Ah Yi said that she will never forget her in her life.
That is Ah Yi's Chinese teacher, and also their homeroom teacher, although Ayi is now in college, she still holds a grudge, yes, she hates her primary school homeroom teacher.
Looking back on it now, she still remembers it vividly.
Once in the evening self-Xi, the teacher asked them to carry things, and after reading once, Ah Yi sat in the first row, and just happened to be stared at, in front of the whole class of 70 students, verbally abusing her, Ah Yi said, she is insulting me.
When it comes to school bullying, many people will immediately think of school bullying, which refers more to physical bullying, but there are also some school bullying that is more hidden and easier to ignore, which is the teacher.
Ten years ago, corporal punishment was still very common, and at that time, many people did not even realize that it was a form of bullying, and the public physical and verbal humiliation of students by teachers would also make this psychological scar take longer, even a lifetime, to heal.
When it comes to corporal punishment, Ah Yi can't forget her math teacher in primary school.
This teacher likes to kick people's knees, and he uses shoes with heels, and that time Ah Yi made a mistake in a question, and this math teacher kicked Ah Yi all the way from under the podium to the last row, and only kicked his knees, in the same place, accurately.
What's more important is that kind of public humiliation, for Ah Yi, is tantamount to a public execution.
In front of the whole class, the teacher asked her to memorize when and when to leave school, the teacher's eyes, Ah Yi will always remember, it was a resentful and dissatisfied look, like a knife.
I asked Ah Yi, if the teacher apologized to you, or even asked you to forgive her with a handful of snot and tears, would you forgive?
Ah Yi said she didn't accept it.
Either don't fix that at the time, or don't regret it later, the matter has already caused a shadow, and it is useless to apologize, and an apology cannot make up for the hurt.
Ah Yi said that I would rather it haunt me, and I could not forgive her.
And our original sin is bad grades, bad grades are guilty, at that time I did a math problem, the grades were quite good, but the teacher turned his head and asked me who copied it, I just don't learn, and I'm not stupid and can't do anything. Ah Yi said.
The problem of school bullying sometimes comes from students, sometimes it also comes from teachers, just like the words of all parents in the world, teachers also have good intentions, and I am also good for you.
However, under Xi the premise that academic performance is a necessary factor, teachers themselves may discriminate against or even dislike children with poor grades.
Although this phenomenon has improved a lot today, a new problem is emerging, and that is the pressure on students themselves, especially from academics.
In Japan, the number of suicides among teenagers is at an all-time high, and school bullying remains a serious problem.
According to statistics released by the World Health Organization, Japan has one of the highest suicide rates in 2015, and if you expand the cause of death statistics of the population aged 15-34 in Japan, the most common suicide is higher than accidents and cancer.
Koichi Matsubayashi, Japan's Ministry of Education, once said, "We very much want to reduce the tragedy of suicide, but the reality is that hundreds of children still commit suicide every year." It is important for children to know how to get help, and when they are in a stage of suffering, it can be difficult to reach out. It's like being in a tunnel, once the light at the end gets weaker and weaker, it will eventually fade away and lead to death. ”
In 2017, Japan promulgated the "Comprehensive Suicide Countermeasures", which mentions that suicide is not just a single act, but also needs to trace the structural factors that cause suicide.
When bullying occurs, a good coping mechanism in the school may save a life, but instead plunge a student into the abyss of despair.
In October 2016, a 14-year-old female student at Kobe City Junior High School in Hyogo Prefecture committed suicide after seeking help from the school before committing suicide.
However, at that time, the school did not deal with it immediately. After that, the schoolgirl committed suicide.
Just last year, Japan had nearly 220,000 people committed suicide, including 514 suicides among elementary, junior high and high school students, once again hitting a record high.
Looking at the number of full-time students who commit suicide in Japan, school problems such as school bullying still account for a large proportion.
And these are also worthy of our attention.
In terms of the education system, we are very similar to Japan, advocating collective consciousness, which naturally blurs the feelings of individuals, and we may still have a certain gap with Japan in terms of the mechanism for preventing school bullying in schools.
In addition, our overemphasis on academic qualifications and test-oriented education may also lead to a higher probability of school bullying.
Japanese society, as a management society, especially the collective nature of the school, may make children depressed, and after being bullied by the school, they will not be able to seek help due to other circumstances, and eventually die.
The suicide rate in Japan was 18 in 20165 (number of suicides per 100,000 people), ranking 14th in the world, with the highest being Lithuania 319, followed by Russia 31, which we are familiar with, and South Korea with 269 is in fourth place.
According to the latest statistics, the suicide rate among adolescents aged 15-24 in China has also hit a new high in the past three years, at 10 per 100,000 peopleSeven people committed suicide, among which cyberbullying and school bullying are one of the leading causes of teen suicide.
And we will also see a lot of similar news, such as a 14-year-old boy in Wuhan who committed suicide by jumping off a building in anger after being slapped in public by his mother.
Today, with the continuous development of the economy, the personality and self-esteem of teenagers are also growing steadily, and many people find it difficult to understand, but they are just being slapped in public, but for the person concerned, this slap may be slapped, and what is lost is already personality and dignity.
As mentioned at the beginning of this article, being insulted, verbally and physically attacked by the teacher in public may not be a big physical blow, but the spiritual insult, this shadow may accompany you for a lifetime.
In fact, the reason why it is said that in school bullying, once the teacher's unconscious behavior causes harm to students, the consequences will be greater than that of students, and the root cause is that the role played by teachers in the campus is biased towards authority.
Furthermore, it can even lead to exclusion and isolation from other students, which will also lead to a greater change in the student's mentality, such as becoming more bored with school, more introverted and more lonely.
It also reminds me of my primary school homeroom teacher.
He often likes to put a handful of wires in his jacket, and every time he wants to hit someone, he takes the wire out of the jacket, spreads it out, and hits the student's palm.
This kind of behavior is more inclined to the old-fashioned teaching gentleman of the past, old-fashioned and meticulous.
Not only that, but this head teacher also likes to let students kneel, kneel on the podium in public, although I have never knelt, but now that I think about it, I still can't forget the influence of this class teacher on a person, among which kneeling, even for a student, this kind of blow is very big.
In order for the school to truly return to the original intention of acquiring knowledge, rather than becoming a paradise for bullies, today's teachers have undergone a great transformation, and corporal punishment has almost disappeared, which shows that we have a lot of room for improvement in the transformation of education.
However, when it comes to student bullying, this phenomenon is still deeply rooted, and similarly, there are also incomprehension from parents and disguised insults and corporal punishment.
In order to completely eliminate the bullying environment, it is not only necessary for each of us to be empathetic, but also to improve a bullying prevention mechanism to help those who are being bullied.
In this regard, there is still much more that can be done.
end.Author: Luo sir, the workplace reference of the new youth. Concerned about the logic behind the development of things, optimistic pessimists. Follow me and grind the knowledge to you.
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