Whether it is at home or abroad, whether it is in the first organ or in the company group, most of the leaders are mostly men, and this phenomenon has been the case since ancient times. So much so that in some departments of modern society, if men and women have the same ability when selecting talents, the result is often men, even if the level of men is slightly lower than that of women.
What is the reason for this phenomenon?Is it a historical reason or a socio-cultural reason?Or is it an unspoken rule in the workplace?The reasons are certainly multifaceted. However, when modern women's economic ability is getting stronger and stronger, the ensuing workplace and life problems are becoming more and more prominent, the previous problems are just the tip of the iceberg, as well as career planning, job competition, energy distribution and life arrangements, etc., these problems are also more and more women pay attention to and think.
In the book "Her World", the complex and wonderful inner world of women is introduced in detail, and from the perspectives of the changes in women's roles brought about by social development, social and cultural background, existential philosophy, etc., it makes an in-depth analysis of the choices and challenges that women will face in the critical period of their lives, revealing the truth about the situation and inner growth of modern women. It can provide answers to the questions that women have in the process of growing up, and also point out the direction of thinking for the confusion faced by women.
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The authors of "Her World" are Elisabeth Cadoch of France, a journalist, writer and documentary filmmaker who specializes in providing insight into the psychology and culture behind reality, and Ana de MontalloThe latter is a psychologist and trainer who has been in the industry for 14 years, focusing on how women can get rid of their shackles and live a complete self-issue under the influence of social and cultural factors. The two of them have created this book as a good reference for the problems encountered by women in various critical periods, and I believe you will gain after reading it.
The clash of tradition and reality
What girls hear most since they were young is to be obedient, to be quiet, to look like a girl, so what is the appearance of a girl?Knowledgeable, empathetic, gentle and virtuous, husband and child, seeing such words, has the image of the ideal girl in your mind appeared?
In the past few years, countless families have raised girls according to such standards, but today's society has the same requirements for women in the workplace as men. Such workplace requirements contradict tradition, which makes girls who grow up in the traditional mode of training overwhelmed, there is no standard to find, and some even fall into deep anxiety and depression.
Girls must first be able to see such phenomena, summarize the patterns from the complex phenomena, understand the background and reasons for the formation of countless patterns, and get out of anxiety and depression as soon as possible. Compared with modern society, they have the ability to understand the contradictions of reality, have the courage to break the shackles, accept everything in reality, and create an image that suits their own and social requirements.
She World" says that we need to break the stereotypes associated with girls and strive to cultivate a new era of girls who can follow social standards and stand true to themselves.
A matter of balance exclusive to women
Many women who have achieved success in their careers have been asked questions like: How do you balance your career and family?
Almost all men will not encounter such a problem, the reason is that because of the consensus of the traditional social division of labor, the public generally believes that the family and children should be borne by women, and men only need to do a good job.
The second reason is that the public believes that women should also bear the burden of finance, and they should also do a good job in their careers and families. Such a requirement is an invisible pressure for women, both to pursue a career and take care of the family, but also to balance the two perfectly, if either side is not done well, women will be blamed.
It just so happens that in "Her World", full-time housewives are not understood and are called parasites;When I go to work, I am said to be irresponsible for my children and family. It's really a hard time for them, and it's thankless.
Some women strive to achieve balance and perfection because of this demand, they work hard, take care of their families, learn to cook, arrange parties, have a full schedule every day, and have a successful career and a happy family in the eyes of outsiders.
And only she knows that in her heart she sees everything that is big as a great failure, and she falls into self-criticism and anxiety every day, she pursues perfection in everything, demands all kinds of responsibilities from high standards, and believes that she must put the same energy into everything she does in order to achieve perfection.
It is also mentioned in "Her World": Do we have the ability to be perfect in everything?The answer is obviously no, so when women are faced with the question of balance between career and family, please answer directly: there is no balance, only trade-offs.
Attitudes towards self and others
We often see in the previous generation of women that they sacrificed themselves for the family, almost starting from the beginning of their families, revolving around their families, children, husbands and parents every day, and they had all the relatives around them in their hearts, but not themselves.
Until the children have grown up, started a family on their own, and their parents have left, and there are fewer and fewer people in the family, and only themselves are left, their hearts will be empty and very lonely.
You can imagine the setting sun on the living room floor on an autumn evening, reflecting the orange light on the back of an elderly woman who is sitting alone on the sofa in the living room, watching the lively TV with a dejected expression.
If you don't want to have such a good old age, please take yourself to heart when you pretend to be someone else. After being busy with the kids, squeeze in some time to relaxAfter cooking for her husband, ask someone else to help with the housework, and ask a friend out for some shoppingAfter chatting with your parents, do something you enjoy as well.
In short, have time with yourself and do something of your own. Fan Deng said: Only when she can take care of herself can she have the ability to take care of others. So women please take care of yourself first, you can exercise, read, work, keep in touch with yourself, and have a safe and stable heart.
Write to the end
There are many issues that women encounter in their lives, and even the most powerful people have encountered doubts or mistakes on the road of life, but they are not afraid of doubts and mistakes, but have the courage to have an open mind to unique ideas and not let themselves be bound to the comfort zone of life.
In the famous psychologist Zhang Defen's book "Meet the Best Self", it is written that happiness is not given by others, but created by oneself.