The simple boy married his unmarried mother, and after marriage, he called his wife ** lake, and frankly said that he couldn't play her
We willingly enter the palace of marriage, from today on, we will jointly shoulder the responsibilities and obligations entrusted to us by marriage: respect parents, teach children, care for each other, respect each other, work together, trust each other, tolerate and understand, go through the ups and downs of life hand in hand, stay affectionate, and love for life!”
This was an affectionate wedding vow, and when Mr. Liu and Ms. Tang read the vows, no one would have imagined that the once sweet love would change dramatically in just three months. In 2019, their marriage came to the point where it now needs a court ruling, and he even said that he was "not played" by his wife....
The fate of Mr. Liu and Ms. Tang can be described as love at first sight.
Mr. Liu recalled that he and Ms. Tang met at a gathering of friends. For Mr. Liu, Ms. Tang is like that heart-warming star, exuding energy and straightforwardness. At the party, he was fascinated by the smiling and cheerful girl who was always smiling, as if it was destined to be the person he had been looking for.
She laughed really charmingly, and she looked upright. At that time, I felt that I was infected by her smile, and her personality was very cheerful and outgoing, which just made up for the shortcomings of my lack of smiling. When I talked to her, I felt very relaxed and happy. Mr. Liu's impression of Ms. Tang was at the beginning.
After getting along for the first time, the two quickly confirmed each other's feelings and officially entered the prelude to love.
Since Mr. Liu has always been an honest man who is good at action and not good at words, he has always adhered to the determination to get married when he fell in love. After confirming that Ms. Tang was the person in his heart, only 5 days later, he quickly went to Ms. Tang's home to propose.
After the deliberation of the parents of both parties, a marriage contract was solemnly signed. With full joy, Mr. Liu brought a dowry worth 10,999 yuan and three gold worth 16,000 yuan to Ms. Tang's home, and solemnly handed over these gifts to the Tang family.
Originally, everything went smoothly according to Mr. Liu's plan, and he was looking forward to marrying the girl he loved, but he encountered some accidents at this critical moment.
What the hell is going on?It turned out that after accepting Mr. Liu's dowry, Ms. Tang suddenly became cold and ruthless, which was in stark contrast to the gentleness and enthusiasm of the past, and even had an ambiguous relationship with other people, which made Mr. Liu feel very distressed.
Regarding Ms. Tang's unusual behavior, Mr. Liu tried to communicate with her many times, but Ms. Tang chose to prevaricate and always avoided him. In a fit of rage, Mr. Liu decided to dissolve the marriage contract and went to Tang's house to return the dowry. However, the attitude of the Tang family made him feel helpless, and months passed, but there was no response, and Ms. Tang refused to even meet once.
was originally reluctant to turn against his in-laws, but the Tang family's disregard for Mr. Liu completely angered him. As a result, Mr. Liu, who could not bear it anymore, resolutely sued Ms. Tang in court, hoping to force Ms. Tang's family to return the dowry through legal means.
An accusation lifts the veil of fraudulent marriage Ms. Tang and her former lover face off in court.
However, in 2019, after Mr. Liu filed charges with the court, Ms. Tang, who had disappeared for several months, suddenly appeared, took the initiative to contact Mr. Liu, and expressed her desire to marry him, hoping that he would withdraw the complaint.
Although Mr. Liu has always cherished an old love for Ms. Tang and came with the intention of getting married, he does not want the two families to have a quarrel. However, considering a series of unexpected actions by Ms. Tang before, Mr. Liu is still cautious about her intention to get married.
In order to dispel Mr. Liu's doubts, Ms. Tang proposed to obtain a marriage certificate. After receiving the marriage certificate, Mr. Liu finally believed in her sincerity and took Ms. Tang to the court to withdraw the previous complaint.
What happened next really surprised Mr. Liu. Shortly after the wedding, just a few days after receiving the marriage certificate, Mr. Liu found that his wife, Ms. Tang, had returned to her previous state of indifference. It turned out that Ms. Tang had promised to get married just to avoid going to court and not wanting to get into a series of troubles.
After receiving the certificate, Ms. Tang made it clear that although they were married, Mr. Liu still could not ask about her life in the future.
What kind of marriage is this?Aren't you married to live together?She doesn't let me be involved in her life, how is that possible?We are legally husband and wife and should have an intimate relationship, but from her words, I feel that she does not see me as a husband at all, but maintains a detached attitude. Mr. Liu was extremely puzzled by this.
When Mr. Liu heard Ms. Tang say that he did not want him to interfere in her life, his first reaction was that he felt that he had been deceived by his wife.
Faced with her husband Mr. Liu's questioning, Ms. Tang immediately responded: "I didn't deceive you, the bride price given by the family is about 30,000 yuan, and I don't need to get the 30,000 yuan through deception." In fact, the bride price of 30,000 yuan is not too much, I just really wanted to spend the rest of my life with you, and I did not put forward too high requirements for the bride price. ”
It turned out that Ms. Tang owned a property in her name with a monthly income of 6,000. For her, the rent income is enough to support her life, so she does not urgently need to covet Mr. Liu's dowry of 30,000 yuan.
Currently, Mr. Liu is staying at his sister's home and is unemployed. He found it ridiculous that Ms. Tang thought he was greedy for family property. Ms. Tang believes that the reason why Mr. Liu misunderstood was that he had some physical defects, which caused him to be extremely sensitive and have low self-esteem.
Because the husband did not fulfill his pre-marital promise, the wife's attitude turned cold after marriage: "Since you are not trying to make my money, nor are you deliberately cheating on marriage, then why did you suddenly disappear after the dowry was paid, and you were cold and ruthless to me after marriage, and emphasized that I can't ask about your life?"We are legally married!Mr. Liu expressed his inner confusion in front of the mediator.
Because you didn't keep your promises. Before you got the certificate, you promised to bear part of my son's child support, but now you can't cash it, and you broke your trust with me before you got married. In front of the mediator, Ms. Tang frankly expressed her inner thoughts.
It turned out that Ms. Tang was an unwed mother who had a child with her ex-boyfriend before she met Mr. Liu. After breaking up with her ex-boyfriend, the court ruled that the child should be raised by her ex-boyfriend, and Ms. Tang had to pay 700 yuan per month in child support.
Due to the emotional trauma she has experienced, she also fell in love this time with the desire to get married. She has experienced passionate love, and now she longs for a stable family, and wants to find an honest person to spend the rest of her life with, share the pressure of real life, and face the responsibility of raising children together.
As for the question of whether Ms. Tang has children, did Mr. Liu know about it at the beginning?If he didn't know before, then Ms. Tang may have been involved in deception. When the mediator questioned Mr. Liu, he said that he did know in advance, but did not have an in-depth understanding of the specific situation.
At that time, because he had a strong impression of Ms. Tang, and he didn't want to miss true love because of this issue, he didn't pay much attention to this matter.
After receiving the marriage certificate, Mr. Liu became hesitant about Ms. Tang's question of having to bear part of the child's support.
He told the mediator: "No one wants to raise a child for someone else, I will have my own children in the future, and I need to take care of my own children and family." She chose to marry me, more often than just hoping to find someone who would share the responsibility of raising the children with her. ”
In the face of Mr. Liu's words, Ms. Tang expressed her inner pain, "When you knew that I had a child, I didn't hide it, and when I put forward the proposal to raise children together, you didn't object. If you had put forward your own opinion at the time, maybe we wouldn't have gotten to the point of getting married, and we wouldn't have gotten into trouble. ”
Ms. Tang's confession made Mr. Liu feel heartbroken, and he said that he really wanted to spend his life with her. He grew up in the countryside, went out to work as an adult, never experienced love, and was almost emotionally blank.
For Ms. Tang, he feels that he has found true love, and hopes to spend a simple and fulfilling life with his lover, even if he lives in poverty, as long as the two of them have a heart-to-heart relationship.
In order to save the marriage, the couple decided to live together and try to marry for 3 months, and Mr. Liu was troubled by the marriage involving interests. He felt that his true feelings had been deceived by Ms. Tang, who had limited emotional experience because he was from the countryside, while Ms. Tang had experienced many feelings and seemed to want to take advantage of his simple willingness to raise children for her to gain the upper hand.
He admits that he has a low level of education, and he works hard as an adult, earning all the money he earns for his hard work. He felt that he could not afford Ms. Tang's request to let him share the burden of raising the child.
Ms. Tang's various behaviors made Mr. Liu feel that he was involved in an asymmetrical situation in an emotional marriage. Deep down, he still cares a lot about helping Ms. Tang raise a child.
Although his feelings for Ms. Tang were sincere, he was willing to accept reconciliation and continue living together, provided that his wife could give him the same sincerity.
The reality is that his wife, on the one hand, demands that he share the parenting responsibilities with her, and on the other hand, she is unwilling to sincerely respond to his efforts. If his time and energy investment is not exchanged for his wife's sincere affection, such a marriage loses its lasting meaning to him.
Under the guidance of the mediator, the two parties had in-depth communication, facing the question of whether to resolutely divorce or continue to spend the future with Ms. Tang.
Mr. Liu said: "I can accept both options. It has always been up to her to decide, and if she chooses to reconcile and is willing to adjust her attitude and no longer focus only on her son, but is willing to treat me with more sincerity, I still hope that we can live together. But if she chooses to separate, it should be more thorough, and the dowry for marriage should also be returned. ”
Ms. Tang responded positively in the face of the immediate emotional crisis. Although their marriage is called a flash marriage, because they have been together for a short time, the relationship has not taken deep roots. However, Ms. Tang emphasized that she chose to be together because of the good feelings between them.
She expressed the importance she attaches to her feelings and shows her willingness to put in the effort to repair the relationship. Ms. Tang said that although the two did not really live together for a day after they got married, it made it difficult for them to understand each other deeply and integrate into each other's lives. Therefore, she proposed to live together in a rented house, believing that the common living environment and atmosphere would help cultivate the relationship between husband and wife and warm up the relationship.
Ms. Tang said frankly that she hopes to live with Mr. Liu and build a common home. She put forward conditions, hoping that Mr. Liu could fulfill his pre-marital promise and jointly assume the responsibility of raising his son. For his part, Mr. Liu accepted the offer of co-living and said that this was what he expected.
Overall, Ms. Tang emphasized the importance of promoting the development of relationships through living together, and expected Mr. Liu to actively fulfill his premarital responsibilities and create a happy family together.
Ms. Tang asked to share child support, but Mr. Liu avoided the issue, leading to another impasse between the two.
Now that they are married, the problem of children cannot be avoided. Mr. Lau stressed that he was marrying a wife, not a stepson, and that the relationship between husband and wife had not yet been properly handled, and that it was obviously putting the cart before the horse.
He hopes that after the relationship between the husband and wife is dealt with, the issue of raising children will be discussed.
Eventually, with the assistance of the mediator, Mr. Liu and Ms. Tang reached a consensus. Mr. Liu will be responsible for renting a house and the two will live together, but Ms. Tang, as his wife, must ensure that she returns home for at least 15 days a month.
After three months, if the parties decide to continue the marriage, Mr. Liu will share half of the alimony. During this three-month relationship, both parties bear their own expenses in order to cultivate a relationship, and remain fair and untouched. After three months, it is decided again whether to insist on the divorce according to the wishes of both parties. Deepen the relationship between husband and wife and realize the true meaning of marriage.
Mr. Liu and Ms. Tang's marriage is more like a love affair with a clear goal than love at first sight. Perhaps from the beginning, Ms. Tang intended to let Mr. Liu share the child support together, or perhaps it was based on this that she chose to start a relationship with Mr. Liu.
As the two gradually got along, Ms. Tang developed a good impression of Mr. Liu, so she was honest about her actual situation and gave Mr. Liu a chance to choose. However, Mr. Liu was deeply in love, paid more attention to his relationship with Ms. Tang, and made hasty promises while ignoring other aspects, which led to the current predicament.
Mr. Liu, who was once intoxicated with love, suddenly came to his senses when his wife raised a practical question and felt that he had fallen into the deception of marriage.
In fact, Ms. Tang is not cheating on marriage, because before marrying Mr. Liu, she had frankly told the other party that she had a son, and she needed to jointly bear the child's maintenance after marriage. At the beginning, Mr. Liu decided to enter the palace of marriage hand in hand with her after agreeing to this condition.
The reason why Ms. Tang initially behaved indifferently to Mr. Liu, and then proposed after marriage that she did not want the other party to interfere in her life, was precisely because Mr. Liu had self-destructed his promise before marriage. If Mr. Liu had kept the agreement between the two parties in the first place, she would not have treated him in this way.
Mr. Lau's handling of this matter was indeed somewhat improper. His wife had already told him that he had a son, and the child support was borne by her ex-boyfriend, and Ms. Tang had to bear the monthly cost of 700 yuan. After learning about this situation, Mr. Liu chose to marry her, in fact, he also acquiesced to this fact and expressed his willingness to share the responsibility of raising her.
However, Mr. Liu repented on this ground after marriage, which is really chilling. Since her husband failed to fulfill the most basic promises, how could Ms. Tang give him sincere affection?
Although Ms. Tang proposed to live together, from Mr. Liu's point of view, he was mainly worried that he would not be rewarded for giving too much for his marriage. Considering his average economic conditions, he wanted to live an ordinary and happy life, but he never expected to be involved with his wife's children.
In Mr. Liu's view, Ms. Tang does not seem to be sincere about him and has not really integrated into their small family. He believes that his wife has always considered problems from the perspective of her own interests, and has not sincerely responded to his feelings, but expects him to give on the one hand to help raise her son.
He was dissatisfied with this unequal relationship and considered it unreasonable. In his opinion, a happy marriage should be based on sincere feelings, and a happy marriage can only be achieved if you are willing to give. He does not agree with the relationship premised on **, believing that this kind of marriage is unsustainable.
In general, the marital status of the two is not normal. They had no experience of living together before they got married, and they never really lived together after marriage, and only had a brief period of love to maintain the nominal marriage.
It all seems to be a wrong union, with Mr. Liu being too calculating in his marriage and Ms. Tang being too realistic. There are problems in the whole marital relationship at the beginning and need to be faced and resolved by both parties.
If Mr. Liu and Ms. Tang can realize this and make moderate compromises within the bottom line of both parties, it is actually possible for them to continue to live together in the future.
Starting from the facts, Ms. Tang is not a so-called master of love, and Mr. Liu is not a simple white rabbit, both of them are adults and should be responsible for their words and deeds.
As a husband, Mr. Liu, if he truly loves Ms. Tang, he can put himself in his wife's shoes, especially understand her guilt as a mother, and want to make up for the child's feelings, and may be able to understand his wife's behavior.
As a wife, Ms. Tang should also consider from Mr. Liu's point of view, her own ability is limited, and it will indeed be troublesome to take care of other people's children in this situation. When you are not sure whether your husband is sincere, you will inevitably have pimples with other people's children.
If the relationship between the two is deep, it may be a different scene, but it is precisely the two people who have not yet had a deep relationship, and when faced with this reality, the fragile emotional dam has collapsed.
Conclusion: Although Mr. Liu believes that Ms. Tang has committed "marriage fraud", from a legal point of view, there is no such thing as "marriage fraud", and it is more appropriate to be the crime of marriage fraud. Specifically, the crime of marriage fraud refers to the act of defrauding the other party of public or private property by fabricating facts or concealing the truth for the purpose of illegal possession, involving a relatively large amount of money.
Regarding the crime of marriage fraud, it mainly includes the following aspects:
In terms of the time when the intent to commit the crime arises, the crime of matrimonial fraud usually occurs before the marriage relationship is established, and its purpose is to illegally take possession of the property of the other party.
Although Mr Lau challenged Ms Tang's conduct, it was not defined in the law as "marriage fraud" and was more applicable to the crime of marriage fraud. This offence involves the acquisition of property by deception, especially before the marriage is formed. In addressing this issue, accountability needs to be pursued in accordance with the law, while at the same time sorting out the facts and ensuring a fair trial.
Although Ms. Tang accepted Mr. Liu's dowry of 30,000 yuan before the marriage, the two have obtained a certificate to become a legally recognized legal couple.
As far as objective conduct is concerned, there are situations where one party obtains the trust of the other party by fabricating facts and concealing the truth, and obtains property by deception. However, during her time with Mr. Liu, Ms. Tang did not hide the fact that she had a child out of wedlock. After consulting Mr. Liu on whether to accept her son, and on the premise that Mr. Liu promised to provide child support, the two decided to enter into marriage. After getting married, Ms. Tang did not squander the 30,000 yuan dowry. From this point of view, Ms. Tang's conduct did not constitute the offence of marriage fraud.
Judging from the definition of the crime of marriage fraud in the law, Ms. Tang's conduct did not strictly constitute marriage fraud.
This so-called "fraudulent marriage" incident finally ended with the husband and wife negotiating a trial marriage for three months. Although they are legally married, it may seem strange to describe them as a "trial marriage", but in the current situation, it is the most appropriate description.
Marriage is far from being child's play, it is not a simple economic exchange, but requires both parties to give sincerely and understand each other. If both parties can consider the problem from the other's point of view, are willing to pay more for each other, not only integrate into each other's lives, but also go deeper into each other's hearts, then the relationship can be warmed up and lasting. On this basis, the issue of child support will also become less important. When the relationship reaches a certain stage, it is not impossible to give birth to another crystallization of love.