The variety show "Love's Study Trip" was suddenly spurred by netizens by the pair of Zhu Dan and Zhou Yiwei, they are comparing themselves from life to parenting, blooming full of happiness, no wonder people can't stop snorting. When the parenting chapter of the school group was launched, and the guests chatted about parenting at lunch in Kuqa Wangfu, Zhu Dan and Zhou Yiwei introduced their family's anti-comparison parenting scriptures - neither poor nor rich, teaching children to recognize their own needs and not blindly compare.
Wu Qianyu and Shi Boxiong, who were full of questions about marriage and parenting, asked whether the children were poor or rich, and Zhu Dan said that they should be counted in the middle. She is doing maternal and infant live broadcasts, and she basically buys good-looking fabrics in the live broadcast room, usually for dozens of yuan or more than a hundred. She doesn't think it's poor (it's really not poor to buy something good when you see it), but it's definitely not rich (dare to say rich to the children of rich families).
When Xi Mengyao said that she was struggling with when to buy a mobile phone for her son, and she didn't want to play with electronic products such as mobile phones and iPads for her son too early, Zhu Dan shared her own approach. said that on her daughter's birthday in the past two days, the children now buy that kind of electronic watch, but she didn't buy it for her daughter, she felt that it was too small, so she bought her daughter a watch for more than 100 yuan, thinking that as long as you look at the time, it is not good to have too many functions, and her daughter basically only needs to see the time at this age. And now, ** watches are not cheap, just meet your daughter's current happiness. But when adults surprise children beyond expectations, children are very happy, for example, children are looking forward to a small toy, I give her a bunch, and she will have a surprise.
After the wife shared, it was Zhou Yiwei's turn to be a husband to share, and he said that he should slowly teach his children what they really need and what they really need. You can't be too frugal, and of course you can't be too extravagant, and that's very important to us, so this kind of thing is something that we might have to practice on our own. Of course, I also hope that my children will learn this slowly - how much you need, no comparison. Compare it to whom?When he eats a piece of bread, he will be full, and I will be able to eat a meal, not extravagant.
When watching the sunset at the last stop of the Dunhuang trip - the "West Sea Fleet" scenic spot, Zhou Yiwei also expressed the view that he would not blindly compare and learn to understand his own needs. At that time, Zhu Dan said that they chose the worst room No. 4, but she thought it was perfect, because Zhou Yiwei made everything very comfortable. Zhou Zhouwei's reaction to this was that he didn't think Room 4 was bad, on the contrary, he felt that Room 4 was ideal, and said that he liked Zhu Dan's character of being able to see the essence of things clearly and not comparing with others, and said that it was important to be firm in his own cognition no matter when.
In fact, the fourth room they live in is really simple, giving people the feeling of traveling from Europe to Africa or from the present to a few decades ago, which is really much worse than the housing of the other three pairs of guests. But they don't feel bad, and they are very satisfied, and perhaps the most important point is that they don't compare with others, and only pay attention to the key function of the house - living, although it is simple, but it can also meet various living needs, and this is enough.
Let's listen to their parenting concept, or focus on an anti-comparison. At a time when parenting is becoming more and more volatile, and many people are tired of being rich and happy, they do not blindly follow the trend and put a lot of financial pressure on themselves to raise their children richly, nor do they say that they are very picky, this is not to buy that is not to be bought, but to make a compromise, which does not put too much pressure on themselves, but can surprise their children. And in the final analysis, what they want to teach children is to let them recognize how much they really need, and not to compare with others.
It's so important not to compare at will, although sometimes happiness is compared, but sometimes pain is also compared, when you really practice to the point where you don't blindly compare, your heart is actually very strong, you won't be sad because others have what you don't have, and you will be satisfied that you have what you want.