolved sooner rather than later, but they always found all kinds of excuses to prevaricate, as if they didn't care about this matter. They say that they have no problems, they just don't have the right moment, they just don't have the right moment, they just don't have the necessary rush, they just don't have enough confidence, they just don't have a good reason, they just don't have extra energy. They say a lot, but I can't see it, I just think they are deceiving, shirking, hiding, evading, rejecting, and resisting.
Time flashed, five years have passed, I still haven't hugged my grandson, I'm so angry that I can't help but find my daughter-in-law, although a little rude, but I can't bear it anymore. I forcibly took my daughter-in-law to the hospital, I thought I must find out this time, and the result, the doctor's examination results surprised me, and my daughter-in-law turned out to be still **, which made me unacceptable. I was stupid, I didn't know what to do for a while, I couldn't blame my daughter-in-law, I could only go to my son, I went to him in a fit of rage and asked him, "What the hell is going on with you?"The daughter-in-law is still **, you haven't touched her in five years of marriage?”
My son looked at me and froze, he said a lot of things, and finally said that I forced him to get married, he actually didn't like women, he just reluctantly married his daughter-in-law for the sake of my face. He said that he has always had a boyfriend, they have been in love for ten years, they are the real partners, they are the real happiness, they are the real themselves. He said he didn't want to pretend anymore, he didn't want to deceive anymore, he didn't want to suffer anymore, he didn't want to sacrifice anymore, he didn't want to betray anymore, he didn't want to hide anymore. He said that he and his boyfriend would come out together, divorce together, live together, face together, struggle together, and be happy together.
I was so angry when I heard this, I said angrily: "Then didn't you hurt Xiaofang?"Do you know how much she paid for you?She's a good girl, how can you do this to her?"I think he's too irresponsible, too disrespectful, too ungrateful, too shameless, too unaware of what love is, too unaware of what marriage is. I think he's a scum, a **, a brute, a demon, a sinner, and a piece of trash.
The son said coldly: "My daughter-in-law doesn't really want to marry me, her father saw that you gave so much money, so he forced her to marry me." She also knew that I didn't love her, she didn't love me, we were just husband and wife in name, without any feelings, without any intimacy, without any communication, without any commonality, without any happiness, without any future. We are only for our own interests, for our parents, for our societies, for our own images, for our own stability, and for our own freedom. We're just a deal, a **, a tragedy, a mistake, a nightmare, a joke. It's useless for you to blame me. ”
I was so angry that I wanted to cut off relations with him, I felt that after so many years of raising him for nothing, he was so ruthless to me and my daughter-in-law, I was really chilled. I don't think he's my own, he's not my education, he's not my love, he's not what I expect, he's not my pride, he's not my happiness. I felt like he was a stranger, an enemy, a terrible, a hateful, a pathetic, a pitiful.
I decided to call my daughter-in-law over and talk to her, and I said, "If you want a divorce, I won't stop you, if you want to stay, consider adopting a child." "I think she's innocent, pitiful, sympathetic, respectful, loving, and happy. I think she's a good girl, a good daughter-in-law, a good person, a good friend, a good partner, and a good mother.
The daughter-in-law cried and said, "Mother-in-law, you are better to me than my own mother, I really don't want to leave you and this family." We can have babies through artificial insemination and I'm willing to try. She said that she didn't blame her son, nor me, nor herself, nor anyone, she said that it was the arrangement of fate, the test of God, the challenge of life, the price of love, the crisis of marriage, and the opportunity for happiness. She said she didn't want to give up, she didn't want to run away, she didn't want to complain, she didn't want to complain, she didn't want to be sad, she didn't want to despair. She said she wanted to work hard, she wanted to persevere, she wanted to.
She said she wanted to work hard, to persevere, to change, to struggle, to be happy, and to have a child. She said that she was not afraid of difficulties, pain, sacrifice, giving, failure, or loneliness. She said she had faith, courage, wisdom, patience, love, and hope.
Hearing her words, I was immediately moved to tears, all these years, I have always regarded my daughter-in-law as my own daughter and took her affairs to heart. Ten years of seeing my mother-in-law and ten years of seeing my daughter-in-law, we have experienced so much together, there are joys and sorrows, and there are quarrels, but we all understand each other, support each other, care for each other, respect each other, love each other, and rely on each other. We have become a family, a team, a partner, a friend, a mother and daughter, and a mother.
I hugged my daughter-in-law tightly and said gratefully, "Child, are you really willing to try artificial insemination?""I think she's an amazing woman, a strong woman, a brave woman, a great woman, a beautiful woman, a lucky woman. I think she's an angel, a miracle, a miracle, a treasure, a gift, a blessing.
The daughter-in-law nodded, tears still flashing on her cheeks: "Mother-in-law, I know this decision is difficult, but I am willing to work hard." Because of the love you and Dad. She said that she didn't care about other people's opinions, social pressure, moral constraints, legal regulations, her own body, and her son's attitude. She said that she only cared about our feelings, only about our happiness, only about our family, only about our future, only about our children, only about our love.
So, our family sat down and began to discuss the artificial insemination and specific plans in detail. We decided to find a reliable hospital, a professional doctor, a suitable time, a legal way, a safe method, a healthy embryo. We decided not to tell our son, not to tell Xiaofang's father, not to tell anyone, we decided to keep a secret, keep a low profile, keep silent, maintain dignity, keep faith, and stay happy. We decided that no matter what the outcome was, we would all accept, we would all support, we would all accompany, we would all encourage, we would all appreciate, we would all celebrate.
On this important decision, we will be closely united in the pursuit of our happiness. We believe that with our love, our efforts, our perseverance, our faith, our hopes, and our prayers, we will be able to achieve our dreams, we will be able to have our children, and we will be able to become our mothers.