"Where there are people, there isRelationships”。InSocial interactionEtiquette is particularly important. Especially in the countryside, people often say "follow the customs", that is, participating in various festive occasions is a kind of face, but also an establishmentRelationshipsin a necessary way. Because of this, social rules play an important role in village life. This article will use the example of a man's experience during the celebration of his son's 100-day full moon to illustrate the etiquette and exchangeRelationshipsIn the countrysideSocialin importance.
The man had been working outside the home for a long time and had a son with a wife who was married outside the city. When he returned to his hometown for the first time, he held a banquet to celebrate his son's full moon. The villagers came one after another, prepared 18 tables of banquets, and even later increased to 20 tables, the scene was enthusiastic, and the gift money was not small. Although it isRural, but each gift is two or three hundred yuan, and the man is proud of his face. He mistakenly thought that he was working in the city, that he was from the city, and that the villagers were all attending his banquet in praise of him. He triumphantly thought that he was admired and respected by the villagers, and felt that he was better off than them. However, when his son's 100-day full moon arrived, the man again prepared a 30-table feast, expecting the enthusiastic applause of the villagers. However, it backfired, and this time there were only 7 tables of guests, which was far less lively than the last time. The man was surprised and puzzled.
Why did there be so many people last time and almost no one came this time?In fact, the man worked outside the home for a long time, hardly participated in the activities of the villagers, and did not give gifts to others. This shows that he is not particularly close to the villagers. So why did the villagers for the first time for his sonFull moon wineWhat about enthusiastic participation?The reason is simple, the boy's parents are still in the village, and they also participate in other people's celebrations and give gifts. The villagers attend the man's feast because they want to maintain a relationship with the man's parents, which is to respect the elders and maintain itRelationships, and not because they are particularly fond of men. However, when the man held two consecutive banquets in anticipation of receiving the gift money, the villagers were dissatisfied. They believe that the person, who does not usually participate in village activities, just wants to make money by holding banquets. The villagers no longer want to be taken advantage of, so only a few people come to attend, resulting in a deserted banquet.
This story teaches us that etiquette is reconciledRelationshipsIn the countrysideSocialis especially important. InRuralPeople are sophisticatedIt's mutual, and if you're not willing to get involved in other people's things, they'll be indifferent in return. In the countrysideSocial, people pay attention to maintenanceRelationships, which is a form of respect for elders and traditionsRusticThe expression of culture. If a person does not participate in village activities for a long time and does not establish a real intimate relationship with the villagers, his feast will not be supported and participated by the villagers. For those who work in the city and want to maintain ties with the village, they can only be truly welcomed if they genuinely interact with the villagers. Giving the villagers a free banquet is not only a way to praise them, but also a way to respect and show them kindness.
Overall, the story tells us that etiquette and exchangesRelationshipsIt is based on mutual respect and care. If we only care about our own interests and do not think about the feelings of others, we will lose something more precious than money. In modern timesSocialMedium,RelationshipsThe importance cannot be overlooked. Whether in the city or in the countryside, people should focus on interacting with others and building a realRelationshipsso that it can be inSocialfor more understanding, support, and assistance. At the same time, we should always keep in mind the countrysidePeople are sophisticatedand social rules, to live in harmony with people in this traditional way, thus gaining more sincerity and friendship.