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The mother-in-law is too clingy to her husband, and she has to beat *** every day A woman in Hangzhou filed for divorce.
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In just 23 words, it touched everyone's emotions!
The woman filed for divorce first, she said that her mother-in-law was more clingy to her husband, and when she helped take care of the children at home a few years ago, she would often be coquettish in front of her husband. Now that I'm back in my hometown, I still call my husband every day, and I will call at any time. Sometimes they eat out, sometimes they just **....This relationship is so good that she is jealous, she thinks that her husband can't tell who is his real wife.
The husband thinks that his wife is too small-minded and not filial enough. He said that his father left early, and it was not easy for his mother to train herself until she graduated from college, and now she is alone in her hometown, so if you miss them, you can make a **, what's the big deal.
The marriage and family counselor first asked them to empathize, then gave one-on-one counseling, and finally gave advice: in front of his wife, let Li Gang and his mother maintain a sense of boundaries. At the same time, she also analyzed the reason behind it, Li Gang's mother is attached to her son and is also attached to her grandson, she suggested that Wang Fang give her mother-in-law more ** shh
The netizen comment area is simply going to "fight":
One faction said:
My dad and I also fight ** every day, but fortunately my husband is not as careful as you. When you get married, you don't even have the freedom to fight with your parents?Speechless dead".
It's all a child's fault, the child grows up, the mother is old, at this time the mother is like a child, she also needs warmth, love, she not only needs the love of her husband, but also needs the love of the child, long live understanding, everyone has an old day, walk slowly and see what you are like when you are old".
If a man is not good to his parents, he still expects to be good to you!Can't you be good to your parents if you find a wife!”
Why do you have to have a sense of boundary with your parents when you get married?What is a sense of boundary?Crossing the line every day?”
Now there are too many people, and the concern has become no sense of boundary, a widowed mother and her son want to divorce, can only say that the daughter-in-law is not good-hearted, the family education is not good, and she is selfish and ......”
The other faction said:
The old man is empty, all his thoughts and feelings are counting on his son, my husband is three times a day in the morning, noon and evening, please be safe, more on weekends, overtime is not played, the old man is anxious to sleep, like a couple in love, just chat about some homely things, I am busy with the child and have no time to fight, she is still angry, she doesn't ask when my child is sick. ”
As a mother of two sons, I think that when my children grow up, they will have to master the proportions!The mother herself has to slowly adapt to the fact that her son grows up!”
There are many kinds of love for my son, but spoiled every day**, this should be something that lovers will do!You can tell jokes to your son, talk about family life, ** can be 2 a week3 times at most, find the right time, let's see grandchildren, daughter-in-law or something!That's good!”
Obviously, the mother-in-law has no boundary line, and the husband does not act, why let the woman communicate more with her mother-in-law, contact feelings, and mud. ”
Some netizens also appeared to say:
I have a neighbor in front of me, who is a son, and when he was a teenager, the man was gone. The sons and uncles took money together to help raise them, and the children also graduated from college and were directly policemen, and her mother was like that, calling her son ** while the child was resting, and sometimes she called her home to cheat her wife to work overtime. When she got married, she said that she didn't have much money to give a little bride price, and in the second year after getting married, her mother-in-law spent tens of thousands of dollars to buy a mink to wear, and her son said damn, it's okay to buy it in a few years. ”
My mother-in-law taught my husband that my brothers and sisters are not the same heart, let alone my wife, only my mother and son have no two hearts, I am speechless, and I don't want to say anything now."
Single-parent families with their eldest sons should be cautious, most of them will have strange things, and you will know if you marry in. In the 80s, my aunt agreed to marry the widow's son despite my grandmother's dissuasion, and all kinds of things were simply unspeakable, and my aunt insisted on suing for divorce until my cousin went to kindergarten. This is the first divorce among our murakami and relatives, and under the introduction of relatives and friends, I remarried my new uncle who got married for the first time, don't live too well!”
It turned out that there was the same model, I thought it was only my family, every day the mobile phone holder was fixed, and then began to play games while **, sometimes I feel like sitting next to him like a little three......”
After all, it is still a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship?
In fact, it is more accurate to say that the "triangular relationship" between mother-in-law, son, and daughter-in-law, we always say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as if there are only two people in this insoluble contradiction through the ages, but now we are more and more clear: it is three people, and that son is crucial!
If the son understands that "husband and wife are one", the relationship between husband and wife is the core of the family, it is the first, and he stands with his wife and maintains a sense of boundary with his mother, then the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is always just a small friction.
Relevant studies show that 47% of divorced couples in Chinese divorce are caused by the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. To be more precise, it was caused by his son's inaction, even confusion and incompetence, and he couldn't handle his previous relationship with his wife and mother!
Some people will say that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are contradictory, and it is difficult for the son to be caught in the middle!It seems that this son is so wronged, but in fact, he should not be embarrassed, but should be an act, to sort out the relationship, to show his attitude, and to mediate the contradiction if it can be mediated, but there is really no way, so he will isolate himself with a distance, and live his life with his wife first, and slowly it will not be a problem.
Tell me about a snail mom who was quite shocked:
88-year-old snail mother, in the third year of high school, listened to the female classmates in the class, at that time the preparation for the exam was nervous, the school cafeteria was rebuilt, and at noon I bought food and came back to the classroom to eat, and after eating, I lay on the table for a while and continued to class. At noon that day, I don't know who talked about grandma first, but Mother Snail didn't participate in that discussion, just a listener.
A female classmate with a lively personality said: "A few years ago, my grandmother and my mother fought, my dad kicked my milk twice, she never dared to find my mother again, she has always been partial to my uncle's family, and I want to **, my father is not used to her!."”
It's been 16 years, and the snail mom still clearly remembers that noon, the sun spilled into the classroom, and we in school uniforms seemed to have watched a "cool drama", the classmate's dad really shocked me, of course, the violence is definitely wrong, no matter what, you can't hit your mom, what we are surprised and eager for is her father's attitude!
My mother was once beaten and scolded by my grandmother and walked to the river, trying to jump in and end her life, and at that time, I realized that there was still a father, and that father could play a powerful role!
I think what every child hopes for most is the love of their parents, when their mother has conflicts with anyone, their father can stand by their mother's side and protect their mother, even if this person is their father's mother!
The snail mother was pleasantly surprised to find that some marriage registration offices now conduct marriage counseling
After getting married, when there is a conflict between your mother and your wife, you know that your wife is at fault, what will you do?”
Most grooms-to-be will choose, "Who will help me?" ”
The marriage and family counsellor rejected this practice, saying: "After marriage, the husband and wife are one, and they should maintain a proper sense of boundary with their parents. ”
She thinks the right solution is to take care of her wife's emotions at the moment, and then communicate with her privately about the rights and wrongs of things. Explain to your mother afterwards or apologize when you figure it out.
I really hope that this kind of premarital counseling can be popularized, so that young people who enter marriage can truly enjoy the warmth brought by marriage and family, instead of endless family wars.
Especially for those women who have the courage to enter into marriage, don't let them be disappointed in their marriage, and don't let innocent children experience family changes.
The greatest compassion is this, after all, every mother is good, every child will be good, every family is good, everyone will be good.
I am a snail mother, may the text warm your heart, welcome to follow me.