The final exams are approaching, and a wave of "college students accompanying their babies" has swept many cities. Parents said that now primary school students have difficult topics and can't tutor themselves, so they find a college student to "accompany the baby", which not only solves the problem of homework tutoring, but also eases the parent-child relationship of "chickens and dogs", so that they and their children are "relieved".
Whether it is college students accompanying the baby, or tutoring, it can indeed help children solve problems in homework in a timely manner, so that children's homework is "all right". However, over the years, many cases of "accompanied", "assisted" and "supplemented" children have shown that during the official examination, many "assisted" children's grades are not outstanding, and it is difficult to escape the "inverse law of grade and grade" - as the grade increases, the child's performance gradually decreases. Why is that?
This is because,Learning is not only the learning of knowledge, but also the cultivation of ability and habits.
When children are studying, there are three disadvantages to having someone next to them to "accompany, assist, and make up":
First, it is easy to form a dependency mentality, and when you encounter a "problem", you want to ask, you are too lazy to use your brain to think, and it is difficult to improve your self-learning ability.
Usually, you can accompany the baby to learn and do homework, but during the exam, you can't go to the examination room to "accompany the baby to take the test"!Without "companionship", the child can only sit and wait for the death of problems encountered in the examination room!
The second is that there is no right or wrong view of the question, no matter whether 3728 is correct or not, everything will be fine when it is done, wait for others to check, wait for others to explain if it is not right, and then correct the mistake, and write the so-called correct answer is the end, as for how the answer is solved, they don't care.
Third, self-discipline is poor, and it is difficult to develop independent study habits. Children who have been "accompanied" for a long time are accustomed to being supervised by others, and once they are unaccompanied, it is difficult to concentrate their energy, and their hearts will not be able to study.
I have a good friend, Brother An, who is a famous teacher in the county experimental primary school. When his son was in elementary school, he not only completed his homework independently, but also let his children complete the inspection by himself.
As for the parents' signature, Lao An's brother discussed with his son like this: "You see I'm too busy to check your homework, or you can check it yourself after finishing your homework, and I will only be responsible for signing if there are no mistakes, I fully trust you." If you really can't ask me again, we'll discuss what to doOf course, the son happily agreed.
As a result, during elementary school, Brother An never tutored his son with homework. Now his son has completed his doctorate at Beijing Medical University and stayed ......
Children's growth needs the company of parents, learning needs the care of parents, but this companionship and care can not be narrowly to simply accompany the child to do homework, tutoring homework, not to mention that they have no time, they spend money to hire someone to "accompany" and "to assist", parents think that this is to love children, care about children, help children, help children learn, don't you know, this is just to detain children in the greenhouse" and "raise in the greenhouse" Not only is it not conducive to the development of children's self-learning ability, but also not conducive to the formation of children's independent ability, the more children learn, the more they regress, the worse their test scores are, not to mention, when they grow up, it is more difficult to be independent, self-reliant, and self-reliant in society!
Author: Li Yuzhu, this article is the original work of Pinghu Yizhu, welcome to guide, ** or quote, please indicate the author and source, offenders must be investigated. ）