The septuagenarian lady lamented that when she couldn't live, she realized how difficult it was to rely on her children to support her in old age
Do you want to consider sending me to a nursing home, so as not to make it difficult for you? Aunt Wang watched her children feel embarrassed to take care of her, and she said this helplessly.
82-year-old Aunt Wang is a strong farmer who does not want to be a burden to her children all her life. However, at the moment, she was helpless.
When she was young, Aunt Wang married Uncle Wang at the age of 19, a man who worked in a bank in the town. They have always lived an unpretentious rural life.
Aunt Wang welcomed her first child when she was 20 years old, but unfortunately the child died prematurely. Subsequently, she gave birth to two sons and a daughter, with whom she had a total of three children.
Aunt Wang is a very capable housewife who knows how to manage household chores. Although Uncle Wang works hard every day, the chores of the family are all handled by Aunt Wang.
Cultivating the land, raising pigs, chickens, and even going up the mountain to cut firewood, all of these are the responsibilities of Aunt Wang. Uncle Wang has never done much heavy work in his life, and it all depends on Aunt Wang's hard work.
However, Aunt Wang never complains, she firmly believes that in the relationship between husband and wife, as long as the man can earn money, it is enough.
As the children grew up, Aunt Wang's hard work eased a little. The eldest son took over his father's job and worked in a bank, while the second son got a job in the city.
The three daughters received the highest education and became the teachers in the town. After the children got married, Aunt Wang and Uncle Wang began to enjoy a retirement life.
The children are very filial, especially the eldest son, who comes to visit his parents almost every day.
After many years, Aunt Wang feels satisfied. Her children are all married and living well. Now, Aunt Wang and Uncle Wang can enjoy their beautiful old age after their hard work with peace of mind.
The eldest daughter-in-law always gives the delicacies she cooks to her in-laws. The second son and his wife are usually busy with work and rarely return home, only returning during the Chinese New Year and holidays, and each time they bring rich gifts to their parents, including food, daily necessities and clothing.
The third daughter lives in the town and is a teacher who returns to her parents' home on weekends. She cares about her parents and often comes home on weekends to help with laundry and housework. However, Aunt Wang is a strong woman who keeps her home tidy and tidy, and she never bothers her daughter to clean up.
Aunt Wang's motto is: "As long as I can move, I don't need help from others, even my children." "My wife suffered from cerebral thrombosis at the age of 70 and could not take care of herself. During the illness, Aunt Wang took care of all the care work, because the children were working, only the eldest daughter-in-law was free, and she often came to help take care of her father-in-law.
Although the eldest daughter-in-law is willing to serve the old man well, Aunt Wang insisted: "Although the daughter-in-law is filial, it is really inconvenient to take care of her father-in-law." "My wife died a year and a half later, leaving Aunt Wang to live alone.
A few years later, 74-year-old Aunt Wang also suffered from cerebral thrombosis and was admitted to the hospital. During her more than 20 days in the hospital, her children took turns to take care of her, which attracted the envy of other patients in the ward.
After being discharged from the hospital, Aunt Wang needed someone to take care of her. At this time, the eldest daughter-in-law proposed: "You all have no time to work, I'll take care of my mother." The second son and the third daughter are very grateful for their sister-in-law's thoughtfulness, but they can't bear to let their sister-in-law work in vain. In the end, they discussed and decided to pay their sister-in-law 1,000 yuan a month.
So, Aunt Wang moved to her eldest son's house and enjoyed the careful care of her eldest daughter-in-law. The eldest daughter-in-law is not only responsible for cooking and laundry, but also accompanies Aunt Wang to exercise every day, so that her ** progress is rapid.
After a few months, Aunt Wang was able to walk and cook on her own, and she decided to return to her own home to live alone.
The children were worried, but Aunt Wang insisted on going home, and the children could not persuade her, so they could only agree to let her go home.
The eldest daughter-in-law did not allow Aunt Wang to cook, and personally delivered meals to her every day. However, Aunt Wang did not agree, insisting on doing it herself, thinking that it was too troublesome.
Although Aunt Wang is very good and can do her own laundry and cooking, it is still a little difficult to walk.
It didn't take long for the eldest daughter-in-law to be diagnosed with liver cancer. Despite the active cooperation of the whole family**, less than a year later, the eldest daughter-in-law passed away.
After the death of her daughter-in-law, Aunt Wang was deeply saddened. Although it is often said that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult, since the eldest daughter-in-law married into the family, the relationship between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been very harmonious for so many years.
Aunt Wang lived alone for five years before her condition deteriorated.
One winter evening, Aunt Wang went out to the toilet and unfortunately slipped on the frozen ground.
At that time, Aunt Wang couldn't stand up on her own. Fortunately, the eldest son went to her house after eating, found that the situation was not good, and carried her home.
The eldest son hurried to find a car and took his mother to the hospital. After examination, the doctor found that Aunt Wang's right femoral head was broken. The doctor explained that the bones of the elderly are fragile, and falls can easily lead to fractures.
The doctor suggested that artificial femur replacement surgery could be performed, but considering that Aunt Wang was nearly 80 years old and had underlying diseases, surgery was not recommended, because even if the operation was successful, it would be difficult to completely **.
Aunt Wang's children accepted the doctor's advice, gave up the option of replacing the femoral head, and only spent a few days in the hospital before taking their mother home.
However, not changing the femoral head means that Aunt Wang is paralyzed from then on.
Now everyone felt embarrassed because everyone was at work and had no time to take care of their mother. Although the second son's wife is retired, she is busy at home with her grandchildren and does not care about taking care of her mother-in-law.
Aunt Wang also understood the difficulties of her children, so she said, "Why don't you scrape together some money, find a nursing home, and send me there!"”
The children listened to their mother's words and said: "Why can't the three children send you to a nursing home, how can you be comfortable at home when you go to a nursing home." ”
Aunt Wang said again: "I know that the nursing home is not as good as the family, but you all have jobs, and I can't drag you down." ”
In order to take care of his mother, Aunt Wang's eldest son applied for internal retirement and stayed at home to take care of his mother. And Aunt Wang's daughter comes every weekend, and she lives at her brother's house during the winter and summer vacations, taking care of her mother wholeheartedly.
The responsibility of caring for the elderly is very heavy, especially when it is even more difficult to take care of the elderly who are unable to take care of themselves. Fortunately, Aunt Wang's open-minded personality has alleviated the children's worries a little.
However, unexpectedly, two years later, Aunt Wang's eldest son also suffered from a disease and was found to have lung cancer.
The eldest brother is sick and needs to accept **, and he can't take care of himself or his mother.
At this time, Aunt Wang's second son's grandson had already gone to kindergarten and needed to be picked up and dropped off every day. In order to cope with the situation, the second son took his mother home, and his wife took care of the day-to-day care, as well as picking up and dropping off his grandson.
However, Aunt Wang lived at her second son's house for less than a month, and her second daughter-in-law accidentally fell while picking up the child, resulting in a broken ankle and had to undergo surgery. As the second daughter-in-law was injured, the grandson was picked up by the in-laws, and Aunt Wang once again fell into a situation where no one took care of her.
The eldest son is sick, and the second son and daughter are both employed and cannot take care of them full-time. In desperation, they had no choice but to send their mother to a nursing home.
Faced with this situation, Aunt Wang's daughter comforted her and said: "Mom, you hold on for a while, and I will take you home after the second sister-in-law." I'll be retired in another year, and I'll do my best to take care of you. ”
Aunt Wang nodded bitterly, and despite her best patience, tears still flowed unconsciously.
As the saying goes: "A mother raises several children, but it is difficult for several children to raise a mother." Sometimes, it's not that children are unfilial, it's that they are simply inadequate.
The desire to be filial to one's parents is common, but when parents are old and their children are in the stage of old age and young, life is stressful and they are unable to take care of the elderly full-time.
Parents are old, and although their children are adults, some of them are even worse than their parents, and they want to do their best to take care of their parents, but they are unable to do so because of their own difficulties.