I, an ordinary person who is over 30 years old and still single, deeply feel that my single status has become the focus of discussion among my friends. They got married, started a family, and I was still alone in the world of singleness. Until now, I've been thinking about why I'm still single, and what was my fault?
Perhaps, I have always had too high expectations for love. I had fantasized about a perfect partner who would be empathetic, gentle and considerate, and able to get along with me. However, in reality, there is no such thing as a perfect person. Whenever I spend some time with each other, I find that they are both inadequate, so I retreat, afraid of getting hurt again, afraid of facing possible disappointment. This fear keeps me at a constant distance and prevents me from really being emotionally engaged.
In addition, I have some taboos about social activities. Even though I am a cheerful person, I often feel nervous and cramped when faced with strangers. Social events were like an exam for me and made me feel stressed. As a result, I gradually became resistant to attending various parties, * and other activities, and missed the opportunity to meet potential partners.
I also had low self-esteem because of my own troubles. I often see my friends happily married, and I can't help but ask myself, "Why are they able to find love, but I can't?".Such thoughts not only made me doubt my own charisma, but also affected the formation of self-confidence. I know that low self-esteem is a person's worst enemy, it makes me question my attractiveness and creates resistance for me in the process of finding love.
In addition to the above reasons, social hotspots have also had a certain impact on my single life. Nowadays, there are many problems in the marriage market, such as the polarization of mate selection standards, the proliferation of matchmaking platforms, and the diversification of marriage concepts. These phenomena exacerbate the anxiety of many singles, making it more difficult for them to find a suitable partner. The public concern and controversy have also exacerbated the dilemma of celibacy. Frequent reporting on the current situation of singles exposes singles to greater stress and criticism, further deepening their plight.
However, as I reflect on my own problems, I also understand that being single is not a mistake and should not be seen as a failure. Everyone has their own choices and lifestyles, and for me, being single doesn't mean being lonely and unhappy. I can live my life to the fullest, pursue my dreams, and live a life that truly belongs to me. Being single is not the end of life, but an opportunity to start redefining yourself.
Through this reflection, I realized that what I needed to change was not the existence of others or the outside world, but myself. I should learn to accept my own and others' imperfections, and be brave enough to face possible disappointments and hurts. At the same time, I also want to actively participate in social activities and expand my social circle. On the basis of health and self-confidence, I will face the future more optimistically, believing that there will always be someone who will meet me and accompany me through my life.
At the moment I wrote this, I realized that being single is not a big deal. It shouldn't be an excuse for me to feel confused and blame myself. On the contrary, being single should be my motivation to move forward and pursue happiness. Perhaps, the reason why I am single so far is because I am always looking for perfection, but I should understand that true love is not perfect, but a journey to be able to accept imperfect people and grow with each other.