A living screw-up guy is not necessarily what he wants.
It's been a few months since I've updated an article in One Point Spirit.,Recently, in addition to work and consulting,I've also talked about a lot of topics with friends.,There's a topic that's very interesting to talk about.,That's what kind of experience it's like to be a living screw.。
Everyone said their own words in the discussion, and in the end they did not give a conclusive conclusion, but there is one point, everyone seems to empathize, the living twisted person is actually very bitter in his heart, like a kind of child who has never been truly fulfilled wishes, holding a kind of worry, expectation, and hope.
Why do you say that, it may be that everyone will unconsciously think about why this kind of person has to live so screwed up when they discuss.
What will happen to the people who live and twist the jaw, it may be that they bought a piece of clothing for thousands of yuan, and after buying it, they regret it and feel that it is expensive;It may also be a flower for a lover, the lover does not accept it, and will wonder if the flowers he sent are not good and not enough to win people's hearts;It is also possible that the child should not be beaten and scolded in education, but when he sees that the child knows how to play in his heart, he will not be angryIt may even be that you are in love with someone who does not express her love for fear of rejection;Or if you don't like something, but in order to show that you are gregarious, try to let yourself slowly accept and like it.
Looking at these examples, I thought about it in my heart, why bother?These feelings of chagrin, regret, incomprehension, and distress are all troubles that I have found for myself, so why bother for these little things. Why bother to get yourself into a quagmire, with constant conflicts in your heart, and you can't really be happy. So, when someone confides in you about this, complains about this, we think if you are too hypocritical, do it, you are toxic.
The person who lives the twisting of the bale does give people a feeling that they can't ask for it and want to keep pursuing, which is a bit similar to the paranoid type, or the early stage of paranoia is the screwing.
When we do psychological counseling, we sometimes often meet such people, but when we feel the same way about them, you will find that sometimes their twisting is not what they want.
Because when you know that he buys clothes because he has fallen out of love and wants to buy a dress to be happy, this dress is still what his lover once promised to buy him;When you know that you are sending flowers to your lover because you remember that today is your wedding anniversary, but your lover has forgotten today's day;When you know that your child is spoiled by the elders, as long as you play happily, you can't experience the anxiety and panic of being a parent at allWhen you know that the person he likes doesn't like him, if you confess it again, it just verifies the fact that he doesn't like you;When you know that if he doesn't fit in and doesn't accept things he doesn't like, he may be ostracized by the people in the circle and disliked by others.
When you know why the person who twists the jaw does it, you will still think that he is hypocritical?Is it made?Is it toxic?
In fact, everyone will have a wish, that is, they want to be understood and loved by the whole world, and we have all had this feeling before, but as you grow up and you become mature, you find that it is too difficult and difficult to let the world understand you and pay attention to you.
When we were infants, we really thought that the whole world was our own;When we were still children, we slowly learned that we had to listen to our parents, so that they would love me, and of course this wrong value was also established in this wayWhen we are teenagers, we only believe that studying hard can have a way out, and the funny thing is that many children don't know why they want to study, and even more so they are alienated into studying well = making a lot of money;Under this kind of education and driven by this, we continue to stage the tragedies of the previous generation, all kinds of helplessness, and the most bitter tragedies in the world.
Once I wanted a candy, I just said I wanted it, and you would tell me that eating candy would get tooth decay;Once I wanted a candy, I would say that other children have it, and you will tell me that other children are not sensible, you are the most well-behaved, don't be ignorant;Once I wanted a candy, you would tell me that you are all grown up, what candy to eat, come and eat some rice, see how thin you are;This candy has never been there, and I have slowly learned to hide my truest and original needs, and I have learned to make a package for my needs, a package that can be accepted by everyone. Slowly, I became screwed, and slowly became my current self, an unreal self.