Mother-in-law visits Cold Face Diary
At four o'clock in the morning, Helan was woken up by the alarm clock and stayed awake all night, her mind full of various recipes.
Helan, who sat up, began to nag in her mouth: shrimp, pork ribs, fish, pork vermicelli, ......Mother-in-law visits Cold Face Diary
The wife complained in a daze: "You said it eighteen times from beginning to end last night, and you didn't sleep well, why do you worry so much about this little thing."
Helan slapped his wife on the thigh: "Get up quickly, go to the morning market with me, if it's too late, you'll be picked up fresh, my daughter-in-law will come to the door for the first time, and I have to entertain you well." ”
My wife was so excited by this slap that she didn't feel sleepy.
The reason why Helan is chattering is because two days ago, her son Xu Fei called ** and said that he would bring his girlfriend to discuss marriage.
The key is that her daughter-in-law is from the south, and when she came to the door for the first time, Helan couldn't figure out her eating habits, so she was inevitably a little nervous.
The daughter-in-law looked at the ten **s piled up on the dinner table, full of weight, and was stunned in surprise.
Helan looked at the thin figure of the daughter-in-law, and her voice was as soft as a cat's meow, and she was also a little dumbfounded.
The daughter-in-law broke a steamed bun into four pieces and chewed it in small bites.
Helan was afraid that she would be too polite, so she put chopsticks and chopsticks in her bowl, and said enthusiastically: "Taste the taste of our northerners' cooking, and see if you can get used to it." ”
The daughter-in-law, who was accustomed to Wu Nong's whispering, suddenly heard Helan's loud voice, and was so frightened that the dishes on the chopsticks fell on the table.
Xu Fei smiled and said: "Mom, she is not used to talking in a small voice, when I first came to work in the south, I was as loud as when I was in my hometown, and my colleagues thought I was a hot-tempered person." ”
Helan was a little embarrassed, and after talking for most of her life, she didn't know how to speak.
Xu Fei's father said in a smug manner: "This is the difference between the north and the south, northerners speak more directly, boldly, roughly, and are used to speaking loudly when encountering problems;Jiangnan, misty and misty, small bridges and flowing water, have created a delicate and soft character, and the accent is tactful and changeable. ”
Xu Fei jokingly said that his father was very knowledgeable, while Helan laughed at his wife, who had never been to the south, but said so much seriously.
The family chatted while eating and the atmosphere was very nice.
In the end, Xu Fei proposed to hold two weddings, one in the south and one in his hometown in the north.
The wedding in the north was organized by Helan, and the mother-in-law in the south was presided over by her mother-in-law, whose house was more than an hour away from the city where Xu Fei's new house was located, and relatives, friends and colleagues could participate.
After the son and daughter-in-law left, Helan asked her wife worriedly: "You see, the daughter-in-law is soft and weak, and a wind can blow it away, will it be too squeamish?"If you can't do anything, your son won't be guilty in the future. ”
The wife glanced at her, frowned and said, "What do you want her to do?".Go to the field and break sticks?People just need to do a good job, don't look at your daughter-in-law all day long according to the eyes of the old society and find contradictions. ”
Helan smiled when she heard this: "It's also ha, now young people don't have the opportunity to do manual work, it's me who is too worried." But it's really too thin. ”
It's not just Helan who said this, at the wedding, when her daughter-in-law changed her wedding dress and put on a cheongsam, the neighbors talked about it, saying that she had a small skeleton, a white person, and a special weakness if her height was not dominant.
When chatting, the neighbor said: "Your daughter-in-law is too thin, you have to feed it well and eat fat to give you a grandson." ”
Helan smiled: "What age is this, and you still believe that your ass is good to give birth to?"As long as you are healthy, as for giving birth to grandchildren, we don't care about the younger generation, and we can't control it. ”
Later, when you go to your son's house, I will see if I can come back in vain. It is said that the water and soil in the south raise people, but our north is windy and dry, and the face is not as good-looking as the southerners. The neighbor said.
Helan smiled and said: "I don't want to go, the golden nest and the silver nest ** are not as good as my own nest." ”
Helan said this, but her heart was very itchy, the first had never been to the south, and the second son had never been to Helan from buying a house to getting married, and it was estimated that when she went, it was when her daughter-in-law gave birth.
Before saying goodbye, his wife instructed Helan: "Go to my son's house for a few days and come back, don't stay too long, pay attention to your eyes when doing things, and come back as soon as possible if you don't feel right." ”
Helan felt that her wife's words were too exaggerated, she just went to her son's house, not to someone else's house.
Helan was full of joy when she came to the southern town, and her son and daughter-in-law drove to the station to pick her up.
The scenery in the south of the Yangtze River is picturesque, and Helan keeps taking pictures with her mobile phone, sending them to her wife as she goes, completely ignoring her daughter-in-law's impatient expression.
The son pulled Helan and said, "Let's go home and rest first, and ask for leave to take you to the scenic spot another day, the scenery there is more beautiful, you can take enough pictures." ”
So, Helan put away her mobile phone and took out the sauerkraut she brought from her hometown, and the sauerkraut and pork dumplings she wrapped were fragrant.
The son likes to eat very much, but the daughter-in-law can't get used to it, and spits it into the trash can after biting half of it, Helan looks embarrassed.
She asked aloud, "Don't you like the taste?"Next time I'll wrap other stuffing for you, what stuffing do you like to eat?”
The daughter-in-law chuckled violently, sighed and said, "Mom, be quiet, this house is not well soundproofed, and if you speak loudly, the neighbors may think that we are quarreling." ”
Helan had to speak cautiously, but pinching her throat to speak made her feel a little like a thief.
At night, Helan washed her face and feet and prepared to rest, and her daughter-in-law called out to her and asked in surprise: "Mom, don't you sleep without taking a bath?"”
Ah, I had already taken a shower before I came, and I had washed my hands and feet just now. Helan said puzzledly, thinking to herself, do you have to take a bath to sleep?
This time, Helan saw that her daughter-in-law was unhappy, and only after listening to her son's explanation did she know that southerners are used to taking a shower every day, and their family has developed this habit, otherwise they will always feel unhygienic.
Helan had to hurry to the bathroom and take a shower before going to bed.
I thought that my daughter-in-law was angry because of this incident, but I didn't expect that a few days had passed, and my daughter-in-law had been keeping a straight face, as if she owed her money.
Helan used to buy a lot of vegetables at a time, but when her daughter-in-law saw that the refrigerator was full, she closed the refrigerator door with a "pop", muttered "the best dishes are delicious and fresh" and left.
Helan didn't like to eat rice, so she steamed a basket of steamed buns with a rice cooker, and the mother and daughter ate it deliciously, but the daughter-in-law didn't even touch the steamed buns.
Even the sauerkraut she brought was put in the storage room by her daughter-in-law.
There was no sign of her daughter-in-law's anger anymore, Helan felt that she was really lacking in heart, and hurriedly said goodbye.
After Helan left, Xu Fei showdown his daughter-in-law's attitude towards her mother in the past few days: "My mother came for the first time, and you showed her a cold face every day, what do you mean?."Is it disgusting for my family?”
The daughter-in-law said stiffly: "The living habits are different, why should I accommodate her rhythm?"This is my home, she has to follow my rules when she comes, don't I endure it when I go to your house?I ate what I didn't like to eat, and I put up with it if I wasn't used to it. ”
Did my mom show you a look on your face?Do you have a cold face?Xu Fei asked.
The daughter-in-law was silent.
Xu Fei sneered: "According to your theory, the guest is as you please, I understand, thank you for learning the meaning of this word." ”
The daughter-in-law was confused when she heard it, but Xu Fei had her own plan, a tooth for a tooth, an eye for an eye, this truth had already been taught in primary school textbooks.
The mother-in-law lives close and comes to see her daughter every month, Xu Fei treats her more enthusiastically than her own mother, and does not let her do any housework, and entertains her with delicious food and drink, for fear of making her feel wronged.
After experiencing this incident of his mother's visit, Xu Fei completely changed his previous courteous attitude, lived according to his usual lifestyle, and did not do anything with emotion, with an indifferent face.
The daughter-in-law was dissatisfied with Xu Fei's performance and avoided her mother-in-law's questioning: "What do you mean by this, has my mother offended you?"Who are you looking half-dead to show you?”
Xu Fei ignored his daughter-in-law at all, swaggered to the sofa, and lay there watching TV.
The mother-in-law couldn't help but ask, "Did you two quarrel?".If there is a problem, it should be communicated well, and the Cold War will not solve the problem. ”
Xu Fei said calmly: "No." ”
The mother-in-law didn't believe it: "Then you have a stinky face, don't you welcome me?"Then I'm gone. ”
Xu Fei said lightly: "It's not that I don't welcome you, I'm implementing it according to your daughter's standards, and she says that the guest is as she pleases, so I will do it." ”
The mother-in-law was a reasonable person, and with a gloomy face, she called her daughter to the bedroom, and the mother and daughter muttered for a while before saying goodbye and leaving.
In the middle of the night, Xu Fei received a call from his mother and learned that his daughter-in-law personally called ** to apologize to his mother, and warmly invited her to come back next time.
This made Xu Fei feel a little relieved, at least it was a good start and a good result.
Regardless of the authenticity of the apology, at least it expresses a correct attitude. Xu Fei knows the development of the future relationship between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and he is just a bystander.
In the beginning, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law was harmonious, but some trivial things gradually brewed cracks, which eventually led to ruptures.
Timely communication and problem solving is the key to avoiding the escalation of conflicts. Of course, Xu Fei understands that his son's position is very important. Favoring a mother will make a wife sad, and supporting her will make her sad. The only way to stand on the side of truth is to reassure yourself.
Friends, if you were in Xu Fei's situation, what would you choose to deal with?Do you swallow your anger, or do you pursue justice?In this predicament, how to adjust the situation?