Autumn and Winter Check-in Challenge In the process of raising children, have you ever been in a situation where your child's behavior makes you overreact, or the child makes you feel that you are unlucky and does not have a good child, or you ask your child to do this and that all day long and do not give your child space?
These are all manifestations of the parents' lack of awakening.
In the face of children, we parents often have an illusion, that is: children do not know anything, like a blank piece of paper, we need our parents to fill in the picture on this blank paper, tell the child how to choose, how to live.
This is also an important reason why parents and children have conflicts because they choose to make up classes because of their choice of school.
We parents often raise our children with this sense of omnipotent authority, subjectively design the trajectory of their children's lives, and have a strong desire to control their children, paying excessive attention to their children's behavior.
When children are very young, we impose our will on them, and children do not consciously resist too much because they are too naïve and ready to accept our influence.
As the child grows older, the child has its own will and ideas, and is unwilling to deal with the problem according to our opinions, at this time, we often feel that the child is not sensible, does not know how to be grateful, and is unlucky to have a disobedient child, and there is negative resistance in the heart.
In fact, it is the lack of awareness of parents that makes us make a wrong interpretation of our children's behavior.
In fact, children are independent individuals who need to have their own impulses and passions, and their own wisdom and choices.
If you blindly interfere, it will exacerbate the child's rebellious psychology and cause tension in the parent-child relationship.
For example, many children who have reached puberty will wear some exaggerated clothes or cool hairstyles to show their rebellion.
When the parents saw this, they thought, "My child is learning badly, so they interfere forcefully." For example, not letting your daughter wear makeup, cutting off her son's long hair, or dyeing her hair back black.
Once the children rebel and become stubborn, the parents will think that the children are disobedient to them, and the parent-child relationship will deteriorate.
In short, parents lack the awareness of awakening, will not know their true selves enough, and regard their children as an extension of their own ideas, which leads to control over their children. When children grow up and become self-conscious, conflicts and contradictions are inevitable.
If you want your child to grow up to be what he expects, not what we expect, and a happy and happy life is inseparable from the awakening of parents.