From Life Coach to Falling from the Altar , his story is far worse than you think

Mondo Social Updated on 2024-01-28

In 2015, this news became popular all over the Internet, and it also became a watershed in the career of "life mentor" Lejia.

With the news breaking out, his insult to Venus as a "eunuch", anger and Lu Yu were all excavated, and more stories about him that can be called the history of career destruction were dug up, far worse than you imagined.

In 1975, he was originally born in Shanghai, but due to his father's work, he moved to rural Shaanxi with his parents while still in infancy.

The whole period of his growth was not good for him, the family was financially constrained, and his parents quarreled constantly.

The father neglected to take care of Lejia's mother and son because of his unsuccessful work, while the mother had to work to subsidize her husband because of her husband's low income, and she was overworked all day long, so that her temper was not good.

As soon as the husband and wife met, they were like needles on the tip of a needle, noisy and fierce.

has been in a family with an unhappy marriage for a long time, and Le Jia has been more sensitive than others since he was a child.

For him, there are two biggest wishes since he was a child, one is to grow up as soon as possible and leave home, and the other is to get ahead.

I don't know if it was because he grew up wandering in his father's rich collection of books and honed his literary talent, or because of the arguments and defenses he learned in his parents' quarrels for many years, which made him more eloquent than his peers since he was a child.

When he graduated from junior high school, he chose to enter a technical secondary school instead of an ordinary high school, some people said that he chose a technical secondary school because his family had no money for him to go to college, and some people said that it was because his academic Xi grades at that time were relatively average.

Whatever the reason, studying at a secondary school was one of his two major life aspirations at that time, that is, to leave home as soon as possible.

At the age of 14, he went to Ningbo Secondary School to study.

At the age of 16, when he just graduated from secondary school, he stood out in the bank's recruitment interview with his three-inch tongue and became a staff member of the bank's business hall.

But he soon discovered that his job in the bank hall was more akin to a "waiter" and that he was doing the same job day in and day out, which made him want to leave.

After quitting his job in the bank, he began to work in a variety of industries, although the industries were different, but almost all of them were salespeople.

He sold insurance and used cars before working at Avon.

After entering Avon, he undoubtedly found the stage.

The ability to speak well not only makes him an excellent salesman, but also makes him appreciated by the company and makes him a training teacher for the company's new employees.

As Avon's business expanded, he was put on a bigger stage as a lecturer for the company.

After becoming a lecturer, he was not only a new employee of the training company, but also a brand promoter, giving lectures at many companies and venues.

In 1993, at the age of 19, he returned to work in Shanghai and became the youngest lecturer in Avon.

In 1995, when he had become a well-known lecturer in the direct selling circle, he began to participate in various speeches, and the stage of his speeches was no longer only commercial occasions, but also some inspirational speeches at prestigious schools.

It was also at that time that he began to realize that his education was not high enough and his knowledge was insufficient, so he decided to further his education.

From 1999 to 2000, he studied theatre and then went to Shanghai to complete Armstrong University, where he studied business administration, eventually earning a bachelor's degree.

After completing his Xi in business administration, he began to study Xi psychology, and in the process of studying Xi, he developed his own theory, which is personality color.

With his good fame and popularity at the time, he decided to further his achievements in the field of personality psychology.

In 2001, he not only founded the "China Personality Color Research Center", but also continued to participate in lectures, integrating his understanding of personality color into marketing psychology, making the speech more prominent.

In addition to promoting his personality color science in his lectures, he also published his theories in a book.

When he was in infinite glory, the ***, known as the "fighter against counterfeiting", couldn't stand it, not only said that Le Jia graduated from "Pheasant University", but also publicly faked his personality color not only plagiarized other people's theories, saying that his personality color theory is a patchwork of content, the logic is not rigorous enough, and it is a doctrine that misleads others.

However, when he was faced with being cracked down, he was not in a hurry to refute it, nor did he prove his innocence, but emphasized that he did not show off his academic qualifications on any occasion.

This statement is obviously avoiding the important and trivial, but at that time, he was famous and popular, but he continued to be the object of praise in the cheers of fans, and even ushered in the peak of his career.

In 2010, Le Jia and Meng Fei partnered in "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" and became the "emotional mentor" in the mouth of the public.

It is said that when Jiangsu Satellite TV was doing this show at that time, in addition to letting Meng Fei, the ace host, control the scene, he also wanted to find a mentor who could not only understand psychology but also adapt to the many guests on the scene and knew how to adapt to the situation, and partnered with Meng Fei to form a movement and stillness, one master at a time, and cooperate with each other to improve the effect of the program.

Lejia just met the relevant requirements, not only understanding a little psychology, but also Xi the improvisation of live speeches, so it was selected by Jiangsu Satellite TV.

On the stage of "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb", he did not disappoint Jiangsu Satellite TV, and he had a very tacit understanding with Meng Fei's partner, and the program effect and ratings can be called a model of many blind date programs.

Later, with the addition of Mr. Huang Han, the effect of the show was amazing.

Meng Fei controlled the field steadily, Mr. Huang Han's gentle words were full of reason, Le Jia's words were sharp and focused on the pain points, and the ratings and word-of-mouth of the show soared under the strong alliance.

At that time, the outstanding performance and tacit cooperation of the three of them were also known as the "Iron Triangle", and "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb" also became a "phenomenal" blind date program in the country, and became the object of popularity and imitation.

In 2013, he announced his departure from the stage of "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb".

And when he announced his departure from "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb", the audience had different opinions about the reason for his departure, some people said that it was because the contradiction between him and Meng Fei had reached the point of irreconcilability, and some people said that it was because he offended the female guests.

He himself gave the statement at the time that he felt that the show had no place for him to Xi, so he chose to leave.

When he left "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb", I had to admit that his popularity and fame were very strong, and he also struck while the iron was hot, and opened his speeches abroad, such as Vancouver Theater and Sydney City**, etc., all of which had his experience of giving speeches with personality.

In March 2003, he was invited to become the host of Shenzhen Satellite TV's "Night Question", and his hosting style is comparable to that of "Venus Show".

At the same time, he was also invited to be the host of CCTV's program "Chief Night Talk".

It was also in this year that he became the mentor of "Super Speaker", and successively partnered with Lu Yu, Dou Wentao, Jin Xing and others, becoming a "life mentor" in the eyes of the public.

But with the increase of fame and popularity, Le Jia also began to be arrogant in various programs, and finally even to the point of uncontrollable, the craziest time was to get drunk on the stage of "Super Speaker" and explode foul language.

The reason for the incident was that there was a disabled young man Cui Wanzhi in the team led by Le Jia, and he himself admired the attitude of this team member with a disability, so he was particularly supportive of him.

There are many ways to support him, such as helping him revise his speech and canvassing for votes.

But he chose the most incomprehensible one, he drank nearly a bottle of liquor on the spot, and claimed that drinking on the spot was the best encouragement for Cui Wanzhi.

The other instructors on the scene pinched a cold sweat for him and persuaded him that it was best not to use such an extreme way.

At first, his answer was quite normal, saying that he wanted to use practical actions to encourage Cui Wanzhi not to treat himself as a disabled person, and to say whatever he wanted on stage.

But gradually, under the influence of alcohol, he not only burst into foul language, but also spoke disrespectfully to other mentors.

When Jin Xing persuaded him to "don't become a disservice to Cui Wanzhi", he angrily scolded Jin Xing for being targeted.

Since the show was still being recorded, Lu Yu also had to speak out to stop him from continuing to go crazy, so that he should be professional and not incite the audience's emotions on the spot, and the mentor should not canvass for the students in a drunken way.

But he got up directly from his seat, and pointed at Lu Yu while stomping his feet and saying that she was coercing the audience, Lu Yu also stepped out of his seat and prepared to leave.

As a veteran host for decades and has always been known for being a gentle and good person, Dou Wentao hurriedly stepped forward to persuade him whether he needed to suspend the show in order to ease the atmosphere of the show, but he said to Dou Wentao: Get out, don't worry about it!

Perhaps Dou Wentao at that time would never have imagined that he would be so bluntly scolded back by coming forward to persuade him to come forward with his coffee position in the circle, and in the face of such uneducated people, he could only say: Then leave this stage to you, and I will leave too!

When the other three mentors left the scene angrily, he also stood alone on the stage and said that he did not hesitate to offend the other three mentors, they xxx thought I was doing a show, but Lao Tzu xxx was here to give a speech!(xxx refers to abusive language).

And throughout that episode, his roar has been incessant.

At the end of that episode, many viewers were still speculating whether this was a real conflict or a deliberate hype by the program team, and there were different opinions for a while.

But when the other three mentors were interviewed one after another, I realized that it was not the hype of the program team.

Lu Yu said that whether he will continue to be on the same stage with him depends on the arrangement of the program team.

Dou Wentao directly said that he didn't know him, and he had never cooperated with such a person.

And Jin Xing said in an interview that it was his own hype, which had nothing to do with the program team, and he was "scared" when he was on the same stage.

Jin Xing even said that he was giving a speech, but in fact he was "pyramid scheme", and that was his usual style.

And Le Jia's behavior of almost playing with fire in various shows has also been constantly picked up.

On the stage of "If You Are Honest, Do Not Disturb", as a mentor, he asked to hug the female guests, Meng Fei said that this was just a farewell etiquette in order to alleviate the discomfort of the female guests, but he was good, but he kept asking the female guests what it was like when they hugged him, and that sense of superiority almost overflowed the screen.

When Meng Fei reminded him that it was enough to stop, he directly scolded Meng Fei for being "hypocritical".

He gradually lost control on the stage because of his growing sense of superiority, and even provoked and scolded the female guests harshly, but Meng Fei pulled him back again and again, but he had contradictions with Meng Fei.

On the stage of "Super Speaker", he scolded Hua Shao for being "too hypocritical";When the student was criticized by Jin Xing for being very chaotic in the process of telling the story of his first love, he said that "the love of the Great Sage was lost to the eunuch", and such a vicious ridicule on the stage can be said to be a precedent for the century.

And his frequent loss of control on stage is not only in "Do Not Disturb" and "Super Speaker", but in almost every show he has participated in.

When hosting "Chief Night Talk", he forced Dong Mingzhu to ask "which is more important, son or Gree", which instantly filled the whole stage with the smell of gunpowder.

On the stage of "Mr. Super", as the host, he did not control the scene and set off the atmosphere, but because he quarreled with Ning Ning as a guest when he disagreed, the program staff had to stop recording first.

Later, Tranquility bluntly said in an interview: When others were expounding their views, he first interrupted directly, and then slapped the table directly, and his excitement was unguarded.

What is even more shocking is not only his defenseless anger, but also his defenseless "lustful heart".

In the show, he openly hugged Xie Na, not only saying that he regretted meeting Xie Na too late, but also directly hugged her waist and made a gesture of wanting to kiss on the stage.

Fortunately, Xie Na quickly refused at that time, otherwise she would have been hugged and kissed by him on the stage just like his other students.

Even though there were a flood of bad reviews, he still did his own thing without modifying it, until he became a person who no one dared to use after drunken recording shows and exploding foul language.

Almost because of "madness" after ruining his career, he is still active on the Internet and continues to hype.

It's just that he has no celebrity topics to hype, and his wife and daughter have become his hype targets.

first came the news of his divorce from his third wife, and then the news that he mourned the death of his ex-wife Tao Hong in Los Angeles.

After digging deeply, netizens found that although he and Tao Hong had a daughter, their marriage only lasted for three years, and Tao Hong had been divorced from him for 6 years when he died.

After the news was picked up, it was obviously incompatible with his affectionate remembrance of his ex-wife.

Even though he was complained by netizens, he still couldn't stop him from continuing to hype up the topic of his ex-wife's death, and he took his 9-year-old daughter Ling'er to pray for Tao Hong.

Seeing his behavior, some people say that the psychology he has studied has not been applied after all, and he has been rescued from an abnormal state of mind, while others say that the bottom color of his "madness" is that he thinks he is talented and different.

So the question is, what kind of color does his behavior belong to in the personality color?

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