A few days ago, a mother-in-law's hospitalized daughter-in-law gave her mother-in-law instant noodles on the hot search.
In the ** circulated on the Internet, an old lady sat on the bed eating instant noodles, and her daughter-in-law asked softly: "Is it delicious?" Eat it after it's delicious...”
On the third day, my mother-in-law couldn't eat anymore, so she looked at the soaked noodles with a sad face and stopped moving her chopsticks, saying, "Enough has been eaten!" ”
The daughter-in-law spoke: ".It's only been 3 days and enough to eat? You told me to eat 3 boxes during the confinement, didn't you say that this was nutritious? He also said that you didn't catch food when you were young.
After reading it, I feel so relieved! Haha
A few days ago, I joked with my mother-in-law: "When you can't cook by yourself in the future and wait for me to cook for you, I will let you eat the same meal every day for a month!" ”
Because my mother-in-law really didn't bring a change to my meal for a month when I was confined, and later she did the same to her grandson.
As long as she thinks that her grandson likes to eat a kind of food, she cooks it every day, and she can't listen to her opinions at all, until she makes her grandson vomit and annoyed.
I think the reason why this ** is popular is probably because it poked at the pain points of many daughters-in-law: when I was confined, my mother-in-law fell into the well, and I had nowhere to complain, and it was impossible to really deal with my mother-in-law in reality
Although the photographer came out to declare that it was posed, it did not affect everyone's coolness: "Heaven is a good reincarnation, who is spared by the sky", how many women have you helped to avenge the "confinement revenge"!
My mother-in-law is not a bad mother-in-law, and she wants to take good care of me, but she has a strong personality and is a very calculating person, and she is very uncomfortable to do things. Moreover, I gave birth to a daughter, maybe she has bitterness in her heart and can't say it, so she is very tired of serving her daughter-in-law.
Anyway, I've been in my first month for almost 20 years. Now that I think about it, I can still clearly remember my grievances, helplessness and collapse, and I am afraid I will never forget it for the rest of my life
I haven't met the kind of mother-in-law I see on the Internet: she doesn't contribute money or effort, or she doesn't cook nutritious food. If you meet such a mother-in-law, you can imagine how sad a woman should be during her confinement!
I've wondered countless times why I'm depressed after having a baby. Why do so many women have a "confinement feud" with their mother-in-law?
I think there are three main reasons.
First, there is a loss of "freedom" during confinement
As modern women, who grew up in a family with enlightened parents, we are Xi to freedom, both physically and mentally.
However, after giving birth, we had to stay at home for a month, and suddenly we lost the freedom to eat whatever we wanted, and the freedom to go out whenever we wanted.
Moreover,Almost everything you want to do, your mother-in-law can always find a reason to oppose you: you can't wash your hair during confinement, you will have a headache in the future; You can't brush your teeth during the month, and your teeth will be loose later; You can't cry during the confinement, and your eyes will hurt later; You can't comb your hair, you can't take a shower, you can't let outsiders into the house...
Obviously, the doctor has already explained what he is allowed to do, but she denies all of them, and she has to keep whispering in your ear like Tang Seng.
Like when I was the eldest child, there was no confinement wife, no confinement center, no takeaway, and my husband was working in other places, this kind of confinement was really maddening!
I remember that my husband stewed two chickens for me before going to work after taking nursing leave: a few pig's trotters, so my mother-in-law asked me to eat these two things every Sunday, without adding salt, stewing four or five times a day, adding a little water again and again, and occasionally changing a trick to beat me with chicken soup to beat an egg.
I ate very little during the confinement, and I kept eating these two chickens...My mother-in-law was reluctant to eat herself, and she was reluctant to throw it away, so she forced me to eat it all at once until it was all eaten.
If I say, I can't eat it.
She sat next to her and talked about how she could eat and how to milk a lot during her confinement...Ah, my grievances have nowhere to vent!
A classmate of mine, who is an obstetrician and gynecologist, came to see me at my house, and when I told her about these grievances, she suddenly burst into tears, and I couldn't stop it.
What's the hardest thing in life? It's something that needs to be troublesome. Confinement is undoubtedly the most difficult time among women, and this is not all for themselves, but more for the man and the whole family.
I think back to the situation in this half of my life when I need to trouble others to take care of me, and the only time I have to give birth to a child is really uncomfortable, and I am determined not to go through it again.
Second, physical pain
Whether it is a natural birth or a caesarean section, most of them have such and such pain after giving birth, either it is a knife pain, or it is a pain in milk, or it is severe constipation, as well as eczema, allergies and other additional reactions.
Are there any women who give birth without feeling much pain and smoothly carry the baby? There are, but very few.
Physical pain inevitably leads to psychological anxiety and even depression.
When you are unwell, your mother-in-law is inconsiderate of you everywhere, and she still speaks coldly to you, can you not be hostile?
Third, psychological changes
After most women give birth, they have to learn Xi be responsible for the eating, drinking, and Lazar of a small baby, learn how to love him, and take on the responsibilities of motherhood.
However, no matter how many books I have read before, no matter how much I have heard others talk about my personal experience, when I come to take care of the child myself, I find that it is not the same thing at all: I want to breastfeed my child but I can't do much; I learned so many ways to put myself to sleep, but none of them worked; The child's jaundice has not faded for half a month; How is eczema so serious? ......
In short, there are new challenges almost every day.
What would it be like if the family did not fully support them in such a helpless moment, but instead sneered at them? That's why there is the sentence "The hatred of the confinement is not shared".
* The woman in the * will return the grievances suffered by her mother-in-law in confinement with dignity, but in reality, when the mother-in-law is really old, how many daughters-in-law will be embarrassed to treat the old man like this? Most of them have reconciled with themselves and the elderly.
In fact, it is not only the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but also any relationship. Thirty years in Hedong Thirty years in Hexi, no one dares to say that one day they will use others, let alone a family.
Therefore, people must not bully others when they are in power, because they may not be able to return it one day.
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