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Love, it's like that pure crystal, and marriage, hehe, that's a hodgepodge of trivialities. "Someone joked about it. But to be honest, marriage is actually life, and how to piece together this chicken feather into a beautiful picture scroll depends on two people slowly pondering together.
Of course, there are also some people who will be distracted in marriage, either mentally or physically. But either way, it's disrespectful to marriage and unfair to the partner.
What if two people love each other obviously, but they each have families to care about?Come, hear me out about the smartest way to deal with it.
Keep your distance
When it comes to desertion on the spiritual level, it is much more difficult to control than on the physical level. This is like chasing stars, when you see your favorite star, it is inevitable that the deer will bump into each other in your heart. But the key is that you have to learn to be in a measured position and not do things that hurt your partner, and that's when your character is really tested.
If a man and a woman love each other, it is easy to fall in loveIf you can't hold on to it, you will lose your sense of proportion, and you may end up on the road of no return to betray your marriage. Understand that people live not only for themselves, but also for family, responsibility and affection.
If you like a person again, if you are charged with "abandoning your wife and children", you must force yourself to keep your distance. It's not about running away, it's about giving each other a respite.
There are many people in this world who are experiencing the pain of not being able to love. Feelings are not something that can be put away, and you can forget if you forget it. But at least we can keep our distance, and we don't have to force ourselves to forget, and we don't always have to tell ourselves to let go.
Reduce contactOnce men and women get along with each other, there are often only two results: either arouse the other party's disgust, or arouse the other party's favor. It is the same for both unmarried and married, and frequent contact and contact are easy to spark.
In psychology, this is called the "halo effect", which means that when men and women first meet, it is easy to only see each other's strengths and ignore their weaknesses. Many married men and women fall in love because of this effect. After staying in a dull marriage for a long time, a new person suddenly appeared, which was quite exciting, and mistakenly thought that he had found true love.
But don't forget that Mr. Yang Jiang said:"Extramarital affairs, you think you are encountering medicine, but in fact it is killing you. Regardless of whether men and women have children after the age of 30, they don't cherish their marriage, and the end is more miserable. ”Escaping the problems in your marriage and seeking stimulation from the outside is not the solution, it is pushing yourself into the abyss. Therefore, it is the smartest thing to rein in the precipice while it is not too deep.
Return to the familyThe trivial things in marriage are like sand that grinds away your love little by little. Some couples get closer to each other, the deeper their feelings become;Some couples become strangers or even enemies after living a life.
Leo Tolstoy said, "Happy families are all alike, and unhappy families have their own misfortunes." In fact, it is inevitable that there will be conflicts and quarrels between husband and wife. The most valuable thing is that even if there is a conflict, we will find a way to solve it together and face it together. What they are most afraid of is knowing that there are problems in their marriage, but they turn a blind eye and try to avoid it, and extramarital affairs have become a safe haven for them. However, extramarital affairs can lead to a greater crisis in the family. Marriage is like a path of cultivation, two people have to work together to go on for a long time. Therefore, when you encounter problems in your marriage, don't run away from facing them, and solving them is the king. Of course, if the fate of the two parties is exhausted, then it is good to get together and disperse, and everyone is fine. Wait until you are completely separated to start a new relationship, which is the minimum respect for others and yourself!
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