A friend said that when she was having dinner with her child in the evening, the child suddenly stopped her and said, "Mom, today in the classroom, I accidentally knocked Xiaomi's lunch box on the ground when I was playing with Xiaoyu." ”
My friend thought to herself: Oh, this is going to break her fortune again. But fortunately, a lunch box will not be too expensive, and the child is also very active, and he took the initiative to explain to her without waiting for other parents to come to her. She was quite relieved and continued to listen to the child without interjecting.
The child said: "At that time, we picked up the lunch box and checked it, and found that the back buckle of the lunch box lid was broken, and it could still be used, but Xiaomi said that I should compensate in full, but I don't think it should be." ”
My friend thought to himself: Although this child is not big, he also knows how to protect his own rights and interests, and knows that this is a responsibility that needs to be shared together. The friend approvingly asked the child, "Why?"”
The child replied: "Of course we should not compensate in full, although we broke the back buckle of the lid of the lunch box, but the lunch box is not unusable." Why did he let me compensate me in full, he didn't keep his own lunch box in his seat, isn't he responsible for himself?”
My friend instantly felt that this style of painting was wrong, and the child didn't mean that the responsibility should be borne by him and Xiaoyu, nor because he felt that it was unfair to just drop a part but pay full compensation. Instead, he thinks that Xiaomi himself did not take care of his lunch box in his seat, so he feels that he should not bear it in full.
My friend was shocked by this reason, isn't this purely a fallacy?What is the difference between this kind of thinking and the splashy scoundrels who are splashing and rolling on the street?She immediately corrected the child: "There is something wrong with your thinking. ”
The child was anxious: "*Something?".Why did he ask me to compensate in full, he was already responsible!His face was full of unconvinced.
My friend was an impatient person, and he said in an unkind tone, "Your thinking is just wrong." Judging by your words, it should be that both you and Xiaomi are responsible, and if you think so, I will think there is no problem. But think about it, if you put a hundred dollars in your seat and someone else takes it for you, and then you find him. He told you that I could only pay you back ninety dollars, because you didn't keep the money yourself. Do you think that's right?Would you like to?”
The child actually stiffened his neck and said, "Yes!."”
The friend gave the child a disappointed look, afraid that he could not hold back his anger and ignored him. The child realized that she was really angry, and reluctantly said, "Yes, yes, it's all my fault, okay?"”
The friend was angry and helpless, knowing that the child's admission of mistakes was unwilling, she still put the mobile phone in front of the child and said: "If you really realize your mistake, you can add the WeChat of Xiaomi's parents to the class group, inform them of the specific situation, and ask them how to compensate?".”
The child looked at the phone and thought about it for a long time, and the anger that his friend had just raised went down. The friend said to the child, "You know what?In fact, when you told me that you broke the rice box, I was not angry at all, but I was very happy that you were willing to take the initiative to tell me about it. What makes me angry is that in the end you said that Xiaomi did not fulfill his custodial duty in his seat, which is a shameful rogue capacity. ”
The friend looked at the child, and then said: "Although you only broke one part, because this damaged part has an impact on the overall use, Xiaoyu has no problem asking for full compensation." If you tell him well, he is willing not to care about it, it is his affection for his classmates, and it is also his duty that he has to care. You should actually learn from him to Xi to protect what belongs to you, of course, whether you want to choose love or duty is your right. ”
The child said indignantly, "I won't learn from him!"He asked me to compensate me in full, but I was unwilling, and he quietly went to Xiaoyu to ask for full compensation. He also told Xiaoyu to charge him five yuan less, so that he would tell his parents that the lunch box was broken by himself, and then no one would go to Xiaoyu's parents. I heard it clearly next to me, he wanted to make money on both sides, and I felt that he should be responsible for this kind of behavior, so I would not tolerate his behavior. ”
The friend seemed to realize why the child took the initiative to confess to her, where his crooked reasoning came from, and said to the child seriously: "Thank you for telling me this, and I am also very happy that you did not take your money behind your parents' back to solve it quietly." You are a child of integrity, but you have to maintain your integrity in the right way, you know?I'll take care of it, and then I'll tell you about the process and the results. ”
So far, the dispute between the friend, mother and son has been reconciled.