I accompanied my child to write homework for two years, I couldn't stand it, I went to ask my teacher, a graduate of Zhejiang University, served as a class teacher in Hangzhou key primary school for 20 years, and took many students (many children will go back to thank him after graduation). He said, do you know what the underlying logic is for accompanying your child to do homework?
"Tutoring homework is not for supervision and inspection, but to pay attention to the child's psychology at all times. ”
This sentence amazed me at the time!I've been staring at him for the purpose.,I can't help but help him assign tasks.,The child is just a "worker" who writes homework!
Since I got to the bottom logic of tutoring homework, my child will no longer write homework at night!The amazing thing is that the attitude of learning Xi is like a hanging, from grinding, this will not and that, to loving learning Xi and consciously writing homework. It turns out that my scumbag son also has the drive to learn self-Xi!Like me, don't give up, try the way I say.
The correct way to open the homework with your child
1 First of all, we need to be clear: what is it to accompany children to do their homework?Accompany the child to do homework, accompany the child?Or is it homework?
Companionship is not staring at him, nor is it a solid child's every move, let alone "roaring" at any time
Our companionship is to play a role of supervision and promotion!
Help children develop the ability to learn Xi independently and the good Xi to complete homework independently!
Otherwise, children will have a dependency mentality, which will affect the child's ability to learn Xi independently, and cannot test the effect of learning Xi, which will reduce the child's enthusiasm and self-confidence in learning Xi over time.
Secondly: the highest level of accompanying your child to do homework is that you can not be present
For younger children, parents can read books and knit sweaters to do some of their own things in a place not far away, creating a focused atmosphere for children.
But it's best not to play with your phone, because the child will feel very unfair.
As the child gets older, it is time for parents to get out of the room where their child is Xi. Children should form self-discipline and form an internalized self-monitoring mechanism to complete their homework on time and with quality and quantity, rather than coping with teachers or parents. This is the highest level of accompanying children to do their homework.
If you understand this underlying logic, you can use :
A doctor's mother pointed out: "five-step method" to accompany the baby to write homework, do not yell or scream, communicate with the baby sensibly, and insist on harvesting a self-driving baby in a month.
These giant and giant useful universal words, when the child is doing his homework, tell him, more effective than yellingFold.
When he doesn't want to do his homework, tell him: this is normal, Mom and Dad don't want to go to work occasionally, but because of responsibility, and in order to become a better version of themselves, so they have to find fun in it;
When he feels that there is a lot of homework, tell him the specific ways to improve the efficiency of writing homework: Xi before class, listen carefully in class, and Xi before writing homework after school, so as to ensure that you will be able to write faster. Otherwise, it will be a waste of time to spend time looking up information and thinking about it for a long time. When he is always procrastinating, accompany him to feel: when procrastinating, all that is wasted is the time required to play, so it is better to finish writing quickly, have more time to play and have fun;
When he can't, tell him: it is normal to not know, and it is precisely because he can't that he has to learn Xi;
When he retreats when he encounters a problem, tell him: This is an opportunity to challenge himself, just like climbing a mountain, every problem is a step to achieve us;
In general, tutoring a child to write homework is not only to supervise him, nor only to correct his mistakes, but to guide him into the track of learning Xi in the next ten years, Xi the state of habit and Xi, understand the importance of listening carefully to the class, and master the specific methods of learning Xi (if you still don't know how to start, you can use the efficient homework I used for my son, including efficient homeworkFootwork [memorize and prepare for checking], daily Xi schedule, pomodoro time management homework sheet, language and English error book, Peking University science master three brush wrong question method, family points reward table, etc.).
Let the children learn to arrange their own time after school, my child uses a month better than the past 2 years, although it will also be rubbing, but it will be completed at the specified time (before 9 o'clock), sometimes in advance.