The first step to maturity is to reject internal frictionEveryone in the workplace has their own work to do. But there is always such a person, obviously it is his job, and he can't handle it and dump it at you. Sure enough, someone is too good to talk and doesn't know how to refuse, so the original problems of others naturally become all his problems.
I stayed up all night and finally solved the work problems, and the results were all someone else's. Because of people's strategic planning, they can coordinate resources to complete tasks that may not have been completed. Your presence becomes a hand stretched too far and interfering in the scope of someone else's work.
You reason with the other party, and the other party plays tricks with you. There are many such examples in life, which may be more disturbing than in the workplace. When many people encounter this, they will always comfort themselves, and it is a blessing to suffer a loss, maybe I am really not good enough. In addition to physical and mental exhaustion, similar situations will continue to repeat themselves next time.
Drawing responsibilities and boundaries is the second step in maturity. You can give advice on the premise that you're done with your work, but you shouldn't get started with it completely. And he must show his responsibilities and problems in advance, and he can't just talk about it when he becomes a confused account.
In fact, he knows these things better than you, so he wants to find you. A lot of people aren't as incompetent as you might think, they just lack a sense of boundaries. If you don't refuse, they will Xi coming to you when they have a problem, completely forgetting that it is not your responsibility. That's the mantra they say, why didn't you say it in the first place?
A clear sense of boundaries at the beginning will not offend people, on the contrary, everyone will have less bad things happening to each other.