"A single filament does not form a thread, and a single tree cannot make a forest. ”
This sentence tells us that a person's strength is weak, but if we learn to leverage our strength and use the help and support of others, we will be able to achieve our goals faster.
The stones of other mountains can attack jade, and they can use the power of others for their own use, and they are wise.
A wife who was cheated on before, complained to Scarlett,
said that after she was cheated on, she felt isolated, no one around her could help her, and there was no one to complain, and it felt like it was not just her husband who betrayed her, but the whole world betrayed her.
Scarlett also chatted with this wife, she belongs to the situation of only maintaining the relationship between husband and wife in marriage, her in-laws treat her well, but she will not have a good relationship with her in-laws.
The cheating man has a sister, and he was friends with this original partner before, but after getting married, for some reasons, the relationship became bad.
The original family members were thousands of miles away, so she didn't feel like she was helping her.
In many cases, there are indeed some problems with the original wives.
It can't be that because she is the party who was cheated on, these problems that affect her to solve the extramarital affair cannot be pointed out directly.
Scarlett will take care of the emotions of the original partner, but will also point out these problems.
is like this problem with the original partner, she just needs to manage the relationship, and she can also manage it, but she has a little love brain and pins all her expectations on the cheating man, and this cheating man doesn't want the original partner to be alone with his parents and sister.
He may have had the idea of cheating from the beginning, and he wanted to let the original partner have no help, and the original partner also focused on this man's thoughts, causing her to suffer cheating, and she couldn't even tell others.
Therefore, many times, it is necessary to maintain a relationship with relatives and friends in marriage.
At least someone is on your side, and everyone has a herd mentality.
If most of his relatives and friends are on the side of the original partner, the cheating man will also feel that he is isolated, and if he continues like this, he will not only divorce, but also betray his relatives.
So even if he didn't have reverence for his wife at first, he would have some awe at this time.
Why do we need to maintain good relationships with family and friends?How does maintaining a good relationship between relatives and friends help the original partner?
Many women always find it difficult to maintain a relationship with friends and relatives on the cheating man's side.
Even if it is maintained, between the original partner and the cheating man, they will not choose to help the original partner.
Once the original partner encounters marital problems, he is isolated and helpless, and there is no one to rely on.
But the reality is not like this, the brother will also settle the account, as long as there is a relationship of interest, the wife can also get the support of the cheating man's relatives and friends.
Their support will shake the cheating man and even help the original partner directly solve the extramarital affair.
Especially when the original partner's family is thousands of miles away, wives should learn to maintain the relationship between their in-laws.
Marriage is never just a matter of two people, and you are not married to a cheating man alone.
Most of the time, your marriage is a relationship between two families.
So the original partner, sometimes you have to learn to be flexible, since you have chosen to marry so far away for the cheating man, you have to be prepared.
You can't pin all your hopes on the cheating man alone.
Some things are hard to do, but they are good for you, then you have to do them.
How to maintain the relationship between relatives and friends?There are no permanent enemies, only eternal interests.
The hustle and bustle of the world is for profit, and the hustle and bustle of the world is for profit.
To buy people's hearts, you can directly use interests to establish interest relationships with others.
If you really encounter cheating, compared with the junior, the relatives and friends of the cheating man will be more inclined to choose the original partner with interests.
When you and the cheating man's parents, as well as other loved ones, have common interests.
Even if these people are trying to protect their own interests, they will defend their original wife, as well as your marital relationship.
Human nature is like this, it is not about oneself to hang high, but once it comes to one's own interests, you can ignore family affection and intervene in many things from interests.
How to use the resources around you to solve extramarital affairs?
If the mistress is trying for money, and the mistress is more greedy, this is the point that wives can promote.
If the cheating man really loves the mistress and obeys the mistress, this is also a point that wives can take advantage of.
As long as the mistress appears, the cheating man's partiality towards the mistress will damage the interests of the cheating man's relatives and friends.
Then these people will let the cheating man break up with the mistress in the name of being good for the cheating man.
Compared with the wife separating the mistress alone, finding a group of allies together is more conducive to the wives to solve the extramarital affair.
In the end, Scarlett wants to say that many times wives can choose to give up part of their vested interests, let the relatives and friends of the cheating man stand on your side, and help you separate the cheating man from the mistress.
Even if you don't give up your benefits, in the end, these benefits may be given to the mistress by the cheating man, so the wives take the initiative to spend the benefits in places that are more beneficial to the wives.
Not all extramarital affairs can be resolved by wives on their own.
Sometimes, it is important to learn to buy people's hearts and minds.
If you have any emotional confusion or marital problems, you can pay attention to Scarlett and chat about the specific situation in private messages.
I'm Sijia Yin, your exclusive emotional mentor, sharing emotional cases and helping you answer your questions.