The first sentence: skillful crying and showing offLearning this sentence can help you reduce a lot of unnecessary troubles. I very much agree with what Doudou, the author of "The Distant Savior" (the original of the TV series "Tiandao"), said:Talk about morality and feelings with the people at the bottom, talk about interests and logic with the middle-level people, and talk about ideals and the future with the people at the top.
So,In front of the people at the bottom, especially in front of poor relatives and friends, you must learn to show weakness and cry poverty, so as to balance their mentality, reduce their expectations of your relief, and reduce their stumbling blocks for you because of envy, jealousy, and hatred. In their eyes, you can live well, but you can't be better off than them, so in front of them, face is not that important at all!
InIn front of the middle classand must learn to show off. Because this is the most self-righteous people, they have a lot of income, have an extreme desire for promotions and salary increases, and are relatively more interested in the topic of buying a car and a house, and they make money and invest in opportunities. 
So it's important to show off to them, to earn respect, followers, and even investment. The phenomenon of middle-level poverty in recent years is also largely related to this.
The second sentence: see through but don't say it, see through it and don't expose it"Talking".is a kind of ability,"Will shut up".It is a kind of wisdom, so many Buddhist practitioners practice "stop talking", the so-called "wise man speaks late, wise man stops talking". In this society, there are so many things and people that we are not used to?
If you see a person clearly, there is no need to debunk it.
I hate a person, and there is no need to turn my face.
At the same time, we must put away the mentality of being a good teacher. 
Foolish people are not enlightened, mature people, and they do not compete in words. Ideas are not at the same level, you don't have to convince each other, you just need to respect each other with silence.
The third sentence: Learn to hide your thoughts and abilitiesMany people, a little bitter, a little wronged, a little unsatisfactory, just want to find someone to talk to, ask for catharsis, sympathy, and comfort!
As everyone knows, this can be very "too much to say", and it does not necessarily win sympathy or concern, but becomes a story or even a joke in other people's mouths. Whether the other person is a good girlfriend or a good brother in your opinion.
Unsatisfactory things are often **, and they can be said to be the same. Therefore, the things to be hidden in my heart have never been poor and difficult, and I will never be innocent without a blow, who has no difficulties and setbacks in this life. 
At the same time,The ability to hide three points should also be hiddenThe writer Doudou wrote in his work "The Distant Savior": "Ability is like a sharp edge, it is a thorn, and it is easy to stab others." ”
Be sure to remember:The wood is beautiful in the forest, and the wind will destroy it;Heaps out of the shore, and the current is more turbulent than turbulence;Walk above men, and the crowd will not. Therefore, we must learn to "hide clumsy" so that it is not easy to be targeted and used. The ancients also used to say:Ten points of ability make seven points, and often leave three points with children and grandchildren. If you want to use all of them, your children and grandchildren will be close to you
Sentence 4: Instead of preaching to people of different frequencies, it is better to find people of the same frequencyThere is a cloud in the Analects: The Tao is different, and it is not conspiratory. Buddhism has clouds: "Although the rain is wide, it does not moisten the grass without roots;."Although the Dharma is extensive, it does not limit the number of people who have no chance. ”
Kazuo Inamori once said, "Adults can only be screened, not educated." Restrain yourself to correct other people's thoughts and desires, because people can never wake up, people can only wake up in pain. "In the mind of the mouse, he never thinks that what he eats is stolen;
In the eyes of flies, I never feel dirty;
In the cognition of bats, they never know that they are poisonous;
In the world of crows, swans are all guilty.
Therefore, as mortals, we must also understandScreening is greater than education
Sentence 5: Don't be the first to flip the tableWriter Doudou wrote in his work "Distant Savior": Never be the first person to lift the table, the master fights, the comparison is internal strength, not brute force, the fight is fire, not fire, the two have contradictions, just kick hard under the table, but don't take the initiative to tear your face. Cao Xueqin wrote in "Dream of Red Mansions": "The cultivation of human feelings is the article, and the insight of the world is learning." ”
Therefore, in case of calming down in advance, don't panic, and don't be the first to flip the table, maybe things will be done slowly, and you should judge and think more from long-term interests and strategic values. Think more about the consequences and use the results to go through the process!
What is impulse?Impulsiveness is the devil, it's cool for a while, what should I do later?Does impulsiveness solve the problem?Impulsiveness can only reinforce contradictions, intensify antagonisms, lose objectivity and neutrality, and even lose reputation, and at the same time does not necessarily solve the problem.
Sentence 6: If you are not strong, everything is a floating cloud. Don't wait until you have endured the hardships of life and seen the heat and coldness of the world before you understand the meaning of this sentence. In the world, everything is judged by power, status, and wealth, and human feelings are as thin as paper. Therefore, you must be strong and don't let Chai Mi frustrate your spirit, so that you really have "friends".
There was beforeHuang Bosaid: "People are on fire, and there are good people around them." "YesGuo Degangsaid: The poor stand on the cross street and play ten steel hooks, but they can't hook the flesh and blood of their relatives, and the rich people use knives, guns and sticks in the deep mountains and old forests, and they can't break up the unrighteous guests and friends.
After there isQuan HongchanAfter becoming popular, her mother said: "I didn't know that there were so many relatives in my family until I got married. "So we must always keep in mind: Tianxingjian, a gentleman is constantly striving for self-improvement.
Sentence 7: The great good of human nature is not to embarrass others, and the great evil of human nature is not to see the good of others. "Growth" is a word with a painful connotation, not that the older you get, the happier you are, but that the older you get, the more lonely you become. Life is constantly wounded and constantly restored.
In any case, learn to be strong in loneliness and transform in frustration. How can there be so much empathy in the world?If you haven't really experienced suffering, how can you truly experience the suffering of others? Be convenient with others, and do not laugh at other people's difficulties.
Be kind to others and bless others for their excellence.
Sentence 8: Indisputable"Tao Te Ching" says: The way of the sage, for the sake of not fighting, with its indisputable, so the world can not fight with it. Don't argue with the villain: Don't argue, it's not a sign of weakness, but don't care about him, don't have general knowledge with him, it's not news that a dog bites a man, it's news that a person bites a dog.
Don't fight with your lover to win or lose: When husband and wife get along, no one is necessarily right, and who must be wrong, and there is no need to care about who wins or loses. Home is a place of love, don't win the reason, hurt the feelings, home and everything is prosperous. Don't argue with your parents about right and wrong: No matter what the result is, it will hurt your parents' face and alienate your family.
Don't compete with friends: Friends must learn to be courteous to each other, so that they will benefit, compare with each other or must fight to win or lose, and the friendship will inevitably be damaged. 
Not fighting, not cowardice, not cowardice, but knowing how to make trade-offs and being sensible.
Indisputable is a peaceful state of mind, a realm, and a great wisdom.
If you don't fight for those useless reasons and useless interests, you can live calmly and live freely. The general has a sword, not a fly;If you want to become a big tree, don't fight with the grass. Stop loss in time when you are rotten, and withdraw in time when you are rotten.
Sentence 9: Learn to be lonely and reduce ineffective socialization. No one will always be by our side, we must learn to accept loneliness, but also learn to "create" loneliness, reduce those ineffective socialization, no quarrel with the world, no argument with others, no please, no welcome, time will help us filter out those worthless people and things. Learning to be lonely means beginning to experience calmness and peace, to begin to see through human nature, and to try to understand life.
Sentence 10: Pregnancy is like pregnancy, and people will see it after a long timeIf you have real talent, there will definitely be opportunities. You don't have to show off, you don't need to rush to prove yourself, you just have to fight towards your goals.