"It's the same for boys and girls"?Elementary school freshmen are about to become "boys' country", and the ratio of men to women is speechless
The older generation pays attention to "family inheritance", firmly believing that only by giving birth to a boy can they "inherit the incense", and if there is no son in the family, they may even be accused of "losing the family".
With the changes of the times, modern society emphasizes the equality of men and women, and the status of both sides is equal, and there is no concept of who is strong and who is weak. Many parents have become more open-minded, and have also been influenced by gender bias in childhood, and have come to believe that "boys and girls are the same".
Although some say that the preference for sons over women in the Northeast is relatively light, it also depends on which regions are compared. Compared with Shandong, Henan and other places, the gap is obviously smaller. However, with the increase of interpersonal communication and knowledge, parents are gradually "refreshing their cognition".
"It's the same for boys and girls"?However, the ratio of men and women in the classes of elementary school freshmen makes people feel silent, as if they have entered a "boy's country".
In the new era, parents with more advanced education are at the forefront of the times, scoffing at the concept of "inheriting incense" inherited by their elders, and it is difficult to understand why they still adhere to the feudal and old-fashioned concept in this era.
With the implementation of the two-child and three-child policies in the country, many young families have responded. However, with the first batch of "second children" entering primary school, some areas have ushered in a "peak of enrollment", and some even have 43 classes in the first grade of primary school.
When a parent in Guangdong sent his child to school, he found that the whole class was full of boys and not a single girl, which made him feel a little unhappy even with his son.
A parent in Sichuan also felt the same way, her son was in the first grade, but two-thirds of the class were boys, and the number of girls was scarceAt the same time, the teaching staff has gradually become a "daughter country", which is deeply emotional.
Looking back, the sentence "Boys and girls are the same" makes people wonder: why do they say the same verbally, but they all compete to have boys?
It seems that in the wave of second and third children, many people's thoughts still pay more attention to inheriting the family incense, rather than truly practicing the concept of "boys and girls are the same".
Of course, another possibility cannot be ruled out, some parents may think that the process of pregnancy and childbirth is not as simple as imagined, and just the "pain of opening ten fingers" is prohibitive. Even if you want to have a daughter, you may not dare to try it a second time easily, let alone how dangerous the process of having a baby is.
Some netizens bluntly said that women's concept of patriarchy seems to be more serious than men's. In their opinion, if the first child is a boy, there is no need to bother with "fighting for life";On the contrary, if it is a daughter, she will also be under the pressure of "giving birth" by her elders. Therefore, some people think that having a son in the first place saves themselves from making trouble.
Curiously, patriarchal thinking seems to be more prominent among women. Although it is often said that "women should be embarrassed by women", the reality is undeniable that women seem to be good at embarrassing other women. Perhaps in addition to mothers, other women, especially mothers-in-law, are likely to put all kinds of harsh demands on their daughters and daughters-in-law. Of course, if you are lucky, if you meet an open-minded mother-in-law, it is a great luck.
In the more extreme case, some mothers-in-law think that only having a son is worth helping to take care of, and giving birth to a daughter will put it back, always complaining of back pain and arm pain. The fundamental reason for this thinking is the belief that sons can carry on the lineage, and daughters will always marry when they grow up. However, in my opinion, giving birth to a boy or a girl is a kind of "providence" that cannot be forced. Becoming a family is more of a fate, if you force it, the truth of "twisted melons are not sweet" can probably explain everything. Instead of desperately trying to have a boy, it is better to focus on family education, and cultivating children to grow better is the primary goal.
Family education is crucial, and a good family atmosphere can allow children to absorb more "nutrients". However, if parents have extreme concepts, then the child's perception will also be very obvious, which may lead to "gaps" or estrangements in the family. Therefore, young parents need to adjust their three views and educational thinking, pass on more knowledge and truth to their children, take care of their children personally, rather than blindly passing the responsibility on others, and prevent their children from becoming "left-behind children".
If children often use "crying" to restrain parents, how should parents respond?Give comfort and reassurance to calm your child down, then ask the reason when your child is not crying and work together to find a solution to the problem. At the same time, convey the right values and truths, rather than simply blaming and punishing. Parents' emotional stability can also affect their children's mood, so it is important to remain calm in the face of small problems, rather than being impatient and annoyed, so that children do not follow suit.
Final summary: There is a huge "mountain" in everyone's heart, and that is prejudice. Although it is a difficult task to change our minds, we cannot allow the ideas of others to control us, even if we cannot change them. Young parents should be brave enough to stick to their true selves, and should not be swayed by their elders, let alone be bound by feudal ignorance.
Turning to the topic: Do you think there is a difference between having a boy and a girl?
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