As soon as I moved into the big house, my mother-in-law is going to come to live with the elderly, and she is your baby son
When the news came that my mother-in-law was coming to live with us, I felt both relieved and a little complicated.
And what worries me the most is my precious little son.
Now, it is already a busy urban white-collar worker, and the family is able to live in this comfortable big house. My husband and I are successful professionals in the workplace, so we chose this spacious and bright house.
Faced with my mother-in-law's question, I couldn't help but sigh that time has passed. Just a few years ago, we were two young people fighting for our careers and neglecting our responsibilities to accompany our families and take care of our eldersAnd now, all of a sudden, I have to face these responsibilities, and I am really a little unprepared.
At this time, my mother-in-law's good father-in-law broke my thoughts: "Is she talking about Changyi?"He's been very busy lately, so I'll tell him to come and pick up your mother-in-law.
Well, it's him. I nodded, and the glimmer of gratitude in my heart for Chang Sheng made me forget about my worries for a while.
Changyi is my son and the youngest member of our family. He is versatile, helpful and always warm.
When my mother-in-law heard me say this, a trace of doubt flashed in her eyes: "Chang Yi should be at home, right?"Why is he very busy?”
My heart tightened, and I had a sense of foreboding. Sure enough, the mother-in-law then asked, "Didn't he find a new job recently?"Isn't it unstable?”。
How do I answer this question?Although I know in my heart that Chang Yi is a good child, my mother-in-law's attitude at the moment obviously did not give me enough confidence.
And my mother-in-law's next words also made me even more worried.
He did get a new job recently, but he was out of town, so he was away from home. My voice trembled a little, and I knew that my mother-in-law's concern for Tsuneichi was not unreasonable, but the contradictions in my heart also made it difficult for me to calm down.
The mother-in-law was silent for a moment, and her expression was a little solemn: "Work in the field?."How could he have made such a decision?Do you have to rely on outsiders to take care of the housework and life that I need?Can't you do it yourself?”
At first, these words were questioning, but then they carried a hint of reproach and grievance. I know that my mother-in-law was both worried and caring when she said this, but it inevitably made me feel stressed and distressed.
Mom, it's not that we don't want to take care of you, it's the reason for ...... workI wanted to explain, but before I could finish speaking, my mother-in-law interrupted me: "You are always like this, working and working, leaving everything at home behind!".Can't you make some sacrifices for your family?”
I was speechless, I knew that what my mother-in-law said was not unreasonable, but her concern made me feel a little helpless.
The contradictions in front of me entangle my heart and make me a little restless.
My mother-in-law listened to my words, but the worry on her forehead still did not dissipate: "Okay, okay, I understand." She sighed softly, "You have your own life, and I shouldn't embarrass you."
These words made my heart feel relieved, I knew that my mother-in-law was also for our good, but the conflict in the family made me feel that I had no choice.
Just as I was anxious about the impending conflict, I suddenly heard a familiar voice at the door: "Mom, I'm here to pick you up."
Tsuneichi stood in the doorway, with a warm smile on his face, as always. At this moment, I couldn't help but breathe a sigh of relief.
The mother-in-law immediately became happy, as if she had forgotten the anxiety just now.
Grandma, I've topped up this bedroom, I hope you like it. Chang Yi smiled and introduced to his mother-in-law.
The mother-in-law's eyes softened a lot, and she looked at Chang and nodded a little: "Filial child." ”
This scene made me feel relieved, and my mother-in-law's affirmation of my son also made me more confident in my choice to live together this time.
That night, I entered Changyi's bedroom and found a ** from his childhood. Shang is a young child with an innocent smile on his face.
I suddenly felt a sense of kinship. The mother-in-law came, and the child grew up and got windy.
This reminds me of the bits and pieces of my son's childhood, his ignorant smile, his not very sensible willfulness, and his mother-in-law's care and teaching.
This plunged me into deep repentance and nostalgia for the past. My feelings became complicated, and I realized that deep down I had always had regrets about my son's upbringing.
And this regret also made me feel guilty about my mother-in-law. While I am eager to make up for the lack of my son, I feel more guilty about my mother-in-law.
This complex emotion left me helpless. The contradictions in front of me seem to be beyond my ability to deal with.
I'm sorry for myself. In the midst of my mother-in-law's deep doubts and unconcealable disappointment, I tried to reassure her, but to no avail.
At the same time, my son, Tsuneyi, was once again the focus of controversy.
Unconsciously, my mother-in-law began to frequently mention the topic of being old and needing to be taken care of. And the invisible pressure between her words also made me feel exhausted.
And behind all this, my son Tsuneichi's work problem has not been solved. When I contacted him again to inquire about the situation, he avoided the important and claimed that everything was working fine and that there was no need to worry too much.
A few days later, I was cleaning up my mother-in-law's room when I stumbled upon one of Tsuneichi's diaries. After a moment's hesitation, I couldn't help but open the diary.
Seeing this, my feelings are even more complicated. I kept guiding him to find a balance between work and family responsibilities, but I didn't realize the contradiction in his heart.
Soon, Chang Yi came in a hurry. He smiled and greeted his mother-in-law in a kind voice. The doubts in the mother-in-law's eyes seemed to be dissipated, and she bowed her head slightly, looking a little satisfied.
However, in the days that followed, Chang Yi fell into an even greater predicament. His original job was not satisfactory, and his new job was full of uncertainty.
One evening, I was busy preparing dinner for my mother-in-law, and I suddenly walked into the kitchen. His brow furrowed, and he could tell that something was bothering him.
Mom, I need to discuss something important with you. Chang Yi looked a little nervous.
What's the matter?You say it, and your family will support you. I said mildly.
I ......I decided to quit. Chang Yi's voice trembled a little.
For a moment, I was stunned by Changyi's decision. "What's wrong with you?How do you live when you quit your job and don't have your next job?I couldn't help but ask.
The mother-in-law couldn't help but interject, "You are like this now, this is too irresponsible." ”
Chang Yi was silent for a moment, his eyes looked at us firmly, "This resignation is to pursue my true dream, I want to do what I love, I know that I may face many difficulties, but I hope you can understand me."
After listening to Changyi's words, my heart swelled with endless anger and disappointment. This seemingly sensible and caring child, what did I educate him to be?And the mother-in-law did not hide her disappointment, her eyes were full of incomprehension.
Faced with this sudden decision, I felt a sense of uncertainty. The family's expenses are not a small amount, and once you lose your job, the burden on the family is undoubtedly huge.
There are bound to be countless unknowns and challenges on the road ahead, and disputes and conflicts in the family will not be resolved overnight.