Guo Qilin's sorrow People know Guo Degang's brilliance, but they don't understand Guo Qilin's preciousnessGuo Qilin, the eldest young master of Deyun Club, is always compared with his father Guo Degang. But you know what?He also has precious qualities that are not well known. Next, let's walk into the world of Guo Qilin.
Guo Qilin, this name is like a star, shining in everyone's hearts, but it is often closely associated with Guo Degang's name. He is the famous residence of Deyun Club, every time he appears on the stage, it is like a bright moon rising, sprinkling dazzling light, lighting up the smiles of countless people. However, the Kirin always seems to be in the shadow of his father's light, and his own brilliance is dwarfed. His value and preciousness seem to be submerged in people's fanatical pursuit of Degang, which is a tragedy that is not noticed and tasted.
This gap is like a tragic picture like a picture scroll, Qilin stands alone in front of the screen, his light is projected on the long stage by his father's brilliance. Against the backdrop of this light, his value is like a flower that blooms silently, but few people pay attention. It is a tragedy that is overlooked, a silent watchful mind, eclipsed by the revelry of people.
Zhang Songwen took phalaenopsis as an example and emphasized that you should not take care of it too carefully. He points out that plants don't die just because of lack of water, and sometimes overwatering can lead to drowning. The same is true for children. Some parents are overly concerned about their children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, and impose strict rules on small mistakes. This extreme attitude can easily make children grow up lacking basic life skills, just like what happened to prodigy Wei Yongkang. He completed junior high school at the age of 4 and was admitted to the Chinese Academy of Sciences at the age of 17. However, excessive spoiling led him to be dissuaded from school when he was about to earn his master's degree.
When Wei Yongkang was in high school, he needed to be fed by his mother, he wore short sleeves in summer in winter, his dormitory was never cleaned, and he didn't even know how to prepare for the final exam. In the end, because love is over-amplified, it is like overflowing water in a phalaenopsis pot, and finally destroys a child.
On the other hand, some parents have gone to the other extreme and become overly strict "wolf fathers". For example, Guo Degang's habit of treating Guo Qilin is too strict, which may leave a psychological shadow on the child. When he was a child, Guo Qilin didn't like to eat vegetables but only meat, Guo Degang drove Guo Qilin to eat at the stairs in front of everyone, and he was not allowed to sit at the dining table. This practice has caused a huge psychological shadow for Guo Qilin, and even if he can understand his father's intentions when he grows up, he still feels afraid. The apprentice of the father, who is surrounded by brothers like friends, why can't the father think about the face of the child?
Speaking of Guo Degang's re-establishment of a family, no matter how good Wang Hui is, for children, it always feels a little alienated. Especially for those sensitive children, there may be a subtle confusion in the depths of their hearts, and Guo Degang's decision undoubtedly adds more inner waves to the children.
Guo Degang firmly believes that children should be taught well in the family, and only in this way can children avoid suffering losses in the vast turmoil of society in the process of growing up. Although this is true, it is necessary to consider the diversity of the family environment. In a normal family, how the biological parents teach, the child may quickly forget after crying. However, for the children of divorced and re-formed families, public criticism is often a taboo, and many children's inner confusion cannot be clearly answered. They are afraid to ask questions in front of their stern father, let alone express their inner doubts in front of their stepmother, and they are worried that she will worry about themselves when they ask their biological mother.
If these small doubts can be relieved in time, perhaps the child will soon be able to return to normal. However, without timely guidance, these problems will continue to accumulate in the child's mind, become more and more distorted, and may eventually lead to profound problems. Fortunately, Guo Qilin is an excellent seedling, and although he grew up in a divorced and restructured family, he has not been affected too negatively. Yue Yunpeng once said frankly that if Guo Qilin was not so good, the life of a large group of their apprentices in the ** family might lack that beauty.
Ni Hongjie was full of praise for Guo Qilin, saying that he was humble and polite, calm and unhurried, and hoped that his future road would be more and more brilliant. When Ni Hongjie said this, her eyes were full of envy for Guo Degang having such an outstanding son.
Therefore, the praise of describing "giving birth to a child should be like Guo Qilin" is by no means empty, and the profundity of this sentence lies in the unique education method he demonstrates. However, Kwok has revealed that his father's educational methods have worked for him, but not necessarily for other children. Guo Qilin's upbringing can be described as unique, like a carefully carved picture, and the subtleties are intoxicating.
Such a child, like a rare treasure, is magical and rare. Prodigies may go to extremes, so it is important not to go to extremes when raising children. Guo Qilin's example shows us that every child is a unique individual who needs to be cared for, not rigid.