In 2019, 48-year-old Wu (pseudonym) met his fiancée Zhao (pseudonym), and the two quickly established a relationship and wanted to start a new life together. They have spent almost four years together, and they both feel that each other is their other half, and they want to spend their lives together.
However, when they started talking about marriage, problems arose. According to ancient etiquette, "men and women do not have a matchmaker, and they do not see each other without silk." "Marriage requires a bride price, which has been a custom since ancient times. However, Wu's family was surrounded by four walls and was destitute, and he could not meet Zhao's request for a bride price. They had a heated argument in **, and in the end Zhao decided to end their relationship.
Wu believes that this is her deception and has caused him great harm. This led him to take extreme action on December 10, 2021, and with deep resentment, he went into his fiancée's house and stabbed her with a knife. He hid in the yard and waited until the early hours of the morning when his fiancée was asleep, broke the window and entered the house, stabbing her in the chest with one knife after another, eventually causing her to die instantly.
After the death of his fiancée, Wu dipped a toilet paper roll in the blood on the ground and wrote on the wall the words "I don't want to kill" and "This is all Zhao Moumou forced me" to express his grief and anger. However, all this eventually led to tragedy.
When Zhao's son came home, he found that the window was broken, and when he saw Wu drinking alone in the courtyard and his mother lying in a pool of blood, he immediately fled from the house to call the police. At this time, Wu tried to commit suicide, but was found in time and sent to the hospital.
However, the court's judgment excluded Wu from leniency because he was unable to compensate for civil losses. This seems to suggest that the breakdown of the relationship between the two may be related to Wu's relatively poor financial ability. The procuratorate also recommended that Wu be sentenced to death, which also implies his disregard for life and extreme harm to others.
It is obviously extreme and irresponsible to fight against each other if you do not agree to get married. No matter how much the bride price is, it cannot be a reason for a person to kill indiscriminately.
This incident has aroused widespread public attention, some people say that it is too difficult to have no money, and some people say that Wu's behavior is too extreme.
Today, although the concept of equality between husband and wife has been deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, the traditional custom of bride price still exists and has become an unavoidable social phenomenon.
The word "love" has been widely accepted by the public and is often discussed, many people believe that marriage is the persistent pursuit of love, should not be measured by money, let alone objectified in the name of "bride price", which is not only a misunderstanding of marriage itself, but also a blasphemy of love.
However, the simple concept of love can no longer meet people's needs in modern society. The contradiction between real society and love has become increasingly prominent, and the issue of bride price has become an important contradiction. In recent years, it is not uncommon for social ** incidents to be triggered by the bride price issue, and there are even many cases that have been on the hot search because of the bride price issue.
Some time ago, a netizen in Qingyang, Gansu Province, who had just graduated, proposed a minimum of 28 because his girlfriend's parentsAsked for a bride price of $80,000 and felt helpless. He wrote a letter to the county magistrate for help in the "leadership mailbox" on the official website of the county.
The letter caught the attention of the county magistrate, who quickly launched an investigation and discovered that the phenomenon did exist. The county magistrate called on everyone to jointly resist the bad habit of bride price, and called on relevant departments to increase rectification efforts to purify the social atmosphere. The idea that marriage should be based purely on emotional bonds, not on monetary transactions, needs to be supported by more people's buy-in and actions.
After the incident, his girlfriend firmly parted ways with him. However, he claims that he is only asking for the return of the bride price, not the dissolution of the marriage.
Such remarks have raised questions as to why he did not choose a partner who did not need a bride price.
In fact, marriage can be regarded as a "business" to a certain extent, and the bride price is an intuitive game. While some may disagree with this, we must acknowledge that the bride price plays an important role in marriage. However, this ** game is not impossible to change. Ability, personality, character and even appearance can be key factors in determining the amount of the bride price.
However, online quarrels over bride price often put both men and women in a difficult situation. Back to reality, most marriages don't have the so-called "lion's mouth". Those who ridicule the "sky-high bride price" in the comment section, whether they have really experienced this situation, or just follow the trend of nonsense, only they know.
Therefore, we should not regard the sky-high bride price as a mother-in-law selling her daughter, nor should we regard the proposal of a suitable bride price as a woman's worship of money. Complaining doesn't solve the problem, and if you want to win the hearts of beauties and get a ticket to marriage, it ultimately depends on the efforts of the men themselves.