Marriage and family are people's emotional sustenance of a beautiful "station" and "home", and it is also a natural barrier and shield against foreign risks and risks. From the initial contact with the opposite sex, to mutual understanding, mutual appreciation, and mutual attraction, until they move towards the palace of marriage, form a small family of common love, have children, love each other, and respect each other, it should be said that this is the most beautiful thing in the world.
However, in recent years, serious incidents of marital and family violence (hereinafter referred to as "domestic violence") have occurred in countries around the world, including China, but they have repeatedly appeared in the media, and this phenomenon has attracted the attention of all parties in society. China's new Marriage Law and the Anti-Domestic Violence Law of the People's Republic of China (hereinafter referred to as the "Anti-Domestic Violence Law") are highly targeted legal provisions issued in the context of paying attention to the harmony and happiness of marriage and family.
1) The definition of domestic violence in the provisions of the law, and the damage caused by domestic violence.
So, what is domestic violence (hereinafter referred to as "domestic violence")?Article 2 of the Anti-Domestic Violence Law clearly stipulates: "The term "domestic violence" as used in this Law refers to physical, mental and other violations committed by family members by means of beating, mutilation, restriction of personal freedom, and frequent verbal abuse and intimidation. ”
Domestic violence causes physical and psychological harm and damage to families, including partners, women and children, the elderly, and children, which is devastating, and is also extremely damaging to the overall harmony and stability of society.
The legal definition of domestic violence, how to provide assistance in the event of domestic violence, which state agencies and organizations to send applications for help, and what legal obligations and responsibilities the corresponding state agencies and organizations provide when receiving an application for help, are all clearly stipulated and explained in the law.
Once the body and mind are devastated by domestic violence, first of all, it is advisable to take corresponding and effective avoidance measures in a timely manner, such as calling 110 in time, to avoid further harm;Second, in accordance with the provisions of the relevant laws, including the Marriage Law and the Anti-Domestic Violence Law, seek legal protection against further personal injury and infringement of marital and family property.
2) The deep-seated causes and practical factors of domestic violence.
1.Historical reasons.
In essence, both parties to the marriage have no freedom to love and be loved before marriage, nor do they have the right to decide on marriage. Therefore, old-style marriage is not essentially a marriage system based on the feelings of men and women, and under the coercion of "external forces". This kind of marriage will undoubtedly produce a lot of problems, such as the saying "three days without fighting, go to the house to uncover the tiles", the same for children, the so-called "filial piety under the stick", etc., all of which are in the same vein as the violent means in traditional marriage and family to deal with the problems of marriage and family. Among them, the targets of violent punishment mainly refer to women and children.
2.Real-life reasons. Compared with the old marriage and family, the real marriage and family have undergone fundamental changes in both lifestyle and living Xi. Modern people's view of marriage has also changed a lot. Nowadays, the rapid development of information and communication, fast transportation, fast catering, online games, as well as the increasingly fierce competition for entrepreneurship and job hunting, and the increased risk of investment and lending, all affect and change the living conditions and behavior patterns of modern marriage and family. Based on my experience of marriage and family life over the years, as well as my observation of macro and micro marital conditions, I have summarized the following common typical cases that lead to domestic violence:
Quarrels often continue and escalate.
Real life is composed of contradictions in various situations, and there are contradictions and disagreements, and how to deal with disagreements is a university question, not a simple life skill issue, such as personal cultural quality, moral standards, personal speech and behavior cultivation and other factors. Many families have struggled to deal with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. The handling of the relationship between the elderly and the education of the children may be the inducing factors that lead to the intensification of the conflict.
Emotional problems of the main body of the married man.
This can be one of the most important causes of domestic violence. The phenomenon of "little three", which people are Xi to commonly called, is actually the result of one or both of the married men and women after the emotional outward migration. This is no longer an isolated case, but a significant percentage. This is inseparable from the general social environment of a period. Once it is discovered that the emotions are transferred outward, and there is no suitable and appropriate means and methods to deal with the marital crisis, it will lead to a fierce quarrel that gradually escalates into a violent incident.
The overall quality and moral character of married men and women.
As the saying goes: All those who don't want to get married and fall in love are hooligans. This is applied to the marriage and family of married men and women, and the logical reasoning is that a marriage without love is an immoral marriage. This situation is more common in cases where marriage is hastily brokered at the urging of parents. In a family formed by marriage for the sake of marriage, really anything can happen, and the root cause is the lack of the foundation and conditions for loving each other.
Caused by physical and psychological illness. If one or both parties have physical and psychological diseases, if they are not applied in time, once the condition is aggravated, to a certain extent, an accident occurs, and it is also a last resort. The harmfulness of this kind of situation lies in the fact that one or both parties may not find the root cause of the disease in the first place, and always downplay it to other reasons to varying degrees, such as "bad mood", "bad attitude", "bad temper". It hides the huge hidden danger of problems occurring.
Something big has happened.
For example, huge losses, major investment failures, and major losses from Internet fraud, etc., resulting in physical and mental imbalance, and persistent verbal and behavioral disorders.
Domestic violence caused by ignorance.
This type of situation is more common in explicit or implicit marriages of sale. It is also common in the management of marriage and family, misplaced ideas and misconduct. For example, in the name of the family, one party's salary card, bank card, bank passbook, etc., is seized to restrict the other party's consumption. Punish the wrongdoer, and threaten to restrict the sexual behavior of the couple. corporal punishment for children and adolescents.
3) Anti-domestic violence response measures.
First of all, and most importantly, once domestic violence occurs, you should call the police in time and call 110 as soon as possibleSeek protection. Avoid further physical and mental damage and injury.
Secondly, seek the assistance and protection of the relevant institutions and organizations of the State as provided for by the above-mentioned laws.
The third is also a very important one, that is, to move out of the original place of residence in a timely manner, and at the same time take confidentiality measures to avoid being illegally infringed again.
Fourth, learn to correct the situation of domestic violence, so as to do a good job in advance and prevent problems in the future. For example, once it is found that one party's mood swings are large or his condition is aggravated, he or she should be exhorted or imposed** in a timely manner, including the compulsory treatment of a psychiatric hospital**. At the same time, arrange the daily life of individuals and other family members in advance to prevent accidents.
Fifth, timely stop-loss strategy. In order to avoid further or repeated injuries, it is advisable to take decisive measures, first consult a lawyer in the professional field, and divorce categorically in accordance with the law.
Author's Message: Opposing domestic violence is defending the legal dignity of marriage and family. Some people may say, don't bother, I'm not married, everything is free. Whether this statement is true or not, the author does not intend to comment. It's just that a person comes to this world, if he doesn't even have a marriage or a family, and he has such a life defect, I'm afraid it has already been cast.