Don't bully people, but you can also casually let others step on your head to and pee. Comity is not an unprincipled retreat, nor is it silence about everything. Don't think that in this way you have depth, connotation, and a person with a broad heart and tolerance;On the contrary, if you do, others will only see you as cowardly and incompetent. There are times when you have to debate and fight back against things that you can't bear.
People who like to laugh at others in order to achieve the goal of hurting the other person's self-esteem have a common problem, that is, bullying the good and fearing the hard. Due to the lack of self-cultivation, this kind of person likes to trample the other party under his feet, so he slowly forms a violent Xi, is picky about people and things, and thinks that he has extraordinary insight and insight. The more fearful others become, the more triumphant they become, and when they say harsh words, they spit out quickly, and they don't know how to restrain them at all.
When facing this kind of person, you don't have to show weakness casually, and you don't need to degrade yourself, all you have to do is to go toe-to-toe with him. Here's what you should:
1 When the other person speaks vigorously and unpleasant words come out of your mouth, you can stand up and politely say, "I'm sorry, please continue your speech, I'll go first." ”
2 When he is excitedly picking out your weaknesses and making fun of them, you just have to look at him calmly, like a spectator, and admire every expression of the clown in front of you with great interest, and it will be difficult for him to sing a one-man show.
3 When he is always looking for trouble with you, and every word is directed at you, try to restrain yourself, pretend that you do not hear, and do not fall for the other party's tricks and quarrel with him. If you ignore him at all, he will not be able to monologue any longer, and his weaknesses will be exposed for all to see.
Some people are born "crazy", and you can only describe them with four words: "unreasonable". If he is particularly aimed at you, barking at you like a mad dog, and chasing after you, your troubles will naturally increase greatly, and he may even act in a way that hurts others and himself, and the consequences are really unimaginable.
In public, we often meet people like this. For example, shouting and laughing and talking in the cinema;You want to ask them to be quiet, but you are polite and unwilling to accuse each other in public, so you can only endure it. In this way, you will become more and more introverted and afraid of things, afraid to fight on the basis of reason, and get by with everything.
Remember, don't bully people and don't let others step on your head. Blindly accommodating selfish people and tolerating the indirect harm caused by the other party. No one will be grateful for your kindness, on the contrary, cowardice and incompetence may be how people describe you.
In fact, when faced with the above situation, a truly cultivated person will stand up and tell the other person about the bad influence he has caused to others, and the other party will feel ashamed because his attitude is sincere and righteous. If you speak out loud and angrily, "You selfish person, do you know that you speak too loudly and annoyingly?"The other party's reaction is inevitably to glare angrily, sneer at each other, not only will not cooperate, but will deliberately oppose you, causing a fierce dispute. You should say something like, "Sir, could you please speak quietly?"Or, "Please be quiet, thank you." Instead of scolding the other person, it is better to clearly tell the other person what you want him to do, so that he can understand the bad influence he has on the people around him.
Why not develop speaking skills and achieve the results you have in mind without hurting the self-esteem of others?