"Until they find their wives, men never worry about the future; And women often worry about the future until they find their husbands. ”
This shows that women have different expectations and different perceptions of responsibilities than men in relationships.
An unmarried man can live an easy life, but once married, he will feel more pressure to take on the responsibility for the future.
In contrast, unmarried women usually feel worried about their future life, and it is not until they get married that they feel that they have someone to rely on, and their hearts are slightly settled.
Therefore, a woman usually has her own criteria before choosing a partner, which mainly stems from the fear of the future, and she needs the man to meet her requirements in order to feel secure.
Modern love is no longer as pure as it used to be, and in the past most of it was arranged by parents, following dowry and rituals. And now, love has evolved to find a partner through the touch of the body and the external criteria.
Therefore, when dating, two people have more contact, and whether the relationship can develop or not no longer needs to wait until marriage to know, but there is a judgment at the advance stage.
Therefore, whether a woman will have a relationship with you or not mainly depends on three aspects, that is, whether she can meet her criteria:
1. Do you meet her criteria for choosing a mateNormally, every woman will have her own criteria for choosing a mate.
When in a relationship with a man, they will ask to marry. If you are far from her standards, she may find it inappropriate and reject you.
From the time of school, until maturity, women will conceive of their ideal other half in their hearts. Some women want their future husbands to be handsome, responsible, honest and reliable, etc., while other women may require their husbands to be humorous and romantic, have high emotional intelligence, or have good economic conditions, etc.
Whatever the requirements are, indicate whether a woman will have feelings with you or not, provided that you truly live up to the expectations in her heart.
Women know that there is a certain gap between men and what they imagine in their hearts, and they can accept some differences, but if the gap is too big, they may not be able to compromise.
This is also the reason why many women would rather choose to be single than compromise on marriage because they feel that you are too mismatched with her.
For example, classmate Wang Xiaoke is 34 years old this year, still single, and according to the society's view, she is already an older leftover girl.
However, Xiaoke has always adhered to her mate selection criteria: she hopes to find a man with a monthly salary of 20,000 yuan, a high-level ideology, and a man who can respect women.
She made this request to marry not out of arrogance, but because she herself has a high education, a decent job, and a monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan. She believes that a man must at least match her.
Therefore, there are not many suitors who really meet her conditions, and she is not willing to get married and has remained single until now.
Among her requirements, in addition to economic conditions, it also involves the cultivation of men, which is a requirement in terms of soft power.
That is to say, even if a man has the economic conditions, if he lacks cultivation and has a low level of thought, Xiao Ke will not accept it.
Xiaoke said that she could not compromise when she interacted with men with low-level men, who did not have a common language. Like an upstart, she wouldn't marry him, even with more money.
Therefore, whether a woman will have a relationship with you or not depends on whether you can meet her criteria for choosing a mate.
If it can be relatively matched, the woman may accept it, but if the difference is too large, she may quickly draw a line.
2. Do you meet her emotional needsWomen have emotional needs, such as needing the love and care of men, longing for a sense of security, looking forward to a sense of romantic rituals in life, etc.
When a woman is in a relationship with a man, it can disappoint them if the other person is unable to meet these needs, thus keeping their distance.
Therefore, if a man wishes to win a woman's heart, he needs to meet their needs in this regard.
First of all, you have to give sincerely. A woman is sensual and she will feel insecure if you are half-hearted with her.
In any relationship, a woman needs a man's single-mindedness and preference. She will only open up to you if you love her with all your heart.
In addition, a woman's mind is also sensitive and needs a man's love and care. Especially in the event of a conflict, if you are not willing to accommodate and tolerate her, she may be cranky and even suspicious of you.
In addition, in daily interactions, men should also remember to create some sense of ritual for women. If you want to successfully pursue a woman, this aspect cannot be ignored.
For example, giving her a well-chosen gift on an important holiday is not about being expensive, but about proving your attitude and showing that you value her.
When a woman receives a gift from you, she will naturally feel a sense of ritual and will pay more attention to you.
A good sense of ritual is the catalyst for feelings, and it is easier for men to touch women's hearts if they put more effort into this.
In the case of Miss Ning, she once complained that her boyfriend was not attentive enough to her, which made her feel disappointed.
Miss Ning said that in the year she was dating her boyfriend, he had never had a sense of ritual for her, and there was no romance at all.
Her boyfriend verbally says he loves her very much, but ignores her emotional needs and doesn't even prepare gifts for holidays like birthdays and Valentine's Day.
Whenever Miss Ning questioned her boyfriend, he was still unhappy and said, "What are you spending that unjust money for?" ”
This chilled Miss Ning's heart, she felt that her boyfriend was really not her opponent, and she was more and more disappointed.
In the end, in a small dispute, her boyfriend refused to give in and fought with her to win or lose, which made Miss Ning have the idea of breaking up.
Miss Ning said that she had been dating her boyfriend for a year and two months, and she did not feel any sweet feelings, only loss and disappointment. Her boyfriend doesn't care enough about her, he doesn't want to accommodate her, she lacks a sense of ritual in love, and she feels very insecure.
In the end, Miss Ning resolutely broke up with her boyfriend.
Therefore, whether a woman will have feelings for you and whether she is willing to be in a long-term relationship also depends on whether you are able to meet her emotional needs.
If you ignore her feelings for a long time and make her feel aggrieved and disappointed in a relationship, she may not be optimistic about you and will only get farther and farther away from you.
3. Whether you meet her expectations for the future A woman is willing to associate and marry you, which means that you meet her expectations for the future in her heart, otherwise, she will not be with you.
In general, women want men to be capable, responsible, and able to take responsibility for the future.
If you don't work hard enough, are not self-motivated, and don't love her sincerely, it will be difficult for her to date and marry you.
There must be a reason why a woman wants to marry you. If she can't see the future in you, how can she choose to go down with you?
A woman's age and affection itself cannot be consumed, and it is impossible for them to devote the rest of their lives to the future they want, knowing that you are not suitable and unable to give her the future she wants.
Therefore, when a man is dating a woman, he must have a plan for the future, so that she can feel that you are a responsible and self-motivated person, so that she can feel at ease.
As long as you are willing to work hard and give her a visible future, I believe she will also make up her mind to date you.
In fact, a woman's attitude towards you is crucial. What kind of impression she gives you, she may give you what kind of attitude you have.
Whether she will have feelings for you or not is evident from her attitude towards you.
As long as you are a down-to-earth person, meet her expectations for the future, and make her feel that she will not regret being with you, she will be willing to accept you.
Therefore, whether a woman has a crush on you or not depends on whether she has a positive and enthusiastic attitude towards you.
A woman who really wants to have a relationship with you will definitely conform to your pursuit and desire to establish a more intimate relationship with you, which is usually more ambiguous.
And if a woman is always cold to you and thousands of miles away from you, then you should understand that she may not want to associate with you.
A woman's mind is like this, and only when she feels that a happy future can be seen in you can prove that you are the one who meets the expectations of her heart.
Finally, Zweig once said: "It is a congenital privilege for a woman to reject the pursuit of the opposite sex, and even if she rejects the most passionate love, it will not be considered cruel." ”
In relationships, women tend to be more realistic. If she doesn't like you, she will basically refuse to date and no longer have any involvement.
Rejecting an unsuitable man, a woman usually does not feel a trace of guilt, but rather a relief, which in itself is her right.
Therefore, if a man wants to touch a woman's heart, he still needs to work hard in the above aspects, meet her needs, and become her expectations.