After retirement, IReceived three invitations and was thinking about whether to goThe family is a colleague more than ten years ago, his 36-year-old daughter is going to get married, and the parents have been looking forward to it for more than ten years. However, over the years, this colleague's daughter was admitted to college with the ceremony, his parents celebrated their 80th birthday, and later his father died, and then with the ceremony, to be honest, my son got married and invited him once, and he only followed the ceremony once, and now he goes to the ceremony, which is a 1-to-4 relationship, there must be no return, and the pension is not high, and he has been hesitating.
Another colleague from the past, whose child was over 10 years old and was also going to have a banquet, somehow sent me an invitation. To be honest, I didn't have any contact with him in the past, and now that we are both retired, should I go with this gift?It's been contradictory.
I got up in the morning for a walk and talked about it with Brother Zhao next door, and as soon as he mentioned the matter of the ceremony, he was full of complaints. He said that his son got married two months ago and sent 18 invitations to his original unit, but none of his former colleagues came, and the deposit for the two tables of banquets prepared for them was also paid in vain.
He was also a very enthusiastic person in the unit before, no matter who had something to do in the unit, she was on call, wedding banquet, full moon wine, college banquet, housewarming banquet, birthday banquet, wedding and funeral ......
After retirement, we have all experienced a lot of things, and we have a better understanding of human feelings. Many times, when someone sends an invitation, you must think more about whether it is necessary to give a gift. Now that I think about it, these five kinds of etiquette, the old man after retirement should not go with it, otherwiseIt is equivalent to a meat bun beating a dog with no return,If you don't talk about giving away the money, it will add blockage to your heart.
One is a colleague and friend who has not been in touch for a long time, and suddenly comes out to let you follow, don't be polite to such a person!A true friend will keep in touch with you often. People who have no feelings for each other suddenly send invitations, and it is impossible to have contacts in the future. Such a courtesy is also in vain.
The second is that the three views are different, relatives and friends at different levels have less contact with each other, and don't follow the etiquette when there is something. A deputy director of the Price Bureau I met at the Party School had a lot of exchanges during his studies, and I also had three salutes with him when he had something to do with his family. A few years ago, when his son got married, he asked his wife to come to drink the wedding wine, in the past we were 12,000 with us, and his wife only gave us 600 with the gift, less than half of it, and after arriving at the scene, I felt that she was here to give alms, high up, with no one in her eyes. From her cold and arrogant face, I could read her heart.
The third is that the leaders who used to have higher positions than you should not give gifts, but give them away for nothing. After retirement, you have entered your old age, and promotion has nothing to do with you, and it is no longer necessary to think about taking advantage of loopholes and going through the back door to give gifts to the leader to add impression points. However, the leadership shelf is too big, and I don't remember which little minion you are, and the gift is also given for nothing.
Fourth, the banquet is only to collect money, don't follow the ceremony!Some people like to hold banquets every now and then, even if they know that the family holds banquets for gifts, turning gifts into a means of collecting money. In fact, whether you go or don't go, you will feel unhappy, it is better to reduce the loss and simply not go.
Fifth, yesThe scene is not courteousMany people will salute with some scenes for the sake of face, but this is not necessary. If others follow more and you follow less, you will be criticized by others, and the gains outweigh the losses.
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