I really recommend that no matter who you get along with, you should learn to be "intermittent apathetic".
My name is Li Chen, I come from a small city, my family conditions are average, my parents divorced when I was a child, and I followed my father. I have been sensible since I was a child, and I know that it is not easy for my father to be alone, so I have always worked hard and hope to make my life better through my own efforts.
After graduating from university, I joined an internet company.
Became an IT elite. With my own strength and hard work, I have achieved good results in my work, and I have also gained rich experience and skills. However, as the pressure of work and life increased, I gradually realized that getting along with people is not an easy task.
At work, I often interact with my colleagues. Although I have always been sincere in my dealings with them, there have always been some people who are hostile and jealous of me. I don't know why they treated me like that, maybe because my grades were better than theirs, or because I was appreciated by my superiors.
In this case, I began to feel confused and uneasy. I don't know how to get along with them, and I don't know how to resolve this conflict. I started to get anxious and nervous, and it even affected my work and health.
Until one day, I was chatting with an old colleague who told me a secret to getting along with people – intermittent apathy. "When dealing with others, don't be too enthusiastic and proactive, sometimes learn to keep a certain distance and indifference," he said. ”
After listening to his advice, I began to try to keep a certain distance and indifference when dealing with people. I have found that this attitude has made me more calm and confident, and I am better able to deal with problems in my relationships.
At a company meeting, I got into an argument with a colleague. I think he was right, and he stuck to his ideas. In the past, I may have lost my stance and principles because I was too enthusiastic and proactive, but now I have learned to remain calm and silent.
After the meeting, I approached the colleague and calmly expressed my thoughts and positions. Although our views were still divided, through this calm communication, we finally came to a consensus.
By learning to be intermittently apathetic, I gradually understood the true meaning of human relationships. Sometimes, keeping a certain distance and being indifferent is not callous, but a kind of protection for yourself and others. When dealing with others, we need to maintain a certain degree of self-awareness and independent thinking ability, and not change our principles and values because of the attitude of others.
Now I am no longer the person who is easily influenced and swayed by others. I learned to maintain a certain level of independence and autonomy in my relationships, and I also learned to express my thoughts and positions when appropriate. This attitude not only gives me more recognition and respect in the workplace, but also makes me more confident and calm in life.
I really recommend that no matter who you get along with, you should learn to be "intermittent apathetic".This is not to make you arrogant and apathetic, but to make you more mature and confident in your interpersonal interactions.