In traditional Chinese weddings, it is a very important step for the man to go to the woman's house to propose marriage. This session not only reflects the man's respect and sincerity for the woman, but also an important opportunity for the two families to establish contact and enhance understanding. Therefore, the man needs to be fully prepared when he goes to the woman's house to propose marriage to ensure that the whole process goes smoothly. Here are some suggestions and precautions for the man who is about to propose.
Choose the right time.
The time to propose marriage should be an auspicious day, such as a double day of the lunar calendar or a day with a special meaning. In addition, it is also necessary to take into account the actual situation of both families and avoid proposing on weekdays or other important holidays. It is best to communicate with the woman's parents in advance to determine a time that is convenient for both parties.
Prepare gifts. The man needs to prepare some gifts when proposing marriage to show respect and sincerity to the woman's family. Common gifts fall into the following categories:
Red Envelopes: Red envelopes are traditional Chinese gifts that symbolize blessings and good fortune. The amount of red packets can be determined according to the actual situation and regional Xi of both families, generally speaking, the amount should be auspicious, such as 666 yuan, 888 yuan, etc.
Fruits: Fruits are one of the common gifts when proposing, symbolizing a good life and health. When choosing, you should pay attention to the quality and freshness of fruits, and it is best to choose some seasonal fruits such as apples, oranges, grapes, etc.
Tea: Tea is a traditional Chinese gift that represents respect and taste. You can choose some famous and high-quality teas, such as Longjing, Tieguanyin, etc.
Tobacco and alcohol: If the woman's family has a Xi of smoking and drinking, you can prepare some tobacco and alcohol as gifts. However, it is necessary to pay attention to choosing better quality tobacco and alcohol, so as not to leave a bad impression on the woman's family.
Dress appropriately. The man should dress appropriately and generously when proposing, showing his temperament and cultivation. You can choose a formal suit in dark colors such as black and dark blue. Shoes should also be clean and tidy, and avoid wearing slippers or sneakers. In addition, it is also necessary to pay attention to personal appearance, such as hair, beard, etc., to be neatly groomed.
Manners. The man should pay attention to his speech and demeanor when proposing, and show his sincerity and upbringing. Here are a few things to note:
Polite language: When talking to the woman's parents, pay attention to the use of polite language, such as "excuse me", "thank you", etc. Avoid vulgar language and mantras.
Be humble and courteous: When talking about yourself and your family, be humble and courteous and avoid showing off too much. At the same time, it is necessary to respect the opinions and views of the woman's parents and avoid disputes.
Listen: When talking to the parent, listen carefully to the other person's opinions and needs in order to better understand the other person's expectations and requirements. At the same time, you should also pay attention to the other person's reaction so that you can adjust your words and actions in time.
Prepare to mention cronies.
Bringing a cronie is a way for a man to show his sincerity to the woman's parents, and usually includes the following:
Self-introduction: Introduce your basic information, such as name, age, work, family background, etc.
Expressing sincerity: Express your expectations for the woman's feelings and marriage, as well as your commitment to future family life.
Soliciting opinions: Solicit the opinions and suggestions of the woman's parents, and express their willingness to negotiate with the other party to solve the problem.
Attach a gift: Attach a prepared gift to a close confidant as a sign of goodwill.
In short, the man should be fully prepared when he goes to the woman's house to propose marriage, and show his sincerity and education in terms of time, gifts, clothing, speech and behavior. Only in this way can we win the trust and favor of the woman's parents and lay a good foundation for future married life.
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