Her husband cheated, 65-year-old Chen Buwen died of hunger strike, and a year later, her husband Zhang Ding married a new love
I'm not going to get married!Listen, say it again, are you trying to force me to death!”
Chen Buwen slammed the door shut, ignoring his parents' nagging. The anger in her heart slowly cooled, turning into a full of grievances, she squatted on the ground and looked sad, tears quietly sliding down ......
Outside the house, Chen's father fell into deep sorrow, he tried his best to choose a marriage with a good personality for his daughter, but he didn't expect Chen Buwen to have a small temper and resolutely refused to obey his parents' arrangement. If he had known this, he would rather not let her go to school, not be affected by some new ideas, why bother to confront her parents!Parents really hurt her sometimes!
Chen Buwen is a talented daughter who has shown extraordinary literary talent since she was a child, which makes the old father happy, holding her in the palm of his hand and caring for her like a precious gem. However, as the years passed, this kind of care developed her stubborn character.
As her own daughter, Chen Xiucai has always been worried that she will suffer a loss when she marries in the future. I tried my best to arrange a beautiful marriage, however, my daughter became stubborn at this critical moment!
This raises a classic question: are you willing to accept the good relationship that your parents have chosen for you?
The young Chen Buwen gave his own answer early: a confused woman needs her parents to check in order to get a good marriage;And a smart woman can manage a happy marriage with superb emotional intelligence.
Of course, in her opinion, she is definitely a smart woman.
Teachers have always praised her literary talent, and she feels that burying such talent in the countryside to be an ordinary village woman is simply a disappointment of talent. She doesn't want to get lost in the chaos of the world, she has a broader world in her heart, and she is not willing to become a reckless woman!
After all, she is the genius girl who was able to express her unique views on love with her own unique writing at the age of 13.
If one day I have a lover, I want to leave the hustle and bustle of society and go with him to the quiet countryside, by the lake or by the sea, and build two simple thatched cottages. In the early morning, we watched the sun rise over the East China SeaIn the evening, I watched the sunset fade away in the western sky. ”
Her literary style, if she was born in Shanghai, is definitely comparable to Zhang Ailing.
The reality made her face the dilemma of forced marriage. She is about to enter adulthood, and she actually has the courage to flee from her hometown.
In 1937, she embarked on a journey to escape from the shackles of marriage and get involved in society, and eventually became a "Jingpiao" woman who made a living in Nanjing.
So, no matter what the situation is, if you have a skill to survive, you won't become a displaced, hungry and desperate street person.
In order to make a living in Nanjing, she, a fledgling woman, chose the most primitive but also direct method - delivering articles to major newspapers from house to house to show her talent and literary talent.
She thought she would face the dilemma of rejection and failure, but luck struck, and her dazzling pearl was soon picked up by a well-known "Clam Shell" newspaper.
Since then, she has been working as a freelance writer for Rotary when she was not yet 18 years old. With a job that can not only make ends meet but also love deeply, Chen Buwen is naturally full of vitality and self-confidence.
Sitting in front of the window every day, feeling the cool breeze at dusk, the light of the morning, waving the pen, making a "rustling" sound, she seems to be wandering on the paper, this may be the romance of the writer.
The girl is pregnant with spring, and Chen Buwen at that time will also fantasize about what a good son-in-law should be like in the futureDeep eyes, a tall nose bridge, a delicate face, and that unruly talent.
The little girl at that time never thought that fate would favor her so much!She will really meet such a husband in the future, stepping on the broken jade, stirring a spring water in her heart.
One day, she found an interesting cartoon in the newspaper. This caricature revealing current events is meaningful and bears a resemblance to her style.
She specially checked the signature of the comic: Zhang Ding. She thought to herself, this person is really interesting, if there is a chance, I must meet him and have a good chat.
Later, a sudden Japanese bomber attacked Nanjing, and people scattered and fled, and Chen Buwen also fled with the crowd, and finally hid in an underground air-raid shelter.
The air in the air-raid shelter was cloudy and crowded, with vendors carrying vegetables, women with children in their arms, and some gentlemen.
In the crowd of people fleeing in a hurry, Chen Buwen was squeezed to the rear and accidentally bumped into a person. She hurriedly apologized to the other party, but when she looked up, she was surprised to find that it was a young man.
His face was delicate and his eyes were deep. At the moment when the four eyes met, Chen Buwen's face first turned slightly red.
The young man behaved very gentlemanly, and in order to prevent the crowd from crowding again, he took the initiative to give up some space and stood in front of Chen Buwen.
This sudden gentlemanly move instantly calmed Chen Buwen's flustered mood, and the chaos in the air-raid shelter seemed to be far away from her in an instant. Blocked by the young man, she followed him step by step.
Finally finding a relatively safe place, she gratefully thanked the youth and took the opportunity to start a casual conversation. She asked the young man's name, and he replied with a smile.
Are you Zhang Ding?The cartoonist who appeared in the newspaper?”
Chen Buwen was very excited, the cartoonist she had dreamed of seeing was actually the handsome man in front of her. Her eyes were full of little stars, and she happily told him, "I really like your comics." ”
Hello, I'm Chen Buwen!”
Zhang Ding raised his eyebrows and looked at her in surprise.
It turns out that you are Chen Buwen, I am fortunate to be happy. I've seen your article in the newspaper and it's really well written!”
In the end, both of them laughed uncontrollably. I have never seen each other, but in the days when we didn't know each other, I admired each other in front of the newspaper full of mimeographed ink.
This kind of fate is like being pulled from both ends to this bomb shelter by the red line. The outside world is full of wars and storms, but today's meeting with Qing has become the grandest joy in the world.
So, the stubborn talented woman and the proud young man fell in love. On the shore of Xuanwu Lake, they spent all their savings and rented a cozy cottage. Invited some relatives and friends, and held a simple and warm wedding.
Chen Buwen, who put on a wedding dress for the first time, looked at Ruyi Langjun who was holding his hand beside him, and his face bloomed with happiness. The guests who came to congratulate couldn't help but joke:
The bride's blush seems to be a little too much......”
She seems to have realized the best vision of love when she was young, and found a harbor where she could live by the lake, three meals in all seasons, hand in hand with her partner, rising from the east of the lake in the morning with the morning sun, and watching the sunset gradually disillusioned in the west of the lake in the evening.
At that time, Chen Buwen fell in love with this smoke-filled world. She wrote in the article: "Zhang Ding and I are like stone and iron, and sparks emerge when we touch. ”
Later, when Zhang Ding, who had experienced the vicissitudes of the world, recalled the days of poverty by Xuanwu Lake, the corners of his mouth couldn't help but smile. It should be the best memory of his life.
The chaotic war in the outside world ruthlessly interfered with the good time when the two spent the moon and the temples together.
Together, they made a decision to go to Yan'an, in the hearts of intellectuals, in search of a relatively peaceful habitat. In that year, they ushered in the crystallization of love - a white and lovely daughter. Looking at the smiles of his wife and daughter, Zhang Ding made up his mind to work hard and paint, in order to live up to this beautiful home.
Every man who is a family member will inevitably experience loneliness and dissatisfaction on the bumpy road of pursuing a career. Zhang Ding, who is in his early 20s, can't let go of his inner ambitions and dreams.
The young painters who had once gained fame in Nanjing and Shanghai with their spicy style looked out of place in the new environment.
His unique abstract modern art aesthetic was incompatible with the popular style of literary painting at the time, and attracted criticism: "It's too ugly!."”
Misunderstood and depressed, Zhang Ding felt depressed, and he wanted to explain Picasso's painting style to others, but no one wanted to give him an admiring gaze.
With expressions of rejection, disgust, and disgust, people looked away from the painting and avoided ......
In stark contrast, his wife was proud all the way, and was cheered and cheered by the stars like the moon.
Chen Buwen became a journalist in Yan'an, and her essays are brilliant and in-depth. The leaders all gave her a thumbs up and expressed their appreciation after reading it:
You're a girl, you're amazing!The article is really well written and reads!”
Chen Buwen waved his hand modestly, saying that he still had a lot of room for improvement.
When I returned home and saw my husband, who was immersed in depression and doubt, the words that I wanted to share my joy swallowed when they came to my mouth.
Zhang Ding sat in front of his chair, staring at the paintings on the table with lost eyes, deeply mired in inferiority complex and doubt.
They all said my paintings were ugly......”
Chen Buwen hid his joy, and then skillfully unfolded enlightenment.
*Ugly?I think it's beautiful!It's an art style, and they may not understand this abstract aesthetic. You see, this point and line are clearly ......”
Such comfort and encouragement day after day did not improve Zhang Ding's plight in the art world. On the contrary, the marriage relationship between the two became strained.
As the saying goes, marriages where women are strong and men are weak often have difficult results, and as soon as the days come to an end, it is easy to break up.
When a man is depressed, his wife's career is proud. The self-esteem of a husband is like a flint that ignites, and the slightest carelessness can cause an uncontrollable fire.
And when the couple walks down the street, even if it is a walk after dinner, they will inevitably hear the chatter and gossip of the people around them.
No matter how much Chen Buwen supported and encouraged, he couldn't cheer Zhang Ding up after all. No matter how many words there were, they turned into a kind of sympathy in Zhang Ding's ears.
How can a big husband tolerate a woman's pity and sympathy?
Chen Buwen really didn't know what to do, and Zhang Ding was also aware of his problem. They all understand that they are stuck in an unhealthy emotional cycle, but they don't know how to get out of it.
Fortunately, at this time, a friend named Zhang Guangyu invited Zhang Ding to Chongqing to co-found the magazine "New Art". It's like tearing a crack in a dull life and letting the light shine in, Zhang Ding seized this opportunity and was no longer willing to let go.
He understood that this was a major turning point in his artistic career, despite his reluctance to give up on his dreams. He liked the abstract aesthetic of art and loved Picasso's style and lines.
Chen Buwen knows that loving someone is by no means about binding and restraining him through family responsibilities, he has been suffering from depression all these years, and now he finally ushered in an opportunity, of course, he must fully support him.
As an orphan and widow, life is a bit hard. But fortunately, she is also a woman who can support herself. Marriage is a mutual sacrifice, and she is willing to support the family and support him to pursue his dreams.
From the concept of love she expressed when she was 13 years old, to her later escape from marriage, and then to her marriage to Zhang Ding, she has been playing a smart woman. She knows how to make wise choices to keep her marriage long-lasting, and she firmly believes that as long as she works hard, she will be able to get a love that grows old together.
Green silk and white hair are all love, this is the real perfect love.
Unfortunately, after spending a year abroad, Zhang Ding still achieved nothing, and his enthusiasm for starting a magazine did not make his dream come true.
Leaving home full of ambition and returning to ...... depressed
He had no intention of listening to what others were saying, but longed for the laughter of his wife and children at home.
He gave up his dreams, said goodbye to painting, devoted himself to the field of design, and decided to take on the responsibilities of husband and father.
As the ancients said: "If you lose your horse, you will not know the blessings and misfortunes!"."His design talent has been unanimously praised and recognized, and his career has risen.
With the founding of the People's Republic of China, he was invited to Beijing to design the national emblem and design commemorative stamps. He completed every task brilliantly and became a well-deserved "chief designer" of New China in one fell swoop.
Flowers and applause, beautiful scenery, as if everything gathered around him. However, with that comes the heaviness of the career and the fatigue of the work.
Subconsciously, Zhang Ding prefers to put more into work, and the responsibility of marriage needs the other party to take on more.
However, Chen Buwen at that time was not inferior to Zhang Ding. With her personal advantages and talents, she became the confidential secretary of the Prime Minister.
She has a successful career and a good salary, and being able to reach today's position is completely her achievements over the years. Don't forget that she has always been that stubborn and proud talented woman.
She suddenly resigned from her coveted position, and modestly said: "My ability still needs to be improved, I need more training, I'm afraid I haven't worked hard enough." ”
The outside world said that she was carried away, and relatives and friends advised her to think twice: "It's a pity to give up such a good opportunity." ”
The leader sensed her predicament and agreed to her resignation. Between career and family, Chen Buwen and Zhang Ding must have someone choose to retire, so as to ensure the happiness and integrity of the family.
Her life has been smooth sailing, without experiencing too many setbacks and leaving not many regrets. The beauty of family and marriage is very important to her, whether it is forward or backward, she is willing.
After persevering like this for decades, they have experienced the ups and downs of life together, and have several chubby, healthy and intelligent children.
Among them, Chen Buwen's contribution is the greatest, after all, she devotes herself to her family, and she has spent countless energy and time in order to raise her children.
At this time, Zhang Ding's career suffered a huge blow again and fell into a trough again. His once more abstract art style was criticized and snubbed.
Zhang Ding felt at a loss, as if overnight, all the glamour and decency were gone, and years of hard work were in vain.
He never thought that life would be so heavy, and his originally depressed mood was like being stabbed by a blunt knife, and the unspeakable pain ......
Over time, he became more depressed.
Chen Buwen was deeply distressed by him and worried about his mental and physical health. She encouraged him to stick to his dreams every day, read him the famous works of Nietzsche, Schopenhauer and other foreign masters, and instilled strength in his heart.
She often looks for pleasures to share with her husband, such as interesting paintings, delicate and delicious meals.
Under careful care, Zhang Ding gradually regained his enthusiasm and confidence in life. He picked up the brush again and tried a new style of painting, he still wanted to paint and do what he loved.
Seeing her husband regain his strength, Chen Buwen was satisfied, she thought that it was her companionship and encouragement that helped her husband get out of the haze of his soul.
A serendipitous discovery reveals that she is actually self-inflicted.
In 1985, when she was tidying up Zhang Ding's housework, she dug out a pile of letters from her room.
A woman's instinct told her that the contents of these letters were anything but ordinary. The husband was usually open-minded, and the letters were clearly carefully preserved.
Sure enough, after checking the envelopes one by one, Chen Buwen's face became more and more heavy ......
She never thought that the woman who ruined her marriage was actually her old acquaintance.
In the evening, when Zhang Ding returned home, Chen Buwen dropped the envelope in front of him. She couldn't contain her anger anymore, and her trembling voice tore the surface of the marriage:
Is this really true?”
Zhang Ding's silence answered her.
She has been pursuing the undying love of the white-haired Pujia all her life. However, when she was 65 years old and her life was about to be completed, she fell short at this time and became a joke.
The other heroine mentioned in the letter, the gray baby, is also her good friend for more than 40 years. When Chen Buwen was in trouble, Gray Wa reached out to help many times.
Chen Buwen trembled with anger, she didn't expect such a dramatic plot, especially ...... her 65-year-old years
She couldn't figure out what such love was forHer husband is not the kind of frivolous person, and she even wanted to find a reasonable explanation for these envelopes, but she couldn't get around the fact that Zhang Ding answered calmly:
In her, I felt a long-lost enthusiasm. ”
This sentence made Chen Buwen fall into an ice cellar.
Gray Wa and Zhang Ding's personalities are more similar, and they are both distinct and maverick people. Just as Zhang Ding's paintings have been criticized, Gray Wa's poetry has been suppressed for its unique aesthetic.
The two met in a lonely world, admired each other's art, and communicated seamlessly. In the dialogue of art, the two hearts burst out with passion like a volcano, and they were out of control.
Zhang Ding said to the gray baby: "The two of us are crazy people scattered around the world, and now we have finally met!."”
They are like a young couple, and in the course of 50 years of marriage, she has given birth to 6 children for him. However, in their later years, they fell into the acquaintance and sympathy of other women.
For Chen Buwen, such an ending is obviously unfair.
But in the face of love, the word fairness seems redundant.
In grief and indignation, Chen Buwen fell ill. Always sober and sensible, she refused to eat in the face of the pleas of her children and husband.
In her illness, she was at a loss, day and night. This life was re-screened in front of her eyes.
She asked herself, what does marriage bring to a woman?From a bright girl to a successful career, but she is willing to become a virtuous helper, why did she end up like this?
For the sake of this marriage, she put down all the brightness and glamour, stayed in the stuffy kitchen, and cooked three meals and delicious meals for her husband and children. Even though she was smoked like an old woman, as long as she heard the words "mother" and "wife", her face bloomed with a sweet smile.
When she was sober, in the face of her son's request, she said calmly and calmly: "What joy is in life, what is fear in death!".”
At that moment, it was as if the 13-year-old girl who was transparent and rational and had her own view of love appeared again.
She always has a thorough and frank understanding of life. Whether she was young or in her old age, she could always use a few words to turn the turmoil into silence.
On December 8, 1985, on the occasion of her last death, she told her children: "Forget everything and start a new life." ”
A year later, when she died, Zhang Ding married Gray Wa as his new wife......
How many people's love begins with wind and snow, and finally ends with chicken feathers.
Even among them, it has been suffering from decades of perseverance and companionship.