Note: James Sinclair, a very energetic young man who came out of autism, the following text is based on his behavior when he recalls his behavior in autism, and the "Editor's Note" section was written by me.
After receiving help, the closed babies will not express their gratitude, which is unacceptable;
It's also hard to take off your shoes when your feet are sweaty, or to put your feet on the table;
When you want to get something but you don't get it, you get angry, which is even more difficult to accept......
Although in many cases we can tell what is "rude" or "impolite", there are times when it is really difficult to accept. Below, I will list 10 behaviors that are difficult to accept.
Excuse me, can you say that again?”
Well, now again?”
Uh, what are you talking about?”
When talking to us, sometimes it feels like talking to a wall. You may find that no matter how many times you say that sentence, it doesn't respond like a small pebble thrown into the ocean, which seems to be downright rudeness.
In fact, we may hear your voice loud and clear, but the problem is that our senses are also processing other information around us. It may be that while you are talking, we notice a tree swaying in the wind, or a dog barking in the distance, and your voice may sound a little muffled and mixed with this information.
Editor's Note:Most autistic people have difficulty processing sensory information, not because they don't "hear" you, but also because they are receiving other contextual information. It is difficult for them to distinguish between background and subject information. So, what we're seeing is that they don't hear what we're saying, or they're not listening to us at all.
Have you ever tried planning a trip to the store or supermarket with someone with autism?The preparations we've done may put the Navy SEALs to shame!We will prepare again and again for this operation, and check again and again what is needed.
In this case, we must make sure that "nothing goes wrong"!This kind of behavior can be difficult to accept and feel distrustful of others.
Editor's Note:In fact, this is not a distrust, nor is it a reassurance, but a stereotyped behavior.
When I was in school, we held a sponsorship event every year, and students would donate on the anniversary of World War II. At this event, a guest speaker will be invited to discuss their experiences going through one of the bleakest times in the world, and every year, I start laughing uncontrollably. I was inevitably punished by my teachers, and there was opposition from my classmates, which was really bad.
How should laughter be understood by autistic people?The popular theory is that since laughter is one of our innate ways of communicating (one of the first expressions humans have before language), it may be that when our emotions are relatively high, our bodies immediately return to this inherent response and start laughing.
Editor's Note:Most people with autism are "focused" on themselves, often ignoring their surroundings. I remember a mother with autism saying: I was desperate to jump from the window, but he was laughing!
Have you ever heard of the amygdala?This almond-shaped lump is located within our skull, and it is believed to be the cause of our emotions. The amygdala is responsible for recording fear when things aren't quite right, which is why in most normal people, you feel stressed and upset when someone guards you too close.
Whether we've known you for a minute or a decade, we don't feel pressured to be too close to me when we interact with each other. Of course, this doesn't explain why we can get so close, but in my experience, our proximity is directly related to our enthusiasm for conversation (especially when it's a topic we're close to).
So, if an autistic person is too close to you, don't feel offended. If you feel offended, try to tell us that you need to keep your distance from us – remember to be tactful.
Editor's Note:The phenomenon he is talking about here is only the manifestation of some autistic people, some are the opposite, they are especially afraid of being touched by others or others are too close to him, and if you are close to him, he will avoid them.
When you're all dressed up and ready to go out, all of a sudden, we're in a different mood.
In fact, we're probably worried about getting hit by a truck, or getting the flu, or some other unexpected ......I've been through this so many times (so much so that I missed my own surprise party) and trust me, no matter how disappointed you are in us, we're twice as sad about it ourselves.
So, if this happens to you, don't rush and encourage us to open up and say what we fear. If you find that we do want to go out, reassure us or change our way to feel at ease.
Editor's Note:This manifestation is a manifestation of a lack of security in autistic people, so they will be inexplicably nervous and anxious.
Every autistic person is self-righteous and thinks that what they know is all they know, so they will give people a sense of "condescending", and this behavior is called "little professor syndrome".
If you find this behavior annoying, you can try to end our monologue by changing the subject.
Editor's Note:Autistic people are very "attentive and single-minded", I met a young man in Malaysia, although he said that he has come out of autism, but when talking to him, he always talks about the topics he is interested in, and talks endlessly, it doesn't matter if you are interested or not, and I don't even care if you listen to him.
You may think that honesty is a virtue, but when we never put ourselves in other people's shoes and never consider other people's feelings, this honesty is annoying. Most of us have a "literal mindset", we don't lie, we only say what we think is true. The Queen's University report found that when autistic people speak out of place, it's because we think fiction is mean and often don't think it's annoying to tell the truth.
No matter how annoying, don't try to change us.
Editor's Note:Although autism has limited cognition, it is true that they never "make up" something, only say what they think is true.
It's very difficult to talk to us. We may suddenly change the topic and talk about the topic that interests us or that we suddenly think of, and many times, our thoughts suddenly run away from the original topic, and we may not continue with the original topic, and we may be stuck in thinking.
Editor's Note:There is so much and complexity around people with autism that it can be difficult to stay on topic.
Whether it's in a hospital or a museum, we can suddenly speak loudly, which is obviously inappropriate and inappropriate. In many cases, it has to do with our ability to regulate our senses – because we may not be aware of how loud our voices are. Similarly, we may mistakenly think that we need to speak up to be heard.
This is a difficult problem to deal with, as we are likely to do it one after the other. For this reason, just explain to us that we may need to be quieter, but be patient.
Editor's Note:Autistic people lack sensory information processing ability, cannot judge the volume of others' voices, and cannot grasp their own volumeOn the other hand, most people with autism lack the ability to empathize, i.e., empathy.
We like "certain" things and don't like "uncertain" things, so sometimes we do things "in order" and follow the rules, but not always. We like our own rules and don't like the rules made by others.
Editor's Note:Autistic people have rules about objects, such as the placement of slippers, the placement of toys, the order of doing things, etc., which not only have rules, but also seem very rigid;They are obviously much worse at social rules, such as saying thank you when you receive a gift, letting someone else go first when you go out, paying for something, saying hello to acquaintances, and so on.