Marriage is a major decision in life, and the first year of marriage is often the most important and critical period in married life. Many couples find that after an exciting proposal and wedding, the first year of married life is not as happy as they imagined. According to statistics, about one-third of divorce cases occur in the first year after the couple gets married. So, why is it easy to get divorced in the first year of marriage?
First, the enthusiasm of the newlyweds has not waned. During the love period, the two had beautiful fantasies about each other, but the trivial and run-in of real life after marriage made the newlywed enthusiasm gradually fade. At this time, the two began to truly understand and accept each other's shortcomings, but because the good impression formed during the love period has not disappeared, the sense of discomfort in real life is even stronger. This disparity and disappointment can lead to contradictions and conflicts between the two.
Second, it takes time to get used to the role change after marriage. During the period of passionate love, the relationship between the two is more like lovers, but after marriage, their roles change from lovers to husband and wife. It takes time to get used to new identities and responsibilities. For example, the woman needs to adjust to moving from her parents' house to her in-laws' house, and the man needs to learn to take care of the family. This shift in roles and lifestyles inevitably creates contradictions, especially when faced with family matters and responsibilities.
Third, the problem of premarital concealment has emerged. During the period of passionate love, the two often hide some personal problems, such as financial status, personality shortcomings, etc. But after getting married, these problems are likely to gradually appear, leading to conflicts. In particular, some deep-rooted personal problems are difficult to solve in the short term and can easily lead to marital crisis. Therefore, before getting married, both parties should be honest with each other, fully understand each other's strengths and weaknesses, and avoid conflicts due to hidden problems after marriage.
Fourth, inexperience leads to miscalculations. First-time couples lack experience in marriage management, do not know how to deal with conflicts and crises, and find it difficult to foresee the consequences of problems. Therefore, it is inevitable that they will make some impulsive or wrong decisions when faced with problems, which will deepen the conflict. In married life, both parties should try to remain calm and rational, learn problem-solving methods and skills, and avoid marriage breakdown due to lack of experience.
To reduce the likelihood of divorce in the first year of marriage, couples need to understand each other better, cultivate communication and trust, tolerate each other's shortcomings, and face life's challenges together. Marriage is a long-term commitment and dedication that requires the joint efforts of both husband and wife to maintain and operate. It is only by working together that you can get through the first critical period of your newlywed marriage and build a strong foundation for your marriage.