The news queen ended in the hot attention, and the breakup of Zhang Jiayan and lawyer Shao has also become a hot topic among many audiences. The two of them obviously looked so suitable.
After going through so much, everything was ready, and I got married before I saw it, but I broke up. It's a shame.
Many people say that Zhang Jiayan doesn't know what to do and is stubborn, but it's a pity that Lawyer Shao is enthusiastic, and she is not worthy of Lawyer Shao.
Some people say that it is the reason for lawyer Shao, in short, there are different opinions.
In fact, the breakup between Zhang Jiayan and Lawyer Shao is doomed, there is no right or wrong, just because of these points:
Zhang Jiayan's personality is very typical, she is a single-minded person who is extremely difficult to change. Both for people and for things.
She is very pure, she likes it, she likes it, and if she doesn't like it, she doesn't like it. Right is right, wrong is wrong, there is no such thing as a gray area.
She is extremely passionate about journalism, and reporting the news can make her feel the value of life and the meaning of her life.
Her idea of marriage is also very simple, that is, it will not affect her work. He likes Lawyer Shao, but she loves her work even more. He hopes that her husband will not affect his work and support his work.
Obviously, Mr. Shao is not such a partner.
Lawyer Shao was able to give up the time of dating and give her space to work to her heart's content, which stemmed from Lawyer Shao's love for her. So he's tolerating her, he's compromising for her.
But lawyer Shao didn't want a careeraholic wife in his heart, and he told Zhang Jiayan more than once that he hoped that the other party could be a housewife after marriage.
His goal is to buy a big house with three bedrooms and one living room, and he has two children with Jiayan, Jiayan takes care of the children at home, pays him allowances by himself, and pays him benefits.
A happy family of four. This is what he expects from his married life.
is also his expectation of his future wife. That is, the expectation of Jiayan.
Zhang Jiayan was frightened by such expectations, especially after her work encountered bottlenecks and setbacks, her fiancé did not support her journalism dream, and persuaded herself to give up.
The expectations of both parties are completely inconsistent, so the breakup is doomed.
Zhang Jiayan suffered from the company's infighting, was marginalized in the workplace, and her own cognition was completely subverted. For the sake of her journalistic dreams, she can completely turn into another person she doesn't know.
A new Zhang Jiayan, a person who will do anything to win. What she used to disdain the most, she is doing right now. She knew that without rights, there would be no right to the press.
So she became a scheming person who stood on top of the line and had no professional ethics. She lost her persistence and won the favor of her boss.
In her career, she has succeeded, and her values are completely different from those of Lawyer Shao in life.
Lawyer Shao likes the former Zhang Jiayan, a simple and kind Zhang Jiayan who runs into walls everywhere.
It's not Zhang Jiayan who is blackened now.
So they were completely separated.
In fact, Zhang Jiayan's later extreme changes in lawyer Shao also contributed a lot. In many ways, it can be seen that her spirit is on the verge of collapse.
He is Zhang Jiayan's boyfriend, but he didn't realize that he was proud of his own career and became a partner lawyer at a young age. I must have learned a lot in my career.
He never listened to Zhang Jiayan's voice, didn't care about the needs of the other party, and didn't give her psychological support and help for her career. He understands how important news is to Jiayan, and when he encounters difficulties, he will only persuade the other party to give up.
In fact, it is said that Zhang Jiayan has changed, but in fact, her essence has not changed, she is still persistent, but she is growing, making progress and making choices in her growth.
She chose to go from one extreme to the other.
Although some choices are not necessarily right, it is understandable that with her current work situation and her cognition, she can only make such a choice in order to go on smoothly.
From this point on, lawyer Shao is immature, and he stands on the moral high ground and is ashamed to evaluate his lover. From an objective point of view, he is right.
But from the perspective of a lover, it is too cold-blooded and too hypocritical.
A truly mature lover will not be indignant and blamed because of a last resort choice of the other party, and then give up completely.
However, both of them made such a choice.
It can be seen that the psychology of both of them is not mature enough, and the solution to the problem in marriage is to give up.
Life is to face a lot of difficulties, those couples who grow old together have not experienced countless ups and downs, quarrels and anger, life differences, and finally supported each other and helped each other through the difficulties.
The only thing left undone was to give up easily.
So from this aspect, the separation of the two of them is also doomed.
Zhang Jiayan and Lawyer Shao have been together for so many years, and their souls are actually very far apart, and their breakup is doomed. Of the three points mentioned above, the first two are appearances, and the third is fundamental.
In fact, both of them are selfish people, and they both live in their own imaginary worlds. I just hope that the other person can meet my expectations, but I never think about making any changes for the other person.
A good marriage is not 1+1 equals 2, but 05+0.5 equals 1, and each has to sacrifice a part of their own personality for their own family.
If you don't realize this, and the other party doesn't realize this, the result of the breakup is doomed.
At this stage, Zhang Jiayan is not suitable for entering a relationship, because she has not yet found a way to get along with herself. It has not yet become a stable self-form.
If Mr. Shao has not thought about changing himself to respect the career pursuit of career women after marriage, he needs to reposition his liking.
A smart, wise, decisive, career-oriented woman and an obedient and gentle housewife-like woman are completely different, and there may not be a perfect other half in the world.
He needs to make a trade-off between liking and suiting, and he must not think about both and both. For example, I like a career-oriented woman like Zhang Jiayan, and persuade her to be a housewife with peace of mind after marriage.
This is unrealistic.
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