The TV series "Dajiang Dahe 2" is about to enter its final chapter, and the marriage relationship between Cheng Kaiyan and Song Yunhui has also come to an end. In "Big River", the love experiences of the two have a common feature - after both suffered setbacks in their careers, they chose to end the tragedy by breaking up, but they did not go to the last step in the end. Unexpectedly, the person who filed for divorce this time was not Song Yunhui, but Cheng Kaiyan.
I once mistakenly thought that Cheng Kaiyan was a pretentious person, but in fact he was really Cheng's father. I had a lot of contact with him in college. This result, in large part, also benefited from his contributions.
Cheng Kaiyan's biggest heartache is not because she is behind Song Yunhui, but because her biological father did not give her the respect she deserves. Under the pretext of doing good things for her, Cheng's father forcibly interfered in her private life.
1.Cheng's father insisted that Song Yunhui bow his head in front of Kaiyan, not out of consideration for Kaiyan's happy life.
Cheng's mother received an anonymous letter in which she recorded the improper relationship between Song Yunhui and Liang Sishen. When Cheng's father saw this scene, he was furious, and although he verbally said that he did not believe the words in the letter, he quickly rushed to the East China Sea and invited Song Yunhui's boss and colleagues to dinner.
Although he ostensibly sought justice for Song Yunhui through this letter, in fact, his real purpose was to suppress Song Yunhui. He hoped that Mr. Song would take Mr. Liang away and sign a pledge that he would not engage in such acts in the future.
Faced with the encirclement of the Cheng family of three, Song Yunhui left angrily. There was a fierce conflict in the relationship between Weng and his son-in-law, and Cheng's father still firmly believed that he was the dominant party, so he refused to give in. Song Yunhui chose the dormitory as his new home, and Cheng Kaiyan became the only one he suffered.
Cheng's mother was deeply sympathetic to Cheng Kaiyan, and in order to prevent her daughter from swaying from side to side, she packed her luggage and prepared to return to Jinzhou, but Cheng's father insisted on staying and planned to sue Song Yunhui. His intention was to cover up Song Yunhui's mistakes and make Song Yunhui bow his head in front of Cheng Kaiyan.
Cheng's father verbally said that the purpose of his doing this was to hope that Song Yunhui would be able to express his good impression of Cheng Kaiyan in the future. But the truth is that his intervention will only make Cheng Kaiyan face a greater dilemma.
Does Cheng's father really care so much about his daughter's happy life?Maybe not, he was more concerned about Song Yunhui's obedience to him.
Cheng's father is a strategic person, and he is used to treating Song Yunhui in various ways. Initially, he used various methods to get Song Yunhui and Cheng Kaiyan to marry, and then used these means to get Song Yunhui to transfer work for Cheng Qianli.
Wu Zhihong pointed out that in interpersonal relationships, if we do not show ourselves as we please, but through clever strategies to attract the attention of others, then we will inevitably feel ashamed and lonely.
Cheng's father has always worried that Song Yunhui might despise their family, and it is precisely because he is used to using various tactics that he has been trying to restore Song Yunhui's dignity and face.
Cheng's father's trust in Song Yunhui is as deep as that of his family, but he also expects Song Yunhui to care about the Cheng family as much as he treats his family, and make the greatest contribution to the Cheng family.
Unhealthy ways of interacting and excessive expectations are bound to lead to various forms of conflict and contradictions. Song Yunhui's resolute refusal and resistance became an unacceptable emotion for Cheng's father. He did everything he could to hope that Song Yunhui would obey him to ensure that his face and the interests of the Cheng family were safeguarded.
Therefore, what he meant was to let Song Yunhui bow his head in front of Kaiyan, which was actually to let Song Yunhui bow his head in front of him, so that he could always lead Song Yunhui's nose away.
Everything Cheng's father did was just to find a reason for his daughter to be happy and realize his selfish desires.
2.Cheng's father secretly reported Song Yunhui and questioned Cheng Kaiyan
Cheng's mother told Cheng's father that Kaiyan quietly cried every day in the middle of the night, and for the sake of her daughter, she could no longer continue to confront Song Yunhui. "You know what?This afternoon we have a parent-teacher conference at our school. Cheng's father's heart also softened, and he promised to reconcile with Song Yunhui, but unexpectedly, on the corridor of the Children's Palace, he saw Dr. Tao holding Song Yunhui's backpack.
The elderly couple became suspicious of an improper connection between Song Yunhui and Dr. Tao. "Are you kidding?How do I know?Cheng Kaiyan then rushed to the scene, unable to control his emotions and had a fierce argument with Dr. Tao.
After Song Yunhui loudly stopped Cheng Kaiyan, he left the scene with his daughter who was so frightened that she burst into tears. "What kind of man are you?How can this be done?Cheng Kaiyan followed closely and declared: "Song Yunhui, I have decided to end my marriage with you." ”
She may have been unable to stand Song Yunhui's cold attitude towards her, so she took the initiative to file for divorce in order to preserve the last dignity, and it would be best if Song Yunhui could keep her. She knew what he meant, and she understood. However, she waited for three whole days and did not receive any response from Song Yunhui, but instead received a message that Song Yunhui was under investigation.
As a result of Cheng's father's report, Song Yunhui had an improper relationship with Liang Sishen, a foreign negotiator, and was suspected of transferring assets to foreign parties. **After careful investigation, the suspect was finally locked. The investigation team found Cheng Kaiyan for verification, and although she was full of resentment and dissatisfaction, she still stood up to defend Song Yunhui.
However, in the course of her conversation, she realized that it was her father who reported Song Yunhui. It was the weekend, and she went to a friend's party. She stepped out of Tokai's office building and found her father waiting for her there. She knew that her father would have to come. Despite this, she did not look directly at her father and left with tears in her eyes.
Cheng's father didn't say a word before the incident, and used this inferior way to humiliate Cheng Kaiyan for no reasonDid he want to show his majesty in front of everyone?In the final analysis, all this is Cheng Kaiyan's personal matter, and Cheng's father has intervened too much in this.
Moreover, is Cheng's father really out of consideration for Cheng Kaiyan?That's why he did it!Cheng Kaiyan will only feel more inferior and embarrassed after his behavior. With this low-level strategy, although the desired effect can be achieved, the face of the Cheng family may be damaged
In the final analysis, Cheng's father's real intention was to rectify Song Yunhui, and he thought that as long as Song Yunhui was obedient, everything would be fine;On the contrary, if Song Yunhui does not obey, he is willing to pay any price.
3.Father Cheng did not give Cheng Kaiyan the respect he deserved, instead, he took advantage of her ignorance.
I once wondered why a witty person like Cheng's father would raise my daughter to be so innocent
When I witnessed Cheng's father's series of miraculous techniques, I seemed to grasp the meaning. Only when Cheng Kaiyan shows innocence and ignorance will she follow his advice and act according to his wishes.
Cheng's father undoubtedly believes that everything he does is for Cheng Kaiyan's well-being.
In fact, there is no more selfish behavior in this world than to think about you. Because I'm a very opinionated person. The implicit implication of these words is that you must strictly follow my plan and follow my advice.
Is Cheng's father really doing it for Cheng Kaiyan?The larger part is to fulfill his personal desires.
Initially, he asked Cheng Kaiyan to discuss the issue of job transfer with Song Yunhui, but he did not make it clear why he mentioned Cheng Qianli first and then her. He said that he wanted her to be a good cadre, not a cadre. He only hoped that Cheng Kaiyan would follow his advice and act according to his wishes, but he didn't want to explain the reason to her.
Cheng Kaiyan is an innocent and ignorant person, Cheng's father did not teach her, but used her ignorance to realize his selfish desires.
Cheng Kaiyan looked quite naïve and didn't understand Cheng's father's inner thoughts at all. Frankly, when I saw her innocent face, I really thought she was a pathetic person.
Even though she was an adult, her father never gave her the respect she deserved. If her father is really good to her, then he should respect her, guide her, and encourage her to live independently, instead of repeatedly interfering in her married life and using some extreme ways to deal with Song Yunhui.
If it weren't for Cheng's father stretching out too many hands, Cheng Kaiyan might not have suffered too much pain in his married life, thus making what should have been a happy life chaotic.