Does children's self-discipline really depend on parents to force it out?This question, like a bombshell, was dropped in the hearts of every parent and educator, causing ripples. Behind this seemingly simple problem, there are deep philosophical and practical problems of family education.
First of all, we need to clarify a concept: self-discipline refers to the ability of individuals to self-discipline and self-manage without external pressure. This is a very important ability, which is related to a child's future study, work and life. So, should children's self-discipline be "forced" by parents or "cultivated" by parents?
On the one hand, parents are the first teachers of their children, and the family is the first school of their children. Parents' educational attitudes and methods directly affect their children's growth. If parents can lead by example and achieve self-discipline, children will naturally be able to learn self-discipline. This is the so-called "teaching by example is more important than teaching".
On the other hand, children's self-discipline also needs appropriate guidance and supervision from parents. This is not "force", but "guidance" and "help". Children are not yet mentally mature, and they need guidance from their parents to help them establish the right values and codes of conduct. In this process, the "force" of parents may make children feel pressure, but it can also allow children to learn to face pressure and learn to manage themselves.
We need to realize that children's self-discipline is not something that can be cultivated overnight, it is a long-term process that requires the patience and wisdom of parents. In this process, the role of parents is more like a guide and companion than an enforcer. Parents should promote their children's self-discipline through encouragement and encouragement, not through punishment and oppression.
For example, when a child completes a task, parents can give timely praise and rewards so that the child can feel the positive results of self-discipline. When a child is struggling, parents should offer help and support instead of simply criticizing and blaming. This can make children more willing to manage themselves, knowing that self-discipline can lead to positive results.
In addition, parents should also educate their children on how to set goals, how to plan time, and how to manage their emotions and desires. These skills are very important for children's self-discipline. Parents can discuss these topics with their children through family meetings, daily conversations, etc., so that children can learn and grow in practice.
At the same time, parents should also pay attention to their words and behaviors, as children will imitate the behavior of adults. If parents can be self-disciplined in their daily lives, such as completing work on time and following rules, children will learn these behaviors subtly. On the other hand, if parents are often late and break the rules, it will be difficult for children to learn self-discipline.
Finally, it's important to understand that every child is unique and their needs and ways of receiving them are different. Therefore, in the process of cultivating children's self-discipline, parents need to adopt different methods and strategies according to their children's personality and interests. Some children may need more freedom and space, and some may need more guidance and attention. Parents need to observe and understand their children to find the most suitable way to educate them.
In short, children's self-discipline is not "forced" by parents, but "cultivated" by parents. It is a complex and delicate process that requires the wisdom, patience, and love of parents. With the right guidance and support, we can help children build strong self-discipline and build a strong foundation for their future.